Will this night never end?

[nanette1985]

Rant. No cliffs, go read something else.

I was sick most of the day and I'm fried/exhausted. I'm broke. Didn't get done what I needed to, and the landlord came by and we had yet another big fight. The roof is leaking even more from the eight inches of snow we had today, the plumbing is falling apart, the front door doesn't close and so on. And for some reason the idiot expects me to pay rent.

Tonight my older daughter called and needs money to pay for her son to get his shots because his 4th birthday is coming up and if he doesn't have the forms filled in he gets let go from his preschool, his subsidy ends and he loses his place and there are lots of other kids on the waiting list. They don't have health insurance because she lost her teaching job and can't afford the COBRA. Her hubby just graduated from nursing school but doesn't have a job yet.

Then my younger son called to announce that he's coming home because his wife's mom threw him out. He & wife quit their jobs several months ago to go and live with her mom in another state who has cancer and in going thru chemo - but mom is crabby, understandably so, but this is hell on son & wife.

Then my ex-husband called to yell at me because the kids called me first, before him, and he's the one with the money, but he's not going to help them now because they called me first. Gaaaaah. Don't need this.

THEN, son's wife called to say she's on the train and will be here at whatever o'clock and will I pick her up and can they stay with me.

I'm waiting to hear from my other 2 kids . . .

I just want to go to sleep.

Guess I'll be here reading ATOT for a while tonight.

 

[coldmeat]

Rant. No cliffs, go read something else.

ok

 

[Sea Moose]

Dear Princess Ida

Please take the medicine pictured. After you take the medicine, you will edit your op to say.... not a single fuck was given that day

Love from

Sea Moose

 

[SagaLore]

Ugh. If that were me, I'd just pack a bag and leave for a few weeks without telling anybody.

 

[HappyPuppy]

Rofl. Gfy.

 

[nanette1985]

Night ends. Son and wife are camped out on the floor. Daughter who needs money, meet your father who supposedly has money - go ahead, twist him around your little finger, you know you can. Snow will end some day.

Nights like this make me appreciate the ones where the worst that happens is that I fall out of my rocking chair reaching for the remote.

Happy sleep all.

 

[Sea Moose]

Nice ending.

Time to get on the jack daniels?

<-- See my avatar

 

[Skitzer]

Is this a parody thread?

 

[dfuze]

Sounds like the night ended, but the ordeal will continue. Hope that ends for you soon enough.

 

[yh125d]

Jokes on you lady, shoulda raised your kids to be more self-sufficient. My brothers and I never grief our parents with stuff like this. Its always the other way around

 

[surfsatwerk]

Jokes on you lady, shoulda raised your kids to be more self-sufficient. My brothers and I never grief our parents with stuff like this. Its always the other way around

Too bad being self sufficient doesn't stop you from acting like a dildo.

 

[Cookie]

There is an opportunity in there somewhere.

Get your landlord to let 'you' fix the leak, plumming, door, etc in exchange for a deduction in rent.

Let son and his wife stay if they do the repairs.

Daughter can get money from ex, then ex can leave you alone.

Also, get some rest, and hope you feel better soon.

 

[DrPizza]

Best of luck with all the problems. Actually, all of the problems are other people's problems - they're just looking to you for help.

 

[SpatiallyAware]

Best of luck with all the problems. Actually, all of the problems are other people's problems - they're just looking to you for help.

Huge huuuuge +1


It's not your fault, but the more you bail people out the more they'll rely on being bailed out in the future.

Basically, the only way to really stop this stuff is to make it clear you won't let it continue. Unfortunately it's hard for you to know when the cry for help is "real" and when it isn't.

 

[yh125d]

Too bad being self sufficient doesn't stop you from acting like a dildo.

Theres a difference between being a jackass for fun and not wanting to ignore the truth. Sorry for not sugarcoating it.


This is ATOT anyway, not the best place to look for sympathy

 

[nanette1985]

Nice ending.

Time to get on the jack daniels?

<-- See my avatar

Thanks, you spurred me to do some serious research to see if mixing alcohol and my meds will actually kill me, or if it's just silly stuff docs say. Looks like it's not as bad as I originally was told. Not that I'm going back to my former total alcohol oblivion, but I can sure use the bottle of cheer at times like this.

Out of jack daniels, but plenty of makers mark left. That okay?

 

[highland145]

Out of jack daniels, but plenty of makers mark left. That okay?

:thumbsup:

 

[dpodblood]

Seems like you need to learn to say "no." Your kids shouldn't be moving into your house without your permission. If you don't want them there; kick them out.

As for the landlord, tell him to fix the shit now, or just move out. There are certain basics that your landlord will be required to supply as per your lease. If he isn't supplying them then you can move away free and clear. A lease is a contract and if your landlord is breaking his end of the deal by not maintaining the property than you have the right to leave.

 

[JS80]

OP, your life sounds pretty good compare to these guys:

 

[nanette1985]

Theres a difference between being a jackass for fun and not wanting to ignore the truth. Sorry for not sugarcoating it.


This is ATOT anyway, not the best place to look for sympathy

Not looking for sympathy (though I do appreciate it) - just blathering on about a stupid night.

I respect your right to have your own opinion/observations on the subject -this is ATOT.

The real problem was that I'm having wacky random blood sugar swings - it happens occasionally with us diabetics - and that's making me sick. Made it difficult to tolerate my family's antics and I REALLY needed sleep.

 

[LumbergTech]

Huge huuuuge +1


It's not your fault, but the more you bail people out the more they'll rely on being bailed out in the future.

Basically, the only way to really stop this stuff is to make it clear you won't let it continue. Unfortunately it's hard for you to know when the cry for help is "real" and when it isn't.

It just depends which claims are legitimate and which aren't. I certainly hope that my daughter will call me for support when she grows up. I will raise her not to take advantage of people in the first place so hopefully her requests will be legitimate.

 

[nanette1985]

Seems like you need to learn to say "no." Your kids shouldn't be moving into your house without your permission. If you don't want them there; kick them out.

As for the landlord, tell him to fix the shit now, or just move out. There are certain basics that your landlord will be required to supply as per your lease. If he isn't supplying them then you can move away free and clear. A lease is a contract and if your landlord is breaking his end of the deal by not maintaining the property than you have the right to leave.

If there's ever a time to say "yes" to your kids, it's when they're going off the deep end taking care of a mother-in-law with cancer. (my opinion - yours may vary)

I can usually deal with the crappy landlord, it was just a bad day for me that turned into a bad night. I'm not the only tenant, and he's already paying fines/losing rent from everybody that has to cost him more than it would cost him to fix the roof & plumbing, our biggest problems. I'm the one he talks to because I've been here the longest and I'm the only tenant who hasn't called a lawyer, inspectors, etc. Great location, low rent, and my band can practice any time 24-7 - some great things.

Thanks for the concern and the advice.