<< lilcam, I see both sides of your story, but something in the way you present yourself and your situation stirs up eakers like anger in me towards you. As I think about the why of this, the most I can come up with is that you come accross as prissy and cold and judgemental and uncaring. >>
uncaring huh? im 21 and my family is quite stable. however, my mom is kinda whack, which i wont get into, but do you know i work FT and attend school FT to make ends meet? I dont ask my parents for money nor do they support me with my schooling. I pay my own tuition, buy my own clothes and do sh*t on my own. i basically learned sh*t on my own when my parents should've been there to lend me a hand. on top of that i am paying for my bro's tuition!!! uncaring huh? i guess i dont care when it comes to my bro not attending school cuz my mom wont pay for him, and at the age of 21 when i should be out partying with my friends, i am working during the day and going to school @ night while you're probably sitting at home chilling. my day doesnt end until late at night before i turn in for the next day. granted i know i have it easy in some ways compared to some other kids who are living on their own and stuff, but i consider myself lucky for not steering into a different path that leads into violence and drugs.
<< Yet, in my own heart, I sense that that's not the whole story. As I read further, I came to feel your own vulnerability in your own situation -- that you're just trying to hang on and make it your own damn self. OK, so maybe you have no margin for mercy, due to your own struggle. >>
yea im struggling, but im not poor or anything. i do have to worry about how i am going to pay for my books this coming semester or how the heck i am going to find 4 grand for my bro's tuition.
<< I guess my anger towards you stems from the fact that you turn to us and seem to expect us to affirm your own uncaring attitude. Like you seem to expect us to say, "Hey, lilcam, that's ok, you're a good guy." >>
i really dont care what ppl say about me. you have to understand where im coming from in order to understand and appreciate who i am. i appreciate those who have replied and given me advice, and i also appreciate those with the harsh comments, but hey you're free to say whatever you want. no hard feelings there. it's rough doing what i do and i get plenty of compliments from my co-workers. it's not everyday you find someone as young as i am doing what i do for myself along with my bro.
<< Well, I just can't give you this. I just can't say you're a good guy for turning your back on family. Maybe you're just another hurting pup trying to get by as best you can, but you're not a good guy, lilcam, not in my book, and I resent you're coming to us here for that sort of validation. >>
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