Wife is losing the checkbook tonight...

[Night Blade]

Yowzers! good thing I decided when I got married to handle all the money, that just plain sucks, especially at this time of the year.

 

[Perknose]

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
GB, you found your guy & I'm happy for you.

But contrast you with my last date:

I don't know what your finances are, but IIRC, you raised your children single handedly, work your ass off & are a very responsible person.

Last date: 5 bedroom 2 bath house that she has to move out of and is upside down on as well as the car, driving a Mercedes mini van, no retirement savings, 1 child, in the midst of a divorce.

I'd be willing to bet you've never owned a Mercedes, nor would you want to, given the debit load it would add to your finances, you seem like the kind of person that would own a much more reasonable car and wouldn't be so concerned about "looks", I also suspect you wouldn't be upside down on a house loan, in my defense I'm using the financial yardstick as a measure of common sense/personal responsibility.

OK, 'Moose I hear what you're saying here. What I want to add, though, is that all you're describing there is that woman's present circumstances, which are ephemeral and subject to change.

Seems like your snapshot of her is while she's in transition from a ritzier life style from which she hasn't yet had the opportunity to change. Now, she just may be as plastic as her raft of credit cards, but she also may just be a good woman caught in the difficult winds of change.

The trouble with your several descriptions for me is that you have talked only about their present financial circumstances, and hardly at all about the people they are underneath. Perhaps this is more a shortcoming of trying to impart info on a message board, but it has been this thrust of your posts that I have been reacting to.

And, when you say that the choice is between your daughter's college and any one woman in financial transition, I smell a false and limiting dichotomy. Hey, but who knows, I've been wrong before and I'll be wrong again in the future, so I could be wrong right now. ;shrug:

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Thank you, I'm really not a narcissistic jackass looking to fleece women, I'm just looking for someone that's responsible enough not to have an insane amount of debt. I've worked my ass off to be the responsible guy, and see hooking up with someone that's not frugal/careful with their $ as being just as irresponsible.

Hey, not even that. Especially if you're young, sometimes debt is unavoidable. A year of post-secondary runs around $15K, and most kids don't have that kind of money. And school debt vs. "I just had to have the latest (insert hip clothing item here)" debt are two different things.

- M4H

 

[Tbirdkid]

give her the shocker before you kick her in the poopshoot... at least then, you got yours.

 

[gnumantsc]

Wow she's as good at keeping finances like Bush. I got 100 we can atleast spend 300. Geeze where do women think money comes from the bank doesnt hand it to ya.

Too bad there isn't a Spender's Anonymous it would make things go better

 

[imthebadguy]

beat that b1itch with a baseball bat

 

[Bozono]

I got to say you seem to be taking it well OP. That's a lot of bread spent on nothing. One good thing: once she accepts the err of her ways, you now have a proven excuse next time you want to make a big purchase. Use it wisely, My Son.

 

[mercanucaribe]

Originally posted by: brigden

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: Chaotic42
No offense, and maybe I sound like an ass, but that would seriously make me consider a divorce. I cannot believe that anyone could be so irresponsible and stupid with their money.

There is no question in my mind. My first call in the morning would be to a divorce attorney. Women bad with money are like drug addicts in that very few ever shrug off their sickness. I will only suffer the consequences of someone else's bad decisions/actions once. In fact. if those are cash withdrawals with a check card she might just have BOTH addictions.

Bullshit.

Anyone who says they would divorce their wife if they made a similar discovery is full of ******. None of you are that cold and your ridiculous statements lead me to believe you're extremely immature.

****** you understand what I'm sayin?
Some of y'all sucka busta ass ******
Y'all don't understand that kind of ******
Y'all like, worry about the bitch
Spendin the money on this ****** and that ****** and all this ******
****** drivin your car, livin in your house
Stop marryin these motherfvckin hoes! You won't have that problem



Anyway, if you're having a hard time supporting a stupid wife with your single income, why don't you make her get a job? Or the bigger question is, why did you marry a dumb bitch?

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: imthebadguy
beat that b1itch with a baseball bat

QFB

 

[DaFinn]

If my wife ever did that, I would... oh wait, she's the one earning more money in this family :Q

 

[Xyo II]

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: imthebadguy
beat that b1itch with a baseball bat

QFB

 

[pulse8]

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: Accipiter22
ok I guess I don't sound like a dick since at least 9 other people suggested divorce.....women like that WILL drag you down eventually.

Of course they will, I am way to old to believe that love conquers all or belive in the concept of unconditional love.....it is a crock.

It has nothing to do with love, but someone who would run away from a marriage because of something like this should have never gotten married in the first place. Not to that woman and not to anyone.

 

[Cooler]

Take away the check book credit cards and debit cards and only give her cash . And if she screws this up then dont even give her that.

 

[mercanucaribe]

Originally posted by: pulse8

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: Accipiter22
ok I guess I don't sound like a dick since at least 9 other people suggested divorce.....women like that WILL drag you down eventually.

Of course they will, I am way to old to believe that love conquers all or belive in the concept of unconditional love.....it is a crock.

It has nothing to do with love, but someone who would run away from a marriage because of something like this should have never gotten married in the first place. Not to that woman and not to anyone.

You're the kind of man who lets a woman walk all over you aren't you? Today she's spending a thousand dollars on nothing, tomorrow she's spending $5000 on nothing. If there's anything I've learned from observing married people, it's to get out of a bad situation while you're still young.

 

[imported_BS]

Originally posted by: RBachman
Prostitutes are much cheaper than wives. In many cases, they're leaner, cleaner and less promiscuous as well.

Oh so very true!

 

[Wheezer]

have not read the whole thread but I am curious why she has not been aressted for passing bad checks....if it does not happen now it will soon.

 

[Ime]

This is why I'm in control of the finances in my marriage. My wife has a hard time understanding the concept of "money".

 

[liluqt]

Tell her to get a job?

 

[rh71]

If you want something done right... do it yourself. I pay our bills (we both work) and I like it that way.

 

[rh71]

Oh about divorced women... you know what they say... first time around was for love... 2nd time they're going for the guy's wallet. Have fun.

 

[LookingGlass]

There is so much BS in this thread.

 

[CraigRT]

Dude, that really sucks... holy crap!

 

[Fritzo]

Originally posted by: farmercal
All this talk about divorce is BS. Look, she obviously made a mistake and perhaps it wasn't intentional. For all you guys know she could be perfect in all other ways except finances. OP perhaps she needs some education on how to manage the checkbook and how to check the balance online which shows exactly how much you have in the back (minus outstanding checks). Talk to the bank and explain what happened and that she didn't know how to check the balance; perhaps they will cut you some slack. You and your wife can get through this. Good Luck and hang in there.

:thumbsup:

The guys calling for divorce are probably the same ones that are still trying to lose their virginity.

 

[Pliablemoose]

Back on topic:

DurocShark, I really don't know what to say, I know you have a complicated marriage. Hang in there guy.

 

[pulse8]

Originally posted by: mercanucaribe

Originally posted by: pulse8

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: Accipiter22
ok I guess I don't sound like a dick since at least 9 other people suggested divorce.....women like that WILL drag you down eventually.

Of course they will, I am way to old to believe that love conquers all or belive in the concept of unconditional love.....it is a crock.

It has nothing to do with love, but someone who would run away from a marriage because of something like this should have never gotten married in the first place. Not to that woman and not to anyone.

You're the kind of man who lets a woman walk all over you aren't you? Today she's spending a thousand dollars on nothing, tomorrow she's spending $5000 on nothing. If there's anything I've learned from observing married people, it's to get out of a bad situation while you're still young.

If you're just going to walk out when something like this happens, why get married in the first place? It just complicates things.

And the reason you've probably made that conclusion is because you've seen people get divorces who probably shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. Again, I'm not saying they were the wrong people for each other, I'm saying that they shouldn't be married to anyone.

If you think you're going to get married and things are going to be all roses for the rest of your life you're crazy. I'm not saying that there's no reason for divorce, but this certainly isn't one of them. Aside from the wifes sudden irresponsibility with money the OP hasn't mentioned any other problems with their marriage.

Oh, but she screwed up! Get rid of her!

That's real productive. :roll:

If you get rid of everyone who does something to screw with the harmony that is your life you'll have a fine time spending the rest of your life by yourself.

Anyway, the truth of the matter with people giving any kind of advice to this person is that they have no idea what they are talking about because they don't know either of these people or their situation. Telling him to get a divorce is just as irresponsible an action.