I agree with KarenMarie....
The content in this thread has degenerated from giving constructive, or albeit destructive advice to TK to attacking each other's personal lives and personal
stories.
I want to know if he's doing alright myself...he hasn't posted in a while. I really hope he and his wife are mending things, in whichever direction, whether
together or apart.
I really don't think anyone needs to be instigating....he really doesn't need to approach the 'other guy', I mean really, what's that going to accomplish?
In no case will this accomplish anything than I suppose some kind of macho self gratification..."you touch my wife, you die" where it's not 100 percent his
fault
I also don't believe anyone needs to have him blame himself with idea's like 'what she could have been lacking or whatever'.
After everything, if he wants her back, they should go to counselling; and if not - well, they need to be apart and hopefully peacefully initiated.
It boils down to forgive her or not.....and really, that whole decision should really be his.
And I see alot on here saying trust this, trust that - trust is difficult to build, and easy to break down....but it's buildable, and thats the point.
I'm sure some of you have been let down by kids swearing to not doing things that they DID do...weed, coke? etc. But you don't look at them as
liars for Life right? Cheating is a huge deal, yes - but after the underlying problem is ascertained for sure - I'm sure they can work it out and heal their love.
I just hope the majority telling him to beat this down, not get back with her, calling her a whore and such aren't meddling for meddling sake....people who
seem to be holier than thou, usually are. This isn't a personal attack on anyone that said this stuff - from my heart it just seems like you people are typing
and not considering that this is a marriage hanging in the balance.
beloved patriot Luck TK - if you see this.
It sounds overly corny, but I gotta say it.....Believe your heart man. IF you don't see yourself happy without this woman in your life, then don't give it up
because of a mistake.
Take Care.