Wow, My Friend Is A True Douchebag

[eits]

Originally posted by: GuideBot

Originally posted by: eits
so, i got my friend a christmas present... i was finally able to give it to him and when he opened it, he basically just kinda tossed it to the side and said, "hmm... ok? um... ok..."

he never said thanks or anything... showed no appreciation whatsoever. it was very obvious he didn't like it, but wtf? at least he could have PRETENDED to appreciate the gift... the least he could have done was at least say thank you.

it wasn't like i didn't put any thought into the gift... he doesn't like paying for tasty food and he doesn't like cooking real meals because of all the prep time and clean up. so, i got him this. it's pretty damn awesome... it basically has pictures of the ingredients you need (which typically is something along the lines of a canned good, some cheese, a dish of some kind, and other really easy, cheap food items).

i'm pretty damn pissed... i mean... at least a thank you... SOMETHING... what a dick!

edit: let me just reiterate the fact that he was genuinely disappointed with the gift he got...

update: before writing this post, i called my friend and told him that if he didn't like it, he could leave it at our friends' house (we were all hanging out there and he started playing wii with another friend... i left to come home to get a phone number of a place i had to call before 6) and i would gladly take it off his unappreciative hands...

update 2: i talked to my friend (tony) who was there during the gift giving and he said that he told my friend (dave, the guy to whom i gave the gift) that it was pretty damn fvcked up of him to act that way. dave said that he's always been a really shytty gift receiver and that he never really quite knows how to react when he receives gifts. it always comes out as if he is ungrateful or unappreciative or that he hates the gift. *shrug*

Don't give gifts to people, banking on their response. Give them the gift without hoping for something in return.

expecting a "thank you" or some sort of appreciation isn't expecting anything in return... it's called proper manners. it's completely different than expecting a gift or favors or money in return...

 

[ScottFern]

Thats a pretty cool gift, its unique. F your friend!

 

[mugs]

Originally posted by: eits
update 2: i talked to my friend (tony) who was there during the gift giving and he said that he told my friend (dave, the guy to whom i gave the gift) that it was pretty damn fvcked up of him to act that way. dave said that he's always been a really shytty gift receiver and that he never really quite knows how to react when he receives gifts. it always comes out as if he is ungrateful or unappreciative or that he hates the gift. *shrug*

I'm bad at receiving gifts too... I hate receiving gifts. But I don't come across as hating the gift.

 

[ultimatebob]

Funny, I would have liked getting a gift like that. It shows that you put some thought into it, and didn't just get something lame like an iTunes gift card at the last minute.

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: ultimatebob
Funny, I would have liked getting a gift like that. It shows that you put some thought into it, and didn't just get something lame like an iTunes gift card at the last minute.

haha that's one of the gifts my best friend got me, actually... he's shyt at getting gifts. he got me a gift card to starbucks and a gift card to itunes.

 

[Amused]

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: zinfamous

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: Amused
Sorry, but I would have felt the same way. That is a very lame gift, in my opinion.

yeah, but you're OBVIOUSLY a douchebag... that's the difference.

what's your problem? you don't have to be an ass. he apologized for his honesty, and he was right. you'll figure it out when you get older

i wasn't being an ass... i was being honest and explaining why there's a difference between him and anyone i'd call a friend.

The best friend you will ever have will be honest with you, rather than acting like they like something just to stroke your ego. If you want an ego stroker, go hire a hooker or something.

If honesty makes me a douchebag, then I'm a douchebag. Hell, at least as a douchebag I'll be seeing more pussy than you ever will.

 

[Rogodin2]

His response was rude. There is no excuse to act that way.

Rogo

 

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: ultimatebob
Funny, I would have liked getting a gift like that. It shows that you put some thought into it, and didn't just get something lame like an iTunes gift card at the last minute.

haha that's one of the gifts my best friend got me, actually... he's shyt at getting gifts. he got me a gift card to starbucks and a gift card to itunes.

Buying a cookbook for another man, itunes, starbucks...

You fit into the smug liberal stereotype very nicely.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: 91TTZ

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: ultimatebob
Funny, I would have liked getting a gift like that. It shows that you put some thought into it, and didn't just get something lame like an iTunes gift card at the last minute.

haha that's one of the gifts my best friend got me, actually... he's shyt at getting gifts. he got me a gift card to starbucks and a gift card to itunes.

Buying a cookbook for another man, itunes, starbucks...

You fit into the smug liberal stereotype very nicely.

I am not agreeing with twinturbo, but if I got something (and I looked at the gift and even the coverart doesn't save it) that said A Man, A Can...i'd be thinking something I would not want to deal with.

giftcards for me: sears mostly...walmart super stores work as well. Personally I like the stupid gifts with no value to most people. I can buy the stuff I need. I love getting the things I never thought I would. The next best thing is good gift cards. Then comes the gift that I could not, would not ever use and now cannot spend the time to return it. I must throw it out. I would have loved you to just donate that money to one of the charities I give to.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: eits
so, i got my friend a christmas present... i was finally able to give it to him and when he opened it, he basically just kinda tossed it to the side and said, "hmm... ok? um... ok..."

he never said thanks or anything... showed no appreciation whatsoever. it was very obvious he didn't like it, but wtf? at least he could have PRETENDED to appreciate the gift... the least he could have done was at least say thank you.

it wasn't like i didn't put any thought into the gift... he doesn't like paying for tasty food and he doesn't like cooking real meals because of all the prep time and clean up. so, i got him this. it's pretty damn awesome... it basically has pictures of the ingredients you need (which typically is something along the lines of a canned good, some cheese, a dish of some kind, and other really easy, cheap food items).

i'm pretty damn pissed... i mean... at least a thank you... SOMETHING... what a dick!

edit: let me just reiterate the fact that he was genuinely disappointed with the gift he got...

update: before writing this post, i called my friend and told him that if he didn't like it, he could leave it at our friends' house (we were all hanging out there and he started playing wii with another friend... i left to come home to get a phone number of a place i had to call before 6) and i would gladly take it off his unappreciative hands...

update 2: i talked to my friend (tony) who was there during the gift giving and he said that he told my friend (dave, the guy to whom i gave the gift) that it was pretty damn fvcked up of him to act that way. dave said that he's always been a really shytty gift receiver and that he never really quite knows how to react when he receives gifts. it always comes out as if he is ungrateful or unappreciative or that he hates the gift. *shrug*

you are having this big a fit over an $11 cookbook that you ordered from amazon? :Q

 

[EmperorIQ]

Originally posted by: TheNinja
Ya, if you get a gift, at least pretend to like it and then just return it or re-gift it later. If you don't show any appreciation at all (especially since you put thought into it) it's just rude.

what if sometimes you truly aren't a good actor?

For all of my birthdays I insist that my friends do not get me gifts, and I insist that if they do get it for me that I open it without them looking.

I like to be honest, very honest, and if I don't like something, I don't say that its great, I just say thanks, it was thoughtful, but I know that on the outside it doesn't look like i like the gift. So I won't make up a bs excuse and say "oh man, this is cool i'll try it out man" when i really won't.

Originally posted by: GuideBot

Originally posted by: eits
so, i got my friend a christmas present... i was finally able to give it to him and when he opened it, he basically just kinda tossed it to the side and said, "hmm... ok? um... ok..."

he never said thanks or anything... showed no appreciation whatsoever. it was very obvious he didn't like it, but wtf? at least he could have PRETENDED to appreciate the gift... the least he could have done was at least say thank you.

it wasn't like i didn't put any thought into the gift... he doesn't like paying for tasty food and he doesn't like cooking real meals because of all the prep time and clean up. so, i got him this. it's pretty damn awesome... it basically has pictures of the ingredients you need (which typically is something along the lines of a canned good, some cheese, a dish of some kind, and other really easy, cheap food items).

i'm pretty damn pissed... i mean... at least a thank you... SOMETHING... what a dick!

edit: let me just reiterate the fact that he was genuinely disappointed with the gift he got...

update: before writing this post, i called my friend and told him that if he didn't like it, he could leave it at our friends' house (we were all hanging out there and he started playing wii with another friend... i left to come home to get a phone number of a place i had to call before 6) and i would gladly take it off his unappreciative hands...

update 2: i talked to my friend (tony) who was there during the gift giving and he said that he told my friend (dave, the guy to whom i gave the gift) that it was pretty damn fvcked up of him to act that way. dave said that he's always been a really shytty gift receiver and that he never really quite knows how to react when he receives gifts. it always comes out as if he is ungrateful or unappreciative or that he hates the gift. *shrug*

Don't give gifts to people, banking on their response. Give them the gift without hoping for something in return.

totally agree. When i give gifts to people I hope that they love it, but when they don't I get disappointed in myself for not finding the right gift and I try harder the next go around. I have a couple of friends who always expect something in return, and I really don't like that attitude.

 

[0roo0roo]

think it was in psychology today or something where they said it was worse to suffer bad reaction to gift than to not recieve a gift at all

 

[dartworth]

Is your friend named ChooChoo...?

If so, that would explain it...

 

[animalia]

can I have it?

 

[aidanjm]

maybe this friend just isn't a very pleasant or decent person. time to move on to new friends, perhaps.

 

[Captante]

It was impolite of him to act the way he did because it really is the thought & effort put into choosing the gift that counts .... at the very least "thanks but I'll never use it... can I exchange it for somthing I'd like more" is appropriate.

I would have liked it myself because I'm always looking for new stuff to cook.

 

[Beev]

I never, ever cook for myself. I would have loved that book.

On behalf of your friend, thanks.

 

[TallBill]

You would rather have him fake being excited?

My uncle bought me $300 watch once, that I didn't want/need/like, and couldn't fake the excitement. He ended up returning it, and paid for 12 months at a gym instead.

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: TallBill
You would rather have him fake being excited?

My uncle bought me $300 watch once, that I didn't want/need/like, and couldn't fake the excitement. He ended up returning it, and paid for 12 months at a gym instead.

i never said i would have wanted him to be excited about the gift... i said that i could have been just fine if he said thank you or at least pretended to be appreciative of the fact that he got anything at all.

anyways, updated.

 

[Marinski]

You're right, he could have atleast said thanks. But, most guys think if another guy bought them a cook book he's a queer or somthing.

 

[Liviathan]

You sound like a chick with all the complaining.

 

[chrisms]

You're not his girlfriend.. I don't think he really cares if you bitch at him. What he did was rude but I would've just marked him off as a jackass and moved on. Now you've started all sorts of drama that your friends probably don't care about.

 

[sandorski]

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
I think you're the dick for giving a gift and expecting a thanks. A true gift comes from the heart with no expectation of anything in return.

I kinda live by that philosophy(if it can be called that), but most people are like the OP and require some sort of acknowledgement. The guy could have chuckled about it or said "I'll give it a shot" or joked about his cooking abilities or something. One doesn't need to wax on how it's the best gift ever to please the Giver.

 

[sandorski]

Originally posted by: zinfamous
guys don't give guys cookbooks. I can imagine why he was confused. you should have gotten him a dvd; porn perhaps.

better yet, it's best not to exchange gifts. what if he doesn't have one for you? now he feels obligated. not only that, you have established a gifting line with him for years to come. now, you iwll both feel obligated to buy gifts for each other on christmas. this is why christmas sucks--too much stress trying to find the right gifts for all these people (and don't think that they don't feel the same way...), meanwhile you're tryign to figure out how to pay bills, rent, whatever fo rthe next two years.

best gifting policy: keep it in the family and among significant others. everyone is much happier that way

A Beer "Cookbook" would be awesome!

 

[Tiamat]

Originally posted by: Aflac
remove him from your friend's list