Wife's having me sell my WRX - but it's cool now :)

[RSI]

Sorry dude, that sucks. Why not go for another Subaru? Doesn't the new outback have over 210hp and torque? I think that'd still be fun, and they can haul plenty, have plenty of room, still have AWD, etc. Oh well, good luck with that Sebring (blech)...

 

[Amused]

Originally posted by: Fritzo

Originally posted by: AmusedOne

Originally posted by: Fritzo

Originally posted by: datalink7
Did she buy the car? Or did you buy the car. Because if you bought the car how come she decides?

From your attitudes, it's obvious that none of you are married

I could:

1) Ignore her "request" and hear about it the rest of my life and lose my access to sex for the next few months.

2) Buy a new car, make her happy, have peace, be able to read the Sunday paper undisturbed, and get some 3-4 times a week.

What's your choice?

I've been married. I'm 35 and have seen a LOT of marriages like yours.

Rule number 1: NEVER accept an ultimatum from a woman.

No GF or wife of mine would ever think to tell me what car I could have or not. We may discuss what is too expensive, but style or power is non-negotible. Just the same as I would never tell her what kind of car she could have.

You've married your mother. I've seen it before, and it ain't a pretty sight.

Oh well, setting your foot down now may be too little too late. Now that you've let her have so much control over you, any challange to that control may be meet with twice the fury than had you started the relationship out with having a pair of balls in the first place.

If you're willing to meet that fury, by all means stand your ground. If you don't do it now, you'll forever be controlled by her, instead of making decisions WITH her.

Heheheh...thanks for the advice, but she's not really like that. She's always thought that the car was way too small for $25000 (you're mostly paying for the engine and AWD). We have a joint saving, joint CC's, etc, and I can pretty much buy or do whatever I want, so I know when she brings up something like this, it's a genuine concern. I find it hilarious how I post this once incident and the armchair psychologists come out of the woodwork and tell me all these things are wrong with my marraige

. She just feels very strongly about this point, she has for a while, and finally voiced it after she drove the car. I know she's right, I've known she's been right for a long time, and I'm just coming to terms with it right now. *sigh*.....I guess I'll be able to have a cool car guilt free after I'm forty like everyone else .

It's not the car, it's the driver. Her condemnation of the car is a condmenation of you and your ability to drive it responsibly. If you're a responsible driver, she's not right... and all your attempts to make yourself believe that wont make it true.

If, on the other hand you are not capable of driving it responsibly than you must need a mother figure for a wife... in that case, she's right

Either way, I think it's sad. You shouldn't have to wait until you're "over forty" to drive what YOU want to drive.

Meanwhile, you're going to take a HUGE bath on the car after just 8 months of payments. I mean HUGE. Tell her it's financially unsound to sell it now, and that you'll be careful. If that's not enough for her it doesn't take an "armchair psychologist" to see that you have serious issues with control in your marriage.

 

[toant103]

do you pee sitting down?

I dont' think so.



Don't sell the car.


hehehe

 

[AmigaMan]

Heheheh...I'm getting slaughtered here The thing is, I know the car isn't practical (we make decisions together and I bought the car without telling her last year). The kids have a heck of a time getting in and out, there's not any room to go shopping in it, so it's basically an expensive "go to work" car (with the occasional "go crusin'" night). Since the sedans are so hard to get a hold of, and I got such a good deal on it from preordering it when they first came out, I can get the same amount I paid for it back out of it (I have people at restaurants asking if they can buy it all the time). I'm going to have to face facts that I'm a responsible adult and father right now and at this point in my life it's not going to be possible to have certain things I want. Why do you think you see all those 40+ yr old men driving Vette's, BMW rag tops, etc....because their kids moved out!

Anyway, I'm not going to admit she's right, but I think I'm going to buy the Sebring. I test drove a Jetta yesterday and it was WAY too cramped inside (I'm 6'4"). While on the lot looking at the Sebring, an M300 caught my eye----man those things look cool! Like a combination of a Lexus and an Acura. I like the ragtop on the Sebring though, so I think my mind is set. Sorry to disappoint you guys, but once you get young'uns, your whole priority list changes. When looking for a car, you look for things like "Can a car seat fit in the back seat?" "How many bags of groceries can I fit in the trunk?" "Does it have lots of cup holders?" Etc. I didn't do this when I bought the WRX...I just got overly excited by the fact that I could own an amazing sports car and not have to pay $50000 for it, so it was basically an impulse buy.

I'll post pics of the Sebring (or M300) when I buy it.

It's a sad sad day here on ATOT. Have you looked at BMW's? Or maybe get an SUV, Chevy Tahoe's are great for tall people like yourself. Then you'd be KING OF THE ROAD because it's hard to be king of the house when you're married.

</sulks off to drive his POS ford contour to home depot>

 

[Thegonagle]

And a Jetta's not too small for the price? Do they not top out at a recockulous $27K?

Of course, the $27K Jetta would be too fast for her too (VR6).

I wouldn't get either a Jetta or a Sebring. I've driven a Sebring convertible. They're kind of crappy, IMO.

I'd play the resale value card for as long as I could. Then, after you're not upside-down on the WRX, it's time for a Sentra SE-R for a paltry $17K. Now those are bargain performance cars, if you ask me. The Spec-V is about $18K and you get a 6-speed and 5 extra HP, but that engine doesn't really need a 6-speed at all unless you want an advantage on a closed course.

Anyway, no need to listen to my drivel (just your wife's ). Go drive a bunch of cars, including the Sebring, Jetta 1.8T, Passat, Altima V-6, Maxima, SE-R and RSX (both versions of each the RSX and SE-R) and get what you want. You tell me the Sebring isn't a dog.

Good luck.

 

[Rent]

Meh... Sell it and get a Maxima if you're going to break down.

Personally, I wouldn't let any woman dictate what I drive. /me shrugs

(of course, you could sell it and get a bike )

 

[SuperSix]

We see who's got the book in that family..

Wuss..

 

[Piano Man]

Sell the wife, keep the car.

 

[Cougar]

Problem:

Wife's making me sell my WRX

Solution:

Kill her and bury her in the desert.

 

[MooseKnuckle]

My advice is trade in the car, then go buy this LOOK HERE That way she won't leave marks on your back...WHIPPED!

 

[ultimatebob]

I'm curious... What kind of van is SHE driving? If it's an old, underpowered piece of junk, they're might be a bit of jealousy mixed in with her arguement. Perhaps if you bought a third "compromise car" that both of you can drive, then you can BOTH be happy.

Seriously, though, I wouldn't give in. If you do, you'll end up regretting it in the future.

 

[fatbaby]

Why not rip off the WRX logo and now you'll just have an impieza =D

 

[bunker]

Fritzo, I'm married so I feel qualified to post here:

Go get her purse and rummage through it. Your balls should be in there somewhere.

 

[Fritzo]

Oh yeah, OK.


I'm emailing all of your wives your responses. Funny how tough you guys talk when they don't know what you're saying heheheheeheheh.

 

[bunker]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
Oh yeah, OK.


I'm emailing all of your wives your responses. Funny how tough you guys talk when they don't know what you're saying heheheheeheheh.

You're correct. I would never say something like that in front of her. However, she also knows she can't tell me what to do. She can express her displeasure with something and I may or may not react to it.

She would never get away with telling me to get rid of my car and she knows that.

 

[poopaskoopa]

Heh. Am I the only one who likes the 300M more than WRX, a.k.a. the Fugly?

 

[Legendary]

Hmm maybe if it was something she had a little knowledge in, but it is apparent that driving isn't her forte so I don't think her pleas should have any effect on you.
But it looks like your mind is already made up.

 

[notfred]

Originally posted by: Fritzo

Originally posted by: notfred

Originally posted by: Fritzo
...make her happy...and get some 3-4 times a week.

You are the DEFINITION of pussy-whipped.

Heheheh...you say that now, but wait until you walk down the isle For an acurate portrayal of married life (at least my married life), check out "Everybody Loves Raymond"...that's my life exactly (including the in-laws living a few houses down).

You're right. I'm not married. But I do live w/ my girlfriend (been together 3 years) so you can hardly say there's not a woman influencing my life. I let her drive my car once. She was practically crying by the time she got it around the black cause the gas pedal was so sensative and she thought she was going to hit something. She's never driven it since. She's never asked me to sell it, either.

 

[yakko]

VW are even my favorite car and I still say don't sell it. If she is going to cut you off because she didn't get her way your marrige is not going to be a happy one anyway because you will always be doing what she wants and never making your own decisions.

 

[Vic]

Originally posted by: McPhreak
I think you should sell the car to me for $10 and use that money to buy yourself a set of balls.

Either that or get a new woman. If I drove a WRX home, my ol' lady would steal the keys. She sometimes complains that my current car, a 98 Acura Integra GSR, isn't fast enough (to which I agree, but hey it's paid for).

 

[Dually]

What is the point of getting married if a guy can't have the things he wants.

 

[Fritzo]

Originally posted by: yakko
VW are even my favorite car and I still say don't sell it. If she is going to cut you off because she didn't get her way your marrige is not going to be a happy one anyway because you will always be doing what she wants and never making your own decisions.

She's not going to "cut me off"...I was being sarcastic. But you know how women are when they feel strongly against something and you ignore her feelings. Anyway, I just got back from test driving the Sebring again, and there's not much NOT to like:

1) It takes regular gas (saving me a good $10-$20 a week over the premium gas guzzling WRX)
2) I can actually stretch out when driving.
3) It's 200HP V6 is pretty peppy...not 0-60 in 5.5 seconds peppy, but peppy
4) The handling is amazing...I'd compare it to a BMW 5 series in cornering
5) It takes me 30 seconds to put a car seat in the back....took a good 10 minutes of contortion acts in the WRX.
6) The car is useable because it has storage space (the trunk is huge!).
7) Convertibles are cool

So, I'm not seeing to many bad things about this Again, the main concern here isn't "My wife doesn't want me to have a fast car", her main concern was having such a tiny car to lug the kids around in. The fact that it'll do 135 MPH was the straw the broke the camel's back

 

[atom]

I just don't get it. You say that she doesn't like the car because of practicality (riiiight............) yet she will let you trade it in for a CONVERTIBLE??!?!?!?!?!

Uh.........give me a break. Face it, the real reason she doesn't like it is because she thought it was fast. Tell her this, you'll trade in your WRX sedan for a WRX wagon. Same power, and it's more practical. My money is on she'll still want you to get another car.

 

[zippy]

Originally posted by: slikmunks

Originally posted by: notfred
Tell her that if she thinks it's too dangerous, then SHE can't drive it.

Keep it, you pussy.

damn straight!

Agreed.

Just because she is unable to drive a car safely does not mean that you shouldn't be able to drive it!

Reminds of when I was little and my mom was (clearly) tired so she would tell me to go take a nap. I would make fun of her about it, we would laugh, then she would go to sleep and I would play video games. Hehe.

 

[Amused]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
Oh yeah, OK.


I'm emailing all of your wives your responses. Funny how tough you guys talk when they don't know what you're saying heheheheeheheh.

My GF sat here and read this thread this morning. She laughed at you. So would my ex-wife.

As I said, I would never think to tell my spouse what kind of car they could not have, and vice versa. The only thing we would discuss is the cost.