Happy new year, huh? Well she just told me that two weeks ago she screwed some guy from work. Got off early and went to his place. Then did it again another day. I never considered that she would do something like that. She's never been that kind of person. We've openly criticized other couples for sleeping around. Our relationship has been great for over 8 years. We're very religious and very honest with each other. I have no idea what to do.
She says she sorry and she doesn't know what she was thinking. She still loves me very much. I'm lost.
Counselling results
Well, it was decided at the marriage counselling that I've been depressed for several years now. I've given up caring about anything, including her. I really believe that the reason for the depression is that my wife never showed any appreciation for anything that I ever did for her. I never came home to a nice meal, or a clean house. I got a simple thanks when I would go out of my way to get her a nice gift or just spend some time giving her a massage or something like that. She would never do anything for me. She didn't ever seem to care about anything herself, and I really believed that it didn't matter what I did for her, there was nothing I could do to make her happy.
I just thought that if we hung in there long enough, that we could get a house, a dog, maybe even have kids. Maybe then she would be happy and she'd care and things would be good. I went to see a therapist on my own after the counselling and now I'm taking antidepressants. She understands that she needs to show appreciation and she's going to try to work on that. I thought all women naturally felt that they should put something back into the relationship themselves. Shouldn't she just naturally want to do things for me? Anyway, for now we're just going day by day and seeing what happens.
She says she sorry and she doesn't know what she was thinking. She still loves me very much. I'm lost.
Counselling results
Well, it was decided at the marriage counselling that I've been depressed for several years now. I've given up caring about anything, including her. I really believe that the reason for the depression is that my wife never showed any appreciation for anything that I ever did for her. I never came home to a nice meal, or a clean house. I got a simple thanks when I would go out of my way to get her a nice gift or just spend some time giving her a massage or something like that. She would never do anything for me. She didn't ever seem to care about anything herself, and I really believed that it didn't matter what I did for her, there was nothing I could do to make her happy.
I just thought that if we hung in there long enough, that we could get a house, a dog, maybe even have kids. Maybe then she would be happy and she'd care and things would be good. I went to see a therapist on my own after the counselling and now I'm taking antidepressants. She understands that she needs to show appreciation and she's going to try to work on that. I thought all women naturally felt that they should put something back into the relationship themselves. Shouldn't she just naturally want to do things for me? Anyway, for now we're just going day by day and seeing what happens.