<< And we are flock animals, its in our natural behavior to socialise, as we've allways been doing. >>
This is an interesting comment. A lot of people say meaningless crap like "humans are naturally social animals". And when I ask them why this is so, or where they learned this, they say something like, oh, it says so in psychology textbooks. When I ask which one, they can't name names.
The theory about humans being naturally social animals is kind of like the story about kidney-stealing prostitutes in Las Vegas. Everyone's heard of it, pretty much everyone thinks it's true, but no one has a valid source for it.
Both stories are false. Humans are not naturally social animals. Have you ever observed the behavior of babies and little kids? Until about 3-4 years of age, they don't even have a concept of existence of selves outside of their own self. They are fiercely selfish and antisocial. If parents or teachers do not indoctrinate the kid with social, altruistic propaganda, the kid will remain selfish and antisocial their entire lives. There are numerous studies in scientific literature of kids who were abandoned in the wild and somehow managed to survive. These kids show absolutely no social behaviors whatsoever.
The reason most humans originally chose to live in groups and chose to agree to abide by a social contract was for purposes of survival and efficiency. Nature was too hostile for a single man, or for a single nuclear family, to survive in. A great number of people had to pool their resources in order to hold their own. It was a necessary evil, so to speak, because people had to try and overcome their naturally selfish, antisocial tendencies. Social behaviors were a function of human intelligence. People realized that, in order to survive, they had to try and overcome certain urges in their essential nature. And to some degree, they did. They learned to share and cooperate and respect others and so on. And they taught their kids how to do the same things when they were little, so they would have an easier time making the adjustment. So that they could survive in the harsh conditions of prehistoric nature. And here we are, with thousands of years of legacy of social brainwashing.
So when you go out to meet chicks this weekend, take a moment to consider that you would not feel the urge to do anything of the sort had your parents and your teachers not brainwashed you when you were a kid. Take a moment to realize that social behaviors are no different than programming skills: A set of useful, but by no means essential, learned skills.