Originally posted by: zephyrprime
Saying she only wants to be friends means that she's not attracted to you. Either you're not good looking enough or not alpha-male enough for her tastes. This is hard for you to accept (I know because I've been there) since you are already her friend and already care for her but it's true. The converse of this situation would be if one of your fat female friends started hitting on you.
You're wise beyond your years to know that you should just move on if you can't get over your emotional attachment to her while around her. (It's ironic though that one of the only things you could do to get her to like you is to see other women. This is called "playing hard to get". In popular culture, playing hard to get is something that women do but it seems to me that's it's something that's more effective when done by a male jackass than by a woman.)
its not playing hard to get. its having the maturity and fortitude to move on when you dont get what you want in life, instead of letting your course of actions being ruled by emotions and throwing away a good friendship.
in her view, if he cant handle the rejection without being so drastic hes probably not gonna handle other things in life and a relationship all that well (not saying thats true of the op, just speculating on her thoughts) so she wont care if he runs away and he loses out on all fronts.