Would you rather...

[jamine]

Would you rather be with someone that is unreliable on petty issues (such as doing the laundry) or someone that is unreliable on the big issues (lying about their whereabouts, being shady, etc.)?

At the end of the day, isn't it more conducive to a relationship to say, "Hey, honey, I'll help you finish that load of laundry so that we can go to bed together." Instead of slamming doors and throwing accusatory remarks such as "you NEVER do the laundry" when that person just did it last weekend, and on top of that they put aside their responsibilities for the day so that you could enjoy your off day together. Wow look at that awful grammar.


Isn't one thread discussing your..err..dirty laundry enough??

 

[her209]

None of the above.

 

[Ricemarine]

Did zixxer just get owned?

 

[darkswordsman17]

Originally posted by: her209
None of the above.

Ding! Ding! Ding! We have a winner.

 

[Siddhartha]

I do my own laundry. I would not be with someone who lies about their whereabouts.

 

[intogamer]

Originally posted by: Ricemarine
Did zixxer just get owned?

By a troll? :Q

 

[kinev]

I knew that other thread got interesting!

Link

Someone's sleeping on the couch tonight!

 

[jamine]

Yeah and it's me.

 

[Dumac]

Originally posted by: jamine
Yeah and it's me.

 

[Ricemarine]

Originally posted by: jamine
Yeah and it's me.

TTIWWP.
Care to share?

 

[ChaoZ]

Originally posted by: her209
None of the above.

 

[thecoolnessrune]

Originally posted by: jamine
Yeah and it's me.

So go and start fixing the problem instead of trying to make a comeback here..

Geez.. :roll:

 

[jamine]

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune

Originally posted by: jamine
Yeah and it's me.

So go and start fixing the problem instead of trying to make a comeback here..

Geez.. :roll:

I thought about that but I'm a little confused. He always says that if someone is on the couch, it's the other person's responsibility to go into the living room and make up, yet when I'm the one on the couch, where is he? First he posted on here, then he went to bed. The double standards are killing me, I think I'll stick with the couch and the cats.

 

[tailes151]

Originally posted by: jamine

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune

Originally posted by: jamine
Yeah and it's me.

So go and start fixing the problem instead of trying to make a comeback here..

Geez.. :roll:

I thought about that but I'm a little confused. He always says that if someone is on the couch, it's the other person's responsibility to go into the living room and make up, yet when I'm the one on the couch, where is he? First he posted on here, then he went to bed. The double standards are killing me, I think I'll stick with the couch and the cats.

Pssht, not the couch. Just come over to my place. That'll teach him a lesson. Or something.

 

[bctbct]

Originally posted by: jamine

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune

Originally posted by: jamine
Yeah and it's me.

So go and start fixing the problem instead of trying to make a comeback here..

Geez.. :roll:

I thought about that but I'm a little confused. He always says that if someone is on the couch, it's the other person's responsibility to go into the living room and make up, yet when I'm the one on the couch, where is he? First he posted on here, then he went to bed. The double standards are killing me, I think I'll stick with the couch and the cats.

Now I get it, you're SO

yikes!!

 

[thecoolnessrune]

Originally posted by: jamine

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune

Originally posted by: jamine
Yeah and it's me.

So go and start fixing the problem instead of trying to make a comeback here..

Geez.. :roll:

I thought about that but I'm a little confused. He always says that if someone is on the couch, it's the other person's responsibility to go into the living room and make up, yet when I'm the one on the couch, where is he? First he posted on here, then he went to bed. The double standards are killing me, I think I'll stick with the couch and the cats.

Is the couch a magical safe zone or something? I would like one of those to be honest

In all seriousness though, a relationship doesn't survive on "owning up to one's faults and admitting wrongdoing." It unfortunately never works out that way. We men and women are hardheaded, arrogant, selfish, and greedy. Sometimes, to get the ball rolling again, you have to take initiative yourself.

I have apologized to my girl, even though in the back of my mind I felt I did nothing wrong, I still apologized, not for what I did, but because what I did hurt her.

If we will admit we made a mistake, no matter how small it is, and then both agree to fix it on the spot to where it NEVER has to be brought up again-- that is the answer to a sound relationship.

A relationship is never 50/50. its 100/100 or more. I know when I was sick with the flu, had a fever of 103, and still had 8 hours of school a day (I homeschool and we don't really get sick days) my gf was all I had. At that time it was definitely no more than 10/190. I was worthless to her, but she stayed by me and kept me built up.

And when she got her period and went into a state of... well... irritation.. I am going to say it was somewhere around 170/30. It all depends on the situation.

The point is you do what makes your SO happy. Now I'm not saying sex (I don't believe in premarrital sex to begin with but I'm not going to start preaching that). But you look at what you do that makes your SO upset and you FIX IT. No matter how big, or how trivial, you either nullify it, or you compromise on it.

 

[pyonir]

I'm glad i'm single...cause if no one does the laundry i have only myself to blame. And i don't have to worry about hanging out with lefty...cause righty won't get jealous if i don't tell.

*sigh*

 

[sygyzy]

Why do I have to choose. From the way he describes it, you're lazy and irresponsible and that gets old fast.

 

[akubi]

JERRY! JERRY! JERRY!

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: sygyzy
Why do I have to choose. From the way he describes it, you're lazy and irresponsible and that gets old fast.

yeap. but so does having a SO lie about spending time with his ex-gf.

as i said in the other thread this relationship is doomed.

 

[apac]

Does anyone else think it's absurd for a couple to be using ATOT as a mediator for their relationship issues? For crying out loud, just go talk to each other about it.

 

[dabuddha]

Shouldn't you be doing the laundry?

 

[deepred98]

Originally posted by: apac
Does anyone else think it's absurd for a couple to be using ATOT as a mediator for their relationship issues? For crying out loud, just go talk to each other about it.

QFMFT :thumbsup:

 

[ColdFusion718]

Originally posted by: jamine
Yeah and it's me.

Your bf made you sleep on the couch? I don't know what kind of standards you have, but you should probably look into getting a better bf who:

1). doesn't lie to you regarding his whereabouts. There are exceptions, though (e.g. he's out shopping for a birthday gift for you, then yeah he can lie about it to ensure said gift remains a surprise, you find out the real story later)

2). doesn't mistreat you even when he is angry.

Now I'm not saying I'm the perfect guy, but I've never made my S.O. sleep on the couch, even when the argument was her fault. Years ago when I was with this girl and she got mad at me over my having to work extra hours one day, she told me she was sleeping on the couch. I went outside and carried her to my room then took my blankets to the living room. I told her that even though I was angry at her, it doesn't mean I wouldn't be kind/sweet to her.

An S.O. is not just anyone. They're someone significant to you, hence the term.

It may seem like everyone is ganging up on your bf, but his personality is exhibited through his actions. Going to hang out with an ex and then lying about it spells scum in my book.

 

[xtknight]

I'd rather live on my own.