Would you be angry/slightly pissed in this situation?

[BespinReactorShaft]

Originally posted by: Nitemare

Originally posted by: Anonemous

Originally posted by: silverpig
We trade foody-foody for sucky-sucky ok?

damn took only 6 minutes before that comment. I was expecting at least 30 minutes.

You must be a nube then...

Teach her how to say "Services Rendered"

and make sure she understands "Assume Position"

 

[Anonemous]

Originally posted by: aplefka
Teh womenz? Pics or ban!

buy me a camera !

pretty plz!

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: Anonemous

Originally posted by: aplefka
Teh womenz? Pics or ban!

buy me a camera !

pretty plz!

*cough*

You mentioned she had one....

 

[Anonemous]

Originally posted by: Nitemare

Originally posted by: Anonemous

Originally posted by: aplefka
Teh womenz? Pics or ban!

buy me a camera !

pretty plz!

*cough*

You mentioned she had one....

*cough* airport *cough*

 

[CptObvious]

Originally posted by: Anonemous

Originally posted by: CptObvious
Just curious, how would she be able to feed herself? I'm assuming she didn't have a car, and if she's from Japan she probably has no clue where to go to find the food she can make herself.

There was a lot of fast foods/restraunts/markets all located within walking distance of my house and also near her classes. This was made apparent in the first two weeks when I showed her some of the eateries/markets near her classes/home. I even showed them how to exchange foreign currency at the bank and she also carried a CC.

I dunno...the way I see it, it's just common hospitality to feed those who you willingly take in. Especially a young woman who comes from another country and doesn't speak English. It seems like kind of an odd expectation to expect her to be independent, when she is by herself at the mercy of others in a foreign country. JMO

 

[Tsunami982]

it all depends on if shes hot.

 

[JoeKing]

All of you should leave to go out for dinner one night without telling her.


Why don't you just ask her or her mother to chip in a few bucks a month for food and stuff? BTW japanese food can really ROCK.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: Anonemous

Originally posted by: Nitemare

Originally posted by: Anonemous

Originally posted by: aplefka
Teh womenz? Pics or ban!

buy me a camera !

pretty plz!

*cough*

You mentioned she had one....

*cough* airport *cough*

There are cameras all over the airport, just bring one back

 

[Ryuson99]

Learn Japanese?

 

[Anonemous]

Originally posted by: CptObvious

Originally posted by: Anonemous

Originally posted by: CptObvious
Just curious, how would she be able to feed herself? I'm assuming she didn't have a car, and if she's from Japan she probably has no clue where to go to find the food she can make herself.

There was a lot of fast foods/restraunts/markets all located within walking distance of my house and also near her classes. This was made apparent in the first two weeks when I showed her some of the eateries/markets near her classes/home. I even showed them how to exchange foreign currency at the bank and she also carried a CC.

I dunno...the way I see it, it's just common hospitality to feed those who you willingly take in. Especially a young woman who comes from another country and doesn't speak English. It seems like kind of an odd expectation to expect her to be independent, when she is by herself at the mercy of others in a foreign country. JMO

Oh believe me, Cpt, I had the same feelings as well. But then I see and know of other foreign students getting by on their own and being independent. I looked at both sides of the issue and compromised. The guest was not starved as you imagined, a buffer period of two weeks was given but if you haven't adapted in 2 weeks to your new environment after being personally shown different places to obtain your meals then you aren't learning the language or you are just looking for a free ride.

The reponse that best explained this is a couple posts up. If you go back a couple pages you would've seen me taking your point of view. It's nice you have these sentiments, but sadly these ideals are not practical but it'd make a pretty interesting topic.

 

[QuitBanningMe]

Young naive Japanese girl? I'm sure I could think of something to take my mind off of her freeloading.

 

[Anonemous]

Originally posted by: Nitemare

Originally posted by: Anonemous

Originally posted by: Nitemare

Originally posted by: Anonemous

Originally posted by: aplefka
Teh womenz? Pics or ban!

buy me a camera !

pretty plz!

*cough*

You mentioned she had one....

*cough* airport *cough*

There are cameras all over the airport, just bring one back

*okay* /packing to go to gitmo for the next elevnty billion years

 

[Greyd]

I've known a decent number of people that have been guests to other families in foreign countries. They were always treated like royalty. Usually they were students on "study abroad" trips. In lots of countries, hospitality is considered a privilege and duty. That being said - if I KNEW someone was coming and was having them as a GUEST - I would definately have provided for them. Unless they were staying for an extended period of time (ie year,etc)

Even then, I would have helped them a little more than just a couple of weeks. Lot's of people have a hard time away from home, especially in a foreign country where they don't know the language well. I've seen/heard tons of stories where american students go study abroad and do nothing but live in their own homemade "little america" rather than gettin get to know the country because they aren't/don't know how to be comfortable in a foreign setting.

Alot of the differences of hospitality seem to be cultural differences. But you probably shouldn't have agreed to take the kid on if you weren't going to be more involved with them.

 

[Pacfanweb]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: anno
if someone's at my house and it's time to eat, I'm gonna feed them.. whether I expected them to be there or not.. If someone's stayin' at my house, I expect to feed them.. trying to feed the rest of us and not the guest would be too awkward, we'd have to wait til the guest was away to eat ourselves.. it's rude to eat in front of people without offering them food too.. that just wouldn't do. I wouldn't have agreed to allow the person to stay with me for a month if i hadn't expected to feed her.. regardless of anything that might have been said beforehand, I would have expected to feed her. if the person had chosen not to eat with us that would be fine but I would hope if that was the case they would choose to be away from the house at meal times..

I'm sorry this was so stressful for your family, and that your guest had to cut her trip short..

Actually, I totally agree.

Me, too. Unless I was renting a room to someone, I'm not going to fix a meal and not offer it to them. I don't see how the person's nationality is an issue. They are your guest, and you agreed to have them stay there.

 

[anno]

Well anno, you are too kind. Can I stay at your place?

heh. I'm gonna need a little more information first.. but you're welcome to come for dinner.. it's the first day of spring break for my son, there are so many extra people here already I don't expect I'd notice another.

 

[BooGiMaN]

i dunno if your that hard up that feeding one more person for a month is such a burden then you definitly shouldn't be hosting a stranger or freind for a month.

i mean she is a stranger ina strange land and probably scared sh1tless with little communication between her and the host family and then to top it off she has to cut her stay short because of this..man that would suck

imagine what when on and the conversations at home when she got there...i mean that was pretty cold to throw her out because she was eating your food...

basically i would expect to interact and act as a host once i accepted to take anyone into my home. otherwise she should have been told to rent a room at the local hotel for the length of her stay...

 

[GroundZero]

call the I.N.S. and tell them that this person is really part of a sleeper cell

 

[Buck Armstrong]

Originally posted by: Pacfanweb

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: anno
if someone's at my house and it's time to eat, I'm gonna feed them.. whether I expected them to be there or not.. If someone's stayin' at my house, I expect to feed them.. trying to feed the rest of us and not the guest would be too awkward, we'd have to wait til the guest was away to eat ourselves.. it's rude to eat in front of people without offering them food too.. that just wouldn't do. I wouldn't have agreed to allow the person to stay with me for a month if i hadn't expected to feed her.. regardless of anything that might have been said beforehand, I would have expected to feed her. if the person had chosen not to eat with us that would be fine but I would hope if that was the case they would choose to be away from the house at meal times..

I'm sorry this was so stressful for your family, and that your guest had to cut her trip short..

Actually, I totally agree.

Me, too. Unless I was renting a room to someone, I'm not going to fix a meal and not offer it to them. I don't see how the person's nationality is an issue. They are your guest, and you agreed to have them stay there.

On top of all that, I'm sure this girl now thinks all Americans are stingy, inhospitable, petty-minded c0cksvckers who hate foreigners.

 

[Triforceofcourage]

If you have a guest stay at your house it is only common courtesy to feed them.

 

[slycat]

if ur kind enuff to take her in and agreed to it, then be magnanimous enough to provide her with 'stuff' ...to a limit. Since u guys are eating...feed her too. Its the decent thing to do. If you are not eating, fine. Since you are eating, how hard is it to add a plate and some grub? Don't be so calculative.

You accepted the task, the good deed. At least be kind enough to see it through. Sure, you never agreed to feed her but is it driving you to the poorhouse? If you really expected it to be just a smooth ride, then perhaps you are the naive one. Be the man, the good host, even if all you are getting are brownie points.

 

[Boshen]

Well, personally (I am a wee bit sexist in this regard), because she's female, she probably should be given more leeway than a guy. Especially Asian females, just because in general, they are a lot more passive and quiet about things.
Secondly, ain't Japanese culture a very hospitality oriented culture. She probably didn't think anything of it.

If it was a guy though, I'd expect more. But again, I'm sexist in that regard.

 

[yoda291]

In my home, if I offer someone a room to sleep in, it also implies food unless they refuse to accept. I mean, if you invite your friend over for a sleepover, do you mail them a bill for the chips and drinks? Hell even if they offered to split the cost I'd refuse outright. I mean, does she leave a mess around the house and expect you to clean after? If you ask her for help carrying stuff or cleaning, would she refuse? Goes really to the same principle. While in this country, her person and her well-being is your responsibility like it or not.

 

[Ikonomi]

Seems like I'd happily invite them to dinner if I agreed to such an imposition in the first place. Room and board and all. But I don't know. I've only been in similar situations a couple times, but I like providing.

 

[Sheepathon]

if you get her picture and post it online, that may be payment

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: Anonemous
They came to study for a month in an english program. They are given a room but it was made clear that they would be responsible for their own meals and themselves in general.

The person is very nice but naive. Example, stuffing half their suitcase with snacks as gifts for your family. But after 2 weeks of preparing 3 meals a day (and also footing the bill when eating out) and accomodations, the patience in your family is wearing thin, your mother and your sibling is getting angry, they're wondering if the guest expects to be fed the entire month.

Guest = 23 years old ; update: girl from japan

Honestly? If you already agreed to let them stay, the additional $90 it will take to feed them for a month isn't a huge deal.