Would you be angry/slightly pissed in this situation?

[Anonemous]

Hypothetical question:

Child of a friend's friend your mom knows is staying with your family for a month. They came to study for a month in an english program. They are given a room but it was made clear that they would be responsible for their own meals and themselves in general.

The person is very nice but naive. Example, stuffing half their suitcase with snacks as gifts for your family. But after 2 weeks of preparing 3 meals a day (and also footing the bill when eating out) and accomodations, the patience in your family is wearing thin, your mother and your sibling is getting angry, they're wondering if the guest expects to be fed the entire month.

Meanwhile you are in the middle of this, and the guest is polite but seems oblivious to the hints about being independent and what not. It was made clear several times but the language barrier is making this difficult.

What would you do?

Guest = 23 years old ; update: girl from japan

 

[Zim Hosein]

What would you do?

Change the locks! :evil:

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Zim Hosein

What would you do?

Change the locks! :evil:

And stop feeding the f*cker!

- M4H

 

[teh 3v1L]

'guest' is old enough to fend for themself. if hints are not working, just be blunt.

 

[Ulfwald]

Show him where McDonalds is.

 

[Argo]

He/she probably just didn't understand. Why won't you say it openly?

 

[Zim Hosein]

Originally posted by: Ulfwald
Show him where McDonalds is.

McDonald's USA Restaurant Locator

 

[Tylanner]

Could this be any more similar to a Judge Judy case?

 

[Anonemous]

Originally posted by: teh 3v1L
'guest' is old enough to fend for themself. if hints are not working, just be blunt.

person is learning english so language is a barrier.

 

[Anonemous]

Originally posted by: Tylanner
Could this be any more similar to a Judge Judy case?

naw no suing in this situation just a lotta pissed people.

 

[Anonemous]

just wanted to gauge the initial opinions.

Would it matter if the person is a she/he?

edit: tried to hide gender if no one noticed

 

[TitanDiddly]

Sounds like nice kid, but just doesn't know what's expected of him. Try and make it clear that he is expected to feed himself, and make sure he understands. Tell him you're not angry(unless you are), it was just a misunderstanding.

I know I'd feel like an jerk in his situation if I found out all of a sudden that I'd been such a 5th wheel.

 

[teh 3v1L]

not really...and even if language is a barrier, being blunt might still be the simplest solution. you can still be tactful while being blunt..

 

[Anonemous]

Originally posted by: teh 3v1L
not really...and even if language is a barrier, being blunt might still be the simplest solution. you can still be tactful while being blunt..

how so?

 

[vshah]

what language do they speak?

 

[Specop 007]

Staying for a month...After 3 weeks patience is wearing thin.
Hell, theres only a week left, I'd say screw it and buy an assload of Mac & Cheese and hotdogs and wait it out.

 

[Anonemous]

Originally posted by: vshah
what language do they speak?

does it matter? let's say in this situation, swahili

 

[Anonemous]

Originally posted by: Specop 007
Staying for a month...After 3 weeks patience is wearing thin.
Hell, theres only a week left, I'd say screw it and buy an assload of Mac & Cheese and hotdogs and wait it out.

it's the halfway point! 2 weeks. yes but wouldn't you feel guilty feeding a guest food that you are not eating? (due to health concerns, your mom can't eat like that for a week).

 

[Specop 007]

Originally posted by: Anonemous

Originally posted by: Specop 007
Staying for a month...After 3 weeks patience is wearing thin.
Hell, theres only a week left, I'd say screw it and buy an assload of Mac & Cheese and hotdogs and wait it out.

it's the halfway point! 2 weeks. yes but wouldn't you feel guilty feeding a guest food that you are not eating? (due to health concerns, your mom can't eat like that for a week).

*bangs head on wall*
NO! If he doesnt want Mac&Cheese he can go get his OWn food. See the point here man?
You dont force the issue, you let him decide to go buy his own food.
And after a week of M&C and hotdogs, you can damn well bet he's gonna be goin to the store.

 

[Mrvile]

deagle

 

[OulOat]

Meh, food is food. If it was me, I would just let him/her eat if s/he is a nice person. But if you are tired of it, just tell him/her. It's better to say something now than wait until s/he is about to leave.

 

[Anonemous]

Originally posted by: Mrvile
deagle

that's the CS thread a few pages down.

 

[teh 3v1L]

Originally posted by: Anonemous

Originally posted by: teh 3v1L
not really...and even if language is a barrier, being blunt might still be the simplest solution. you can still be tactful while being blunt..

how so?

use the reasoning of why they're there in the first place. tell the guest that they should go out on their own more often. Suggest some places they might want to check out. Let your guest know they shouldn't use your family as a crutch, considering they're here on an english program, and they can only learn so much hanging around someone's house.

 

[Anonemous]

Originally posted by: teh 3v1L

Originally posted by: Anonemous

Originally posted by: teh 3v1L
not really...and even if language is a barrier, being blunt might still be the simplest solution. you can still be tactful while being blunt..

how so?

use the reasoning of why they're there in the first place. tell the guest that they should go out on their own more often. Suggest some places they might want to check out. Let your guest know they shouldn't use your family as a crutch, considering they're here on an english program, and they can only learn so much hanging around someone's house.

ok, let's say this has already been done and the person still doesn't get "it".

 

[slick230]

Originally posted by: Anonemous

Originally posted by: teh 3v1L

Originally posted by: Anonemous

Originally posted by: teh 3v1L
not really...and even if language is a barrier, being blunt might still be the simplest solution. you can still be tactful while being blunt..

how so?

use the reasoning of why they're there in the first place. tell the guest that they should go out on their own more often. Suggest some places they might want to check out. Let your guest know they shouldn't use your family as a crutch, considering they're here on an english program, and they can only learn so much hanging around someone's house.

ok, let's say this has already been done and the person still doesn't get "it".

OK, next time youeat, or go out to eat, and this person tries to join you, you either leave their ass at home or you take away their plate and kick the chair out from under them. Stop pussyfooting around and make your point known. There are non-verbal ways of getting your point across loud and clear, if you're not a pussy about it.