Work drama. I want to know what you guys would do in this situation? WARNING: Lengthy

[SKORPI0]

Take it to the owner, complain that you caught the boss and Brandy having an affair.

winner.

Female Boss and Brandy could be other than "best friends". Hopefully the higher ups learn about this lesbian affair and let them go. :sneaky:

 

[roguerower]

Boss & Coworker are douches and they need to be taught of lesson. Assume the stance. I don't know that there's anything that you could have done. Why do they think you're an ass?

 

[spidey07]

Funny you should say this. The manager mentioned in this story is actually female and she was accused by her husband of having an affair with one of our staff. Her husband actually came in after hours and beat her and the accused staff member up, the cops were called and everything.

Should I have mentioned this above?

Even worse. You get her in trouble, she tells husband, husband beats the shit out of you.

One thing about drama, the best course of action is to remove yourself from it. Some however seem to thrive on and even relish creating it which is what sounds like what happened.

 

[S Freud]

Boss & Coworker are douches and they need to be taught of lesson. Assume the stance. I don't know that there's anything that you could have done. Why do they think you're an ass?

Ready to hear something really stupid? Brandy felt like I wasn't bussing her tables enough. Yep that's it. Brandy has a history of stirring up shit at work though.

 

[gaidensensei]

This is very true. I think its just the idea that I want her to feel like shit also. People that have miserable lives, welfare, shitty jobs, etc. Don't usually think what they're doing is shitty. That's what Brandy strikes me as.

A motivation like that is not real justice, that's a form of vengeance and vigilantism to some extent. You felt someone did something unappreciative and seek retribution to pacify your unsatisfactory feelings.

You could try to get your revenge on Brandy, but given the story progression I don't think she is expecting nor willing to reprimand for the situation, she knows you are the underdog.

 

[bfdd]

A motivation like that is not real justice, that's a form of vengeance and vigilantism to some extent. You felt someone did something unappreciative and seek retribution to pacify your unsatisfactory feelings.

You could try to get your revenge on Brandy, but given the story progression I don't think she is expecting nor willing to reprimand for the situation, she knows you are the underdog.

Nothing wrong with vengeance.

 

[Oyeve]

Take a bat to brandy and manager in a dark alley. Problem solved, shit, they may even make you or the GF manager!

 

[BrokenVisage]

A couple things... first, LOL @ the use of the word 'proceeded' in like 4 straight sentences like you were a cop explaining what happened to a jury, that was a larf. Secondly, if your g/f worked there she should have known not to get animated like your Mom did, there would be a time and place for her to rip "Brandy" a new one and in public like that was not that time or place. Also, I'm wondering why you think she would call you an A-hole in the first place, even if it was behind your back. Feels like we're missing part of the story here, do you and "Brandy" have a history?

 

[Regs]

Wow. That's tragic.

 

[S Freud]

A couple things... first, LOL @ the use of the word 'proceeded' in like 4 straight sentences like you were a cop explaining what happened to a jury, that was a larf. Secondly, if your g/f worked there she should have known not to get animated like your Mom did, there would be a time and place for her to rip "Brandy" a new one and in public like that was not that time or place. Also, I'm wondering why you think she would call you an A-hole in the first place, even if it was behind your back. Feels like we're missing part of the story here, do you and "Brandy" have a history?

No we don't have "history" besides the face that Brandy is known to start things like this on a regular basis as work. She's friends with our GM so she feels like she can do whatever she wants.

 

[sjwaste]

Corporate ethics hotline. Call it, preferably once you have a new job lined up, but you can probably anonymously report the manager's relationship with an employee (doesn't have to be sexual, he's comping a lot of stuff and playing favorites).

 

[spidey07]

No we don't have "history" besides the face that Brandy is known to start things like this on a regular basis as work. She's friends with our GM so she feels like she can do whatever she wants.

 

[SolMiester]

OP, the only ones that got a warning were Brandy and your GF....You could ask of course why a diner gets treated as staff just because they are there out of hours, but is it worth it?

 

[sjwaste]

By the way, in case no one else has mentioned it, this is pretty typical of working in a restaurant. It's not an office, and it's usually not staffed with the sorts of people that are in it for a career, have an education, etc. I don't mean to generalize, but it's a chain restaurant, and that's largely going to be true. If you don't want to deal with this shit, all the more reason to graduate, get a job, and realize you'll deal with very similar shit in a white collar setting

For anyone in the industry, please don't take my statement to apply to career chefs, fine dining wait staff, etc. There's clearly a difference between professional food industry people and most of the folks you'll find passing through your local franchise.

 

[S Freud]

You guys are right. I've been very irritated by this the last couple of days but I should just move on. Nothing is going to be accomplished by taking any sort of action. For the time being I still have to work with these people.

 

[KaOTiK]

Funny you should say this. The manager mentioned in this story is actually female and she was accused by her husband of having an affair with one of our staff. Her husband actually came in after hours and beat her and the accused staff member up, the cops were called and everything.

Should I have mentioned this above?

Well, now with this new info I have a suggestion to go along with taking a shit in Brandy's locker.

Type up a letter saying you have see xxx (name of the GM) and another women (just say color of hair and what kind of car she drives) kiss while entering the house one day. Simple sign it, A Concerned Neighbor

Wait till you hear Brandy and the GM talking about their latest time hanging out, then on a day when you know the GM is working a bit late, drop that note off in an envelop (even better if you know the GM's husband name to put on it).

 

[Imp]

So... Did you screw "Brandy" over? Are you, in fact, an asshole?

 

[preslove]

1. Find new job.

2. Go to shift when manager and brandy are working.

3. Quit by calling manager and brandy something that rhymes with "runts."

 

[Kirby]

chokefuck brandy

 

[S Freud]

1. Find new job.

2. Go to shift when manager and brandy are working.

3. Quit by calling manager and brandy something that rhymes with "runts."

I would have quit on the spot if it wasn't for two things stopping me.

1. Not having another job

2. I'm afraid of this coming back to bite me later on when I start to look for a career.

 

[preslove]

I would have quit on the spot if it wasn't for two things stopping me.

1. Not having another job

2. I'm afraid of this coming back to bite me later on when I start to look for a career.

lol. #2 won't hurt you. Just concentrate on fixing #1.

 

[paulney]

Pick your battles. You are going to leave this place anyway, so for you it's just a matter of how long you want to stay there and whether Brandy is up for any retaliation. The other part you have to keep in mind is your gf - how long she plans on staying there.

Luckily, part time jobs at restaurants are a plenty.

 

[Perknose]

The best advice is to let this go. Put these (relative) losers in your rear view mirror.

But if you want revenge/justice/whatever then start documenting everything now, including all the comping, every other inicident you see, police records from the b/f beat down just in case this SOMEHOW escaped corporate's notice, a formal, signed statement from your mother, and then forward all this to corporate after you have found a new job.

The reality is that all the above is really not worth it. Your life is on a different, better trajectory. That's "revenge" enough.

 

[edro]

You'll look back at this one day and smile at how insignificant it is.

I remember getting sent home from work one day when I was 15 because I punched an empty box and an employee saw me and complained. I was sooo pissed at the time...
It is hilarious now. (to me anyway)

Seriously... move on. You are a part time busboy. This will not impact your life AT ALL.

 

[rasczak]

winner.

Female Boss and Brandy could be other than "best friends". Hopefully the higher ups learn about this lesbian affair and let them go. :sneaky:

This would make them "breast friends"? :sneaky: