Wife is losing the checkbook tonight...

[route66]

This makes my current arguments with my wife over curtains and blinds seem insignificant.

Hang in there OP!

 

[Pliablemoose]

Originally posted by: Perknose

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose

Originally posted by: Perknose

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Holy crap

I've been dating a bit since I've been seperated (should be divorced by the end of the month), and I have yet to come across anyone that's even remotely what I would consider financially responsible.

The ones that really kill me are the divorcees who got divorced because of $ issues & they're even more fvcked since the divorce.

"I had some retirement saved up, but I had to withdraw it because I needed the $."
finan
ARRRGGGHHH...

Like woman who keenly care about their financial security are going to go for a twice divorced male nurse that's worth a > 1/4 million, has 2 jobs, no CC debit , and no car loans. :roll:

Fixed that for you...

Man who pissed in your cereal this morning?

Hey, 'Moose, cool that you have your financial house in order, but if you marry for anything else but love, the one thing you're sure not to get is just that. When I first met my late wife Jessie she was coming out of bankruptcy. I didn't give one good goddamn. She is the only woman I ever asked to marry me, and it was the best decision I ever made in my life.

I wish to believe you're a wiser man than the tenor of your recent posts bitching wholly about the finances of women you meet. You get only and ever what you look for. Basic karma. :thumbsup:

Perknose, the #1 reason people get divorced & or fight about is $, I'm glad you found love, but I've bailed 2 wives out of debit, and I'm just being picky, because I can be picky.

Love is a biochemical reaction, built into us so we make babies.

 

[Ausm]

Originally posted by: DurocShark

Originally posted by: paulney
Geez. I didn't realize people still use checkbooks for shopping.

Are you kidding? Here in CO you can buy gas or dinner in a restaurant with a check still! :shocked:

Visa Debit card tied to the checking account

/Thread


Ausm

 

[Legend]

60k a year? In colorado?

You should be able to live within your means and invest about 15k/year. For both of you.

If you lived alone, nearly 30k.

 

[Perknose]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: Perknose
Great to see the first few flickers of synapses in action in what passes for your brain, redundant nickname boy. This is far from the first post where the main thing 'Moose has complained about in woman he might be interested in is the state of their finances.

I was just pointing out the other end of that stick to him, slappy.

Might have been a bit too subtle for you, eh? Whooooooosh!

Maybe you should consider a yardstick for relationships that doesn't have "$" as the units of measure.

I'm not saying he shouldn't avoid those who are financially irresponsible, but from the gibberish you're spouting that would leave him alone, since "woman who keenly care about their financial security are (not) going to go for a twice divorced male nurse"

- M4H

You STILL don't get it, do you? I never thought of you as a mental midget, but keep missing the broad sign of the barn and I'm willing to reconsider.

You got it right Bassackwards, bub. Lemme' break it down for you.

1. 'Moose shortsightedly complains first and foremost about possible date's finances.

2. I point out to him that that mean spirited, love limiting thinking can cut both ways.

3. This somehow proves too subtle for you, sparky.

Whoooooooosh! :roll:

 

[Ausm]

Originally posted by: Legend
60k a year? In colorado?

You should be able to live within your means and invest about 15k/year. For both of you.

If you lived alone, nearly 30k.

I agree alone but with kids thta is a different story. For Example if he has bad health insurance any "extra" money he might have would drained by outrageous healthcare costs.


Ausm

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Perknose
You STILL don't get it, do you? I never thought of you as a mental midget, but keep missing the broad sign of the barn and I'm willing to reconsider.

You got it right Bassackwards, bub. Lemme' break it down for you.

1. 'Moose shortsightedly complains first and foremost about possible date's finances.

2. I point out to him that that mean spirited, love limiting thinking can cut both ways.

3. This somehow proves too subtle for you, sparky.

Whoooooooosh! :roll:

Unless I'm missing something mystical in his posting, he's looking for love, but isn't willing to paint himself into a corner and wind up in a situation similar to the OP. See also his qualifiers regarding "Fat" and "Ugly". I'm sure that "cuts both ways" too - I don't like whales, so I don't get to take home a girl three times my girth with the face like Chewbacca. Damn, I'm really broken up over that.

And I'd hardly call "looking for a woman who won't destroy you financially" mean-spirited. But hey, sometimes you don't find those until after they take your house, car, possessions, and run off with the UPS guy.

- M4H

 

[Perknose]

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Perknose, the #1 reason people get divorced & or fight about is $, I'm glad you found love, but I've bailed 2 wives out of debit, and I'm just being picky, because I can be picky.

Love is a biochemical reaction, built into us so we make babies.

Yeah, ok, I hear that 'Moose, but don't let past bitterness limit your horizons in the most important life decision you'll ever make.

And LOVE is the transcendant state of togetherness we have all yearned for since the moment we were ripped untimely from our Mother's teat. Precisely because it is elusive is the reason it's the greatest of human riches. Don't miss the forest for the trees.

Mature, enduring love, like freedom, requires vigilance, courage and committment. Jessie was also my best damn friend on the planet, you know? 'Moose, material security is a reasonable goal, but find someone you truly love and who truly loves you, no matter her present circumstances, and proceed to build that together.

I love fine things, but have found that most of the thrill has been in the getting, not the having. Heart is the key to happiness. Don't ever settle for less by taking your eye off the ball. Life is short, and we're a long time dead.

 

[Pliablemoose]

Originally posted by: Perknose

You STILL don't get it, do you? I never thought of you as a mental midget, but keep missing the broad sign of the barn and I'm willing to reconsider.

You got it right Bassackwards, bub. Lemme' break it down for you.

1. 'Moose shortsightedly complains first and foremost about possible date's finances.

2. I point out to him that that mean spirited, love limiting thinking can cut both ways.

3. This somehow proves too subtle for you, sparky.

Whoooooooosh! :roll:
[/quote]

So my karma is fvcked if I exclude women that are so irresponsible as to not be their freaking annual salary in debit?

How is that mean spirited? It's common sense.

Some simple math, if a woman is in her 40's, has worked for ~20 years at an annual salary of ~$35k, that's nearly a 3/4's of million dollars she's blown through & has nothing to show for it? And no retirement savings?

Then factor in the salary of the guy she's been married to?

 

[Perknose]

I believe I've said my piece, I'll say no more, just leave you with these:


"There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved."
~ George Sand

"My most brilliant achievement was my ability to be able to persuade my wife to marry me."
~ Winston Churchill

"And in the end, the love you take, is equal to the love you make."
~Beatles

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Perknose

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Perknose, the #1 reason people get divorced & or fight about is $, I'm glad you found love, but I've bailed 2 wives out of debit, and I'm just being picky, because I can be picky.

Love is a biochemical reaction, built into us so we make babies.

Yeah, ok, I hear that 'Moose, but don't let past bitterness limit your horizons in the most important life decision you'll ever make.

And LOVE is the transcendant state of togetherness we have all yearned for since the moment we were ripped untimely from our Mother's teat. Precisely because it is elusive is the reason it's the greatest of human riches. Don't miss the forest for the trees.

Mature, enduring love, like freedom, requires vigilance, courage and committment. Jessie was also my best damn friend on the planet, you know? 'Moose, material security is a reasonable goal, but find someone you truly love and who truly loves you, no matter her present circumstances, and proceed to build that together.

I love fine things, but have found that most of the thrill has been in the getting, not the having. Heart is the key to happiness. Don't ever settle for less by taking your eye off the ball. Life is short, and we're a long time dead.

Amen !

Btw, keep in mind Dave, that this applause comes from one of those women that wouldn't get thru Moose's security clearance

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Perknose
I believe I've said my piece, I'll say no more, just leave you with these:


"There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved."
~ George Sand

"My most brilliant achievement was my ability to be able to persuade my wife to marry me."
~ Winston Churchill

"And in the end, the love you take, is equal to the love you make."
~Beatles

"If you're havin' girl problems, I feel bad for you son.
I got 99 problems but a bitch ain't one."
~ Jay-Z

- M4H

 

[SmoochyTX]

Originally posted by: DurocShark
I knew we were hurting financially (supporting family of 4 on one salary is hard), but this I was unaware of:

Date Posted Description Amount
12/1/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/29/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/29/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/29/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/29/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/28/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/28/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/28/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/25/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/23/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/22/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/22/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/22/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/18/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/17/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/16/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/15/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/15/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/15/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/15/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/14/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/14/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/10/2005 *OVERDRAFT CHARGE -29
11/10/2005 *OVERDRAFT CHARGE -29
11/10/2005 *OVERDRAFT CHARGE -29
11/9/2005 *OVERDRAFT CHARGE -29
11/9/2005 *OVERDRAFT CHARGE -29
11/9/2005 *OVERDRAFT CHARGE -29
11/9/2005 *OVERDRAFT CHARGE -29
11/9/2005 *OVERDRAFT CHARGE -29
11/3/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/3/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/2/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/2/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/2/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/2/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
11/1/2005 *OVERDRAFT CHARGE -29
11/1/2005 *NON SUFFICIENT FUNDS CHARGE -29
TOTAL -1102

:shocked:

 

[Pliablemoose]

GB & Perknose I hear what you're saying, believe me...

Honestly what it comes down to is this:

1.) Bail another woman/spouse out of debit
2.) Help my daughter through college

By deciding to choose option #2, option # 1 is off the table, and if that means staying single, then so be it. My obligation is first & formost to my daughter, not to some woman who can't make the payments on her Lexus.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
GB & Perknose I hear what you're saying, believe me...

Honestly what it comes down to is this:

1.) Bail another woman/spouse out of debit
2.) Help my daughter through college

By deciding to choose option #2, option # 1 is off the table, and if that means staying single, then so be it. My obligation is first & formost to my daughter, not to some woman who can't make the payments on her Lexus.

well moose, there's a few ways of looking at it... I chose to see it as I stepped to the plate and single handedly did a parenting job that was taken on by two people. If a guy is going to walk on by me now because I don't have enough money to suit him oh well, too bad too sad.

 

[brigden]

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: Chaotic42
No offense, and maybe I sound like an ass, but that would seriously make me consider a divorce. I cannot believe that anyone could be so irresponsible and stupid with their money.

There is no question in my mind. My first call in the morning would be to a divorce attorney. Women bad with money are like drug addicts in that very few ever shrug off their sickness. I will only suffer the consequences of someone else's bad decisions/actions once. In fact. if those are cash withdrawals with a check card she might just have BOTH addictions.

Bullshit.

Anyone who says they would divorce their wife if they made a similar discovery is full of ******. None of you are that cold and your ridiculous statements lead me to believe you're extremely immature.

 

[Perknose]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
"If you're havin' girl problems, I feel bad for you son.
I got 99 problems but a bitch ain't one."
~ Jay-Z

- M4H

^^Portrait of a Loser in Denial.

If a 'bitch' is your answer to your 'girl problems', you've either got dogsh1t on your dick or you're just another loudmouth loser in denial.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
GB & Perknose I hear what you're saying, believe me...

Honestly what it comes down to is this:

1.) Bail another woman/spouse out of debit
2.) Help my daughter through college

By deciding to choose option #2, option # 1 is off the table, and if that means staying single, then so be it. My obligation is first & formost to my daughter, not to some woman who can't make the payments on her Lexus.

well moose, there's a few ways of looking at it... I chose to see it as I stepped to the plate and single handedly did a parenting job that was taken on by two people. If a guy is going to walk on by me now because I don't have enough money to suit him oh well, too bad too sad.

It's not "Don't have enough money" as much as "Doesn't know how to handle money."

Someone can be poor but still financially responsible.

- M4H

 

[Perknose]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Amen !

Btw, keep in mind Dave, that this applause comes from one of those women that wouldn't get thru Moose's security clearance

Said the curvaceous systems admin with the smart stud of a husband. :laugh::thumbsup:

Jean, you are a constant reminder to me that the Irish got soul!

 

[brigden]

I think the bigger issue is that most of you guys are passive aggressive and attract women that find it easy to walk over you. Face it, most of you aren't in control of jackshit from the minute you start a relationship.

The hundreds of threads I've read regarding relationships lead me to believe this is true.

 

[slippy4twenty]

hah, after I did $280 in overdrafts one weekend buying ****** at gas stations (coffee/cigs). I gave almost all my plastic to my g/f. Plus I got out of a commission job and into a flat rate one. It's making life easier but I'll be damned if she can't handle money better that I can.

 

[Pliablemoose]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
GB & Perknose I hear what you're saying, believe me...

Honestly what it comes down to is this:

1.) Bail another woman/spouse out of debit
2.) Help my daughter through college

By deciding to choose option #2, option # 1 is off the table, and if that means staying single, then so be it. My obligation is first & formost to my daughter, not to some woman who can't make the payments on her Lexus.

well moose, there's a few ways of looking at it... I chose to see it as I stepped to the plate and single handedly did a parenting job that was taken on by two people. If a guy is going to walk on by me now because I don't have enough money to suit him oh well, too bad too sad.

GB, you found your guy & I'm happy for you.

But contrast you with my last date:

I don't know what your finances are, but IIRC, you raised your children single handedly, work your ass off & are a very responsible person.

Last date: 5 bedroom 2 bath house that she has to move out of and is upside down on as well as the car, driving a Mercedes mini van, no retirement savings, 1 child, in the midst of a divorce.

I'd be willing to bet you've never owned a Mercedes, nor would you want to, given the debit load it would add to your finances, you seem like the kind of person that would own a much more reasonable car and wouldn't be so concerned about "looks", I also suspect you wouldn't be upside down on a house loan, in my defense I'm using the financial yardstick as a measure of common sense/personal responsibility.

 

[LookingGlass]

They bitch about the women, and yet bail them out, why? You don't have to, quit your bitching in the first place then.

 

[Pliablemoose]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
GB & Perknose I hear what you're saying, believe me...

Honestly what it comes down to is this:

1.) Bail another woman/spouse out of debit
2.) Help my daughter through college

By deciding to choose option #2, option # 1 is off the table, and if that means staying single, then so be it. My obligation is first & formost to my daughter, not to some woman who can't make the payments on her Lexus.

well moose, there's a few ways of looking at it... I chose to see it as I stepped to the plate and single handedly did a parenting job that was taken on by two people. If a guy is going to walk on by me now because I don't have enough money to suit him oh well, too bad too sad.

It's not "Don't have enough money" as much as "Doesn't know how to handle money."

Someone can be poor but still financially responsible.

- M4H

Thank you, I'm really not a narcissistic jackass looking to fleece women, I'm just looking for someone that's responsible enough not to have an insane amount of debit. I've worked my ass off to be the responsible guy, and see hooking up with someone that's not frugal/careful with their $ as being just as irresponsible.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
GB & Perknose I hear what you're saying, believe me...

Honestly what it comes down to is this:

1.) Bail another woman/spouse out of debit
2.) Help my daughter through college

By deciding to choose option #2, option # 1 is off the table, and if that means staying single, then so be it. My obligation is first & formost to my daughter, not to some woman who can't make the payments on her Lexus.

well moose, there's a few ways of looking at it... I chose to see it as I stepped to the plate and single handedly did a parenting job that was taken on by two people. If a guy is going to walk on by me now because I don't have enough money to suit him oh well, too bad too sad.

GB, you found your guy & I'm happy for you.

But contrast you with my last date:

I don't know what your finances are, but IIRC, you raised your children single handedly, work your ass off & are a very responsible person.

Last date: 5 bedroom 2 bath house that she has to move out of and is upside down on as well as the car, driving a Mercedes mini van, no retirement savings, 1 child, in the midst of a divorce.

I'd be willing to bet you've never owned a Mercedes, nor would you want to, given the debit load it would add to your finances, you seem like the kind of person that would own a much more reasonable car and wouldn't be so concerned about "looks", I also suspect you wouldn't be upside down on a house loan, in my defense I'm using the financial yardstick as a measure of common sense/personal responsibility.

Actually you're right and at this point in time hubby and I are working very hard at putting fiscal things in order.

Btw, I've never based my relationship choices on how much money a guy had amassed.