Wifes Ex boyfriend Harrassing Us.

[Soybomb]

Just break off all contact with him, if he emails ignore it, if he calls just hang up without talking to him, etc and he'll tire and move on.

 

[eakers]

he should get the message now that she is telling him to leave her alone.

if he doesn't block his phone number and emails and then if that doesn't work, restraining order.

 

[pulse8]

Originally posted by: DeafeningSilence

Originally posted by: pulse8
Again, I don't know what happened with your wife and him that they broke up and I don't know what their relationship has been like in the past (before the breakup), but I would suggest that your wife try to be more supportive and help him out a little.

And I would definitely advise against this. It's rather clear that he's hoping to become "friends", and use that as a gateway to a renewed romantic relationship. Any friendly contact she has with him plays right into his grand plans.

Definitely keep telling him to get lost.

You can be supportive and not have it lead to anything else. His wife just has to be in control of the situation.

 

[Hammer]

i dunno what to say except...

girbaud (sp?) sweatshirt and jeans hehe. 80s i guess. still funny though.

 

[Skyclad1uhm1]

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: Skyclad1uhm1
And where does he say he doesn't trust her, or that she cheated on him or something?

Are you blind?

He started this after my wife really screwed our trust ... i dont trust her at all ... she doesnt mess around but her lies she tells me are malicious...i cant even begin to tell how my life has gaone bad from her lies. He is tryin to take advantage of our problems and squeeze in. after my polite email he sends me 3 emails last night and sent her 2 emails. he is whining sayin i shouldnt be reading his private emails and it isnt my business....

Oops! Managed to read over that

 

[Lady In Red]

He is a sick retard - get a new unlisted phone number - a change of email addy(s)

Print out the emails take them to your local Law Enforcement office and tell them your problem so if something happens you will have documentation.

We don't want another missing person as in the Laci Peterson case.

Good Luck!!

 

[wnied]

Hmmm.. if your wife leaves you for this guy you haven't lost much.

I agree. If your wife lies to you alot, whats the sense in staying with someone you cannot trust? Whether your in love or not, trust and communication are the three keys to any relationship. Sounds to me as though your the one holding on too tight.


~wnied~

 

[GoingUp]

You will always be my little (duck pussy).

:Q WTF kind of nickname is that?

 

[radioouman]

Wow. That is a scary letter dude. Good luck to you and your wife!

 

[Lonyo]

Someone needs to see a doctor.

 

[miniMUNCH]

Originally posted by: minendo
The larger problem in this is your lack of trust in your wife. The ex-husband can be ignored, but trust is necessary for a meaningful and happy relationship. Get your priorities straight.

what minendo, the 'masta', said. Place your focus on your relationship with your wife.

But as an aside, you should just block his email address or simply ignore and delete his emails. The fact that you and/or your wife continue to read his emails or converse with him seems somewhat silly. Treat his phone calls like telemarketing...first thing I do when I realize it's telemarketing, "No thank you. Have a nice evening.", and then hang up the phone without further ado.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

I'd suggest a certain course of action, but that would probably get me banned.

Call the cops on him. Get a restraining order. Document every instance of him attempting communication.

Send him to make a new friend in prison, who will stand behind him every step of the way.

- M4H

 

[ElFenix]

restraining order, then work on the trust thing

 

[miniMUNCH]

whoever is giving this guy's mom details on what you and your wife are going through needs to be cut out of the loop if they can't keep quiet.

Yep...most definitely smack whoever is blabbing about your problems...family matters should stay with family and close friends at the very most...as far as I'm concerned, people don't have the right to divulge that kind of information to anyone without your expressed consent.

 

[gotsmack]

that guy has to learn how to use the enter buton on the keyboard.

I read it and it seems like that guy has never really grown out of the first love phase. I still think of my first sometimes and it hurts a little, but much less now then before.

I still have her number but I haven't called her in years. I actually actively avoid her. Its akward for me to stand next to her or even say hello.

 

[Johnlee]

Excuse me for being naive but WTF is a "(duck pussy)"?!?!

Holy crap, I'd divorce my life on grounds alone that she let some freak call her that. I mean, "dirty slut" is one thing, but "duck pusssy?" lol.

 

[gopunk]

jesus christ, i remember writing emails like that...

when i was 14

 

[Stark]

Originally posted by: Johnlee
Excuse me for being naive but WTF is a "(duck pussy)"?!?!

Holy crap, I'd divorce my life on grounds alone that she let some freak call her that. I mean, "dirty slut" is one thing, but "duck pusssy?" lol.

quack quack!!

 

[Zebo]

How old are you guys? Do you have children?

She's playin' you. This marriage is the problem not her X, he's just doing what guys do when they think they have an "in". Who gave him the idea? HMMM look no further than the woman sleeping beside you tonight. And lying in a relationship is totally unacceptable IMO. Good luck and if your young w/o kids I'd seriously consider going separte ways from the limited post.

 

[Bulk Beef]

Don't trust the wife? Ditch her - problem solved. I don't know what she did, but trust is hard to fix once it's violated.

And that dude is a nimrod.

I'd rather be in your life as a friend than not be in it at all.

Puhleeease.

Like there's a girl on this earth that hasn't heard THAT before. If you're going to write a psycho letter, at least use some fresh material.

 

[Miramonti]

Originally posted by: amdskip
restraining order this guy is a psycho

Yep!

He started this after my wife really screwed our trust ... i dont trust her at all ... she doesnt mess around but her lies she tells me are malicious...i cant even begin to tell how my life has gaone bad from her lies.

...but you got bigger problems here tho.

 

[datalink7]

Jeeze you guys, I love how you all make assumptions. Just because "XCLAN" posted this doesn't make it true. I am the guy who wrote that email.
Of cource that is hard to believe, but it is in fact the truth. He has skewed the message so it isn't even what I origionally wrote. It is sad that he
knew he could play off all your sympathies and so altered the letter.

In my origional email, I merely stated a few things about how I fondly remembered our previous friendship (NOTHING over the top!), and if she
needed a friend to help her with her current relationship problems I would be willing to be there for her. XCLAN has completely fabricated this email.
Great is his lie. I did in fact call once, AT HER REQUEST. He is the one who needs to be commited to the hospital for clinical jelousy.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: datalink7
Jeeze you guys, I love how you all make assumptions. Just because "XCLAN" posted this doesn't make it true. I am the guy who wrote that email.
Of cource that is hard to believe, but it is in fact the truth. He has skewed the message so it isn't even what I origionally wrote. It is sad that he
knew he could play off all your sympathies and so altered the letter.

In my origional email, I merely stated a few things about how I fondly remembered our previous friendship (NOTHING over the top!), and if she
needed a friend to help her with her current relationship problems I would be willing to be there for her. XCLAN has completely fabricated this email.
Great is his lie. I did in fact call once, AT HER REQUEST. He is the one who needs to be commited to the hospital for clinical jelousy.

Either this is a parody thread or things are gonna be getting deep around here.. in either case I need popcorn!
Brb

 

[AgentEL]

you can't just divorce someone just cuz they broke the trust... relationships are a lot of work and sometimes the trust issue comes into questions... doesn't mean the couple should stop working at it...

I'm sure everyone has made or will make a mistake that will jeopardize someone's trust... and relationships are there to help you get past it... and if you haven't made any mistakes like that... then probably your parents have... or grandparents... and where would you be if they just gave up?

also, about the letter... the ex-bf could have written a letter that could have been waaaay more lighthearted than it was and make it sound like he really wanted to be simply friends again...

but the fact is that he didn't...

and that's creepy... keep the emails as evidence just in case

 

[Miramonti]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: datalink7 Jeeze you guys, I love how you all make assumptions. Just because "XCLAN" posted this doesn't make it true. I am the guy who wrote that email. Of cource that is hard to believe, but it is in fact the truth. He has skewed the message so it isn't even what I origionally wrote. It is sad that he knew he could play off all your sympathies and so altered the letter. In my origional email, I merely stated a few things about how I fondly remembered our previous friendship (NOTHING over the top!), and if she needed a friend to help her with her current relationship problems I would be willing to be there for her. XCLAN has completely fabricated this email. Great is his lie. I did in fact call once, AT HER REQUEST. He is the one who needs to be commited to the hospital for clinical jelousy.

Either this is a parody thread or things are gonna be getting deep around here.. in either case I need popcorn! Brb

quick bathroom run...don't change the channel!