WTF are people so inconsiderate?

[TwinkleToes77]

skip the wedding and go straight to the reception. They wont notice you missing at the ceremony, but will more than likely notice they shelled out $$$ for your dinner and you arent there oh and if you are approached at the reception just say "that was a beautiful ceremony"

 

[chrisms]

Good thing I've never been to a wedding

 

[SLU MD]

i am in the process of planning my wedding for summer of 2006. Catholic weddings can not be held later than 2 PM. i've tried to talk to priests at 3 different churches about moving the time back, but they will not allow it.

So what do you want the couple to do, have dinner at 4? its no ones fault but the damn church.

DONT start this as an ideologic argument against or for a church as losers tend to do here on ATOT.

it sucks, but thats the way it is. dont like it suck it.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: MikeyIs4Dcats

agreed....we are planning our wedding now, and we are going out of our way to make sure the GUESTS have a great time. We are getting what we want...our marriage. I'm glad people care enough to take time to attend, and therefore I want them to enjoy it.

That's a great attitude. Congrats.

 

[MikeyIs4Dcats]

Originally posted by: SLU MD
i am in the process of planning my wedding for summer of 2006. Catholic weddings can not be held later than 2 PM. i've tried to talk to priests at 3 different churches about moving the time back, but they will not allow it.

So what do you want the couple to do, have dinner at 4? its no ones fault but the damn church.

DONT start this as an ideologic argument against or for a church as losers tend to do here on ATOT.

it sucks, but thats the way it is. dont like it suck it.

sure they can, a good friend and an old roommate both had catholic cermonies in late afternoon. Maybe thats only if you want a full mass...

 

[Fritzo]

What are you talking about...that's normal! I was a caterer for 10 years- weddings usually go like this:

1- ceremony 1:00-2:00
2- bride and groom ride in limo, prepare for reception 2:30-5:30
3- reception: 6:00 pm
4- toast: 6:45pm
4- dinner: 7pm
5- first dance, father-daughter dance: 8pm
6- cut cake 10pm
7- End- 12:00am

They're not being inconciderate, they're preparing to feed your hungry a$$

 

[SLU MD]

sorry for some confusion, but yeah a full mass on SATURDAY. friday night weddings are acceptable. but they pose a whole new problem of people coming into town after work, etc.

 

[MikeyIs4Dcats]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
What are you talking about...that's normal! I was a caterer for 10 years- weddings usually go like this:

1- ceremony 1:00-2:00
2- bride and groom ride in limo, prepare for reception 2:30-5:30
3- reception: 6:00 pm
4- toast: 6:45pm
4- dinner: 7pm
5- first dance, father-daughter dance: 8pm
6- cut cake 10pm
7- End- 12:00am

They're not being inconciderate, they're preparing to feed your hungry a$$

trust me, the bride and groom and wedding party are doing nothing but taking pictures, having a beer, and waiting like the rest of us. Most of the pictures can be taken before the ceremony. The caterer and entertainment casn set up during the cermeony. They need nothing from the bride and groom unless tghere has been poor planning.

 

[TwinkleToes77]

Originally posted by: SLU MD
i am in the process of planning my wedding for summer of 2006. Catholic weddings can not be held later than 2 PM. i've tried to talk to priests at 3 different churches about moving the time back, but they will not allow it.

So what do you want the couple to do, have dinner at 4? its no ones fault but the damn church.

DONT start this as an ideologic argument against or for a church as losers tend to do here on ATOT.

it sucks, but thats the way it is. dont like it suck it.

That's BS.. I was married in a Catholic Church, on the 1st weekend of Lent. At 3pm. It also didnt matter if it was going to be a full mass or not. We set the date/time with the priest before we discussed what style we wanted.

 

[shilala]

It's the price of love, baby.

 

[MikeyIs4Dcats]

well, I'm off...somebody have fun for me~

 

[rh71]

Originally posted by: MikeyIs4Dcats

Originally posted by: Fritzo
What are you talking about...that's normal! I was a caterer for 10 years- weddings usually go like this:

1- ceremony 1:00-2:00
2- bride and groom ride in limo, prepare for reception 2:30-5:30
3- reception: 6:00 pm
4- toast: 6:45pm
4- dinner: 7pm
5- first dance, father-daughter dance: 8pm
6- cut cake 10pm
7- End- 12:00am

They're not being inconciderate, they're preparing to feed your hungry a$$

trust me, the bride and groom and wedding party are doing nothing but taking pictures, having a beer, and waiting like the rest of us. Most of the pictures can be taken before the ceremony. The caterer and entertainment casn set up during the cermeony. They need nothing from the bride and groom unless tghere has been poor planning.

so you're suggesting the marrying couple is doing it to screw with you guys ? Things are being done, they're not sitting on their a$$es laughing at your expense.

Anyway, for our wedding, after the ceremony, we took pictures with people who attended. And just before the seating for the reception, more pictures because it's a new venue. We could've maybe done without 30 of those minutes but you don't plan to cut it close like that. Weddings = better safe than sorry. Again, it's not about the guests. They usually understand.

BTW, pictures before the ceremony ? I thought you've been married. How did you guys have time the morning of to take pictures ? Maybe a difference in customs but we had a sh!tload to do that morning. We woke at 630am - 7am and it was still rushed up until ceremony time. For Americans, there's that other custom of not seeing the bride before the actual ceremony so pics can't happen before anyway.

All things considered, the guests can deal... the ones who can't, don't show up for the ceremony.

 

[K1052]

Well the last wedding that I went to had all my best friends at it so we camped out in the hotel bar until the reception began. It was a good time all around.

I am really glad I was able to go since the groom, my friend, was killed this February.

 

[fatty4ksu]

Mikey, iam4thecatsaswell

 

[sao123]

Originally posted by: rh71

Originally posted by: MikeyIs4Dcats

Originally posted by: Fritzo
What are you talking about...that's normal! I was a caterer for 10 years- weddings usually go like this:

1- ceremony 1:00-2:00
2- bride and groom ride in limo, prepare for reception 2:30-5:30
3- reception: 6:00 pm
4- toast: 6:45pm
4- dinner: 7pm
5- first dance, father-daughter dance: 8pm
6- cut cake 10pm
7- End- 12:00am

They're not being inconciderate, they're preparing to feed your hungry a$$

trust me, the bride and groom and wedding party are doing nothing but taking pictures, having a beer, and waiting like the rest of us. Most of the pictures can be taken before the ceremony. The caterer and entertainment casn set up during the cermeony. They need nothing from the bride and groom unless tghere has been poor planning.

so you're suggesting the marrying couple is doing it to screw with you guys ? Things are being done, they're not sitting on their a$$es laughing at your expense.

Anyway, for our wedding, after the ceremony, we took pictures with people who attended. And just before the seating for the reception, more pictures because it's a new venue. We could've maybe done without 30 of those minutes but you don't plan to cut it close like that. Weddings = better safe than sorry. Again, it's not about the guests. They usually understand.

BTW, pictures before the ceremony ? I thought you've been married. How did you guys have time the morning of to take pictures ? Maybe a difference in customs but we had a sh!tload to do that morning. We woke at 630am - 7am and it was still rushed up until ceremony time. For Americans, there's that other custom of not seeing the bride before the actual ceremony so pics can't happen before anyway.

All things considered, the guests can deal... the ones who can't, don't show up for the ceremony.

QFT

 

[LordSnailz]

ouch, we're the worse then. 11am ceremony, reception at 6pm. 11am was the only timeslot available and 6pm is the earliest the restaurant will do the banquet. It's not like we chose to stretch out the day ...

 

[purbeast0]

hell i went to a wedding 2 weekends ago.

wedding was at 12pm, reception started at 5pm and went to midnight.

man what a FUN day though . the party was great!

 

[Nightfall]

My wife and I went to a wedding with similar circumstances. We had a few hours to kill between the wedding and the banquet. So we went shopping after the wedding, got something to eat, and otherwise just spent time together. For those long boring moments, I broke out the gameboy.

 

[Nitemare]

Don't go?

 

[dquan97]

I think my wedding was at 2-3pm and reception at 4pm. We took pictures before and mid-reception.

 

[alent1234]

This was my wedding day schedule

1:30pm - 6pm was pictures at several locations
7pm cocktail hour
8pm ceremony
9:30pm - 11:30pm dinner
12:30am cake cutting

I got out of there around 2am

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: MikeyIs4Dcats
We're going to a wedding today for my fiance's ex-roommate in anotgher city about an hour from hear. I just found out the wedding is at 2, the reception is at 6 and dinner is at 7.

It pisses me off to think that I have to spend the next 9 to 10 hours devoted to somebody's wedding that I don't even know. On a perfectly good Saturday. Gah...and I've got a ton of stuff I was going to do later today before I leave town Monday...

jerks...

get drunk in between and make a ruckus and a fool of yourself at the reception

 

[Kelemvor]

Good Bridges and Grooms make arrangements for things for guests to do in between the two if there's a long wait. Normally there isn't more than a couple hours because most people do pictures and such in between. If nothing else there should be maybe a 2 hour delay and then have a cocktail hour or something before the reception. If you are from out of town, lots of people go back to the hotel to veg for a while. Or find a park to go to or something.

But man, having like 4 hours in between is just rude. But lots of times people frmo the wedding will all go somewhere together to pass the time.

 

[crystal]

Originally posted by: sao123

Originally posted by: rh71

Originally posted by: MikeyIs4Dcats

Originally posted by: Fritzo
What are you talking about...that's normal! I was a caterer for 10 years- weddings usually go like this:

1- ceremony 1:00-2:00
2- bride and groom ride in limo, prepare for reception 2:30-5:30
3- reception: 6:00 pm
4- toast: 6:45pm
4- dinner: 7pm
5- first dance, father-daughter dance: 8pm
6- cut cake 10pm
7- End- 12:00am

They're not being inconciderate, they're preparing to feed your hungry a$$

trust me, the bride and groom and wedding party are doing nothing but taking pictures, having a beer, and waiting like the rest of us. Most of the pictures can be taken before the ceremony. The caterer and entertainment casn set up during the cermeony. They need nothing from the bride and groom unless tghere has been poor planning.

so you're suggesting the marrying couple is doing it to screw with you guys ? Things are being done, they're not sitting on their a$$es laughing at your expense.

Anyway, for our wedding, after the ceremony, we took pictures with people who attended. And just before the seating for the reception, more pictures because it's a new venue. We could've maybe done without 30 of those minutes but you don't plan to cut it close like that. Weddings = better safe than sorry. Again, it's not about the guests. They usually understand.

BTW, pictures before the ceremony ? I thought you've been married. How did you guys have time the morning of to take pictures ? Maybe a difference in customs but we had a sh!tload to do that morning. We woke at 630am - 7am and it was still rushed up until ceremony time. For Americans, there's that other custom of not seeing the bride before the actual ceremony so pics can't happen before anyway.

All things considered, the guests can deal... the ones who can't, don't show up for the ceremony.

QFT

Agree.
BTW, if the reception is at a different location. The seating usually take at least an hour because not all the guests will arrive at same time.
If it bother you so much, skip it. With the chaos, you will not be missed.