waggy
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- Dec 14, 2000
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Originally posted by: Jeff7
I guess I'm in the minority here. It seemed like a practical way of handling the situation. TechBoyJK already donates to other charities, and he wanted to know why this one was more deserving. Then, seeing that this one wasn't bringing in much, he offered to help. This offer was apparently misinterpreted. I think the misinterpretation came from the "I think you can do better than $25" part. I interpret that as "You can bring in more than $25 from other people to aid your cause." She interpreted it as an insult, in the context of "You only donated $25, and you should have given more."
Sometimes people don't want to say, "OMG LOOK AT ME! I'm so much better than you! Watch me wave my experience in your face!!!!"
Sometimes people simply have experience or knowledge, and they want to use it to help someone else.
But of course with kindness vs arrogance, we too often tend to assume it's arrogance. Charming.
you are partialy right. it was kind of him to offer to help. wich was refused the first time by ignoring it. ok i can understand him not getting the message then.
so eh offeres again. She lets him know she does not need it. its not something that really needs such expertise.
so what does he do? he insults her and makes light of her $25 and pretty much says without his expertise she won't do any better.
the fact is the OP has crap people skills. he should have seen the signs or not ignore them. Then he chooses his words very poorly.
to top it off eh DEMANDS a apology from her for it.