Reading that article was a bit unsettling. At times, it sounded a bit too familiar.
Originally posted by: TehMac
Being bullied is no excuse for shooting. I've been bullied a ton, "its all light hearted fun" they said, but its grating. It is not enough to shoot innocents.
If you're not adequately resistant to it, you wind up feeling utterly helpless after awhile. Putting up with it year, after year, after year, after year, not knowing any way of stopping it, not understanding why it's happening, and with the adults around you not expressing much interest or effort in stopping it, it can push someone over the edge.
Originally posted by: Phokus
Originally posted by: 91TTZ
Originally posted by: Phokus
People accept bullying in school like it's something you just go through. It shouldn't be that way.
Most people that get continuously bullied bring it on themselves through their own actions. They just don't know it.
The kids that I remember getting bullied were annoying and oafish. Some of these people were so damn pathetic that they'd cause otherwise calm kids to bully them.
My friend got bullied a lot. He'd always end up crying and begging for mercy. It was so damn pathetic yet he couldn't see it. He wouldn't hit anyone back because he though he'd get sent to jail, so people would just keep on picking on him.
Even now he won't hit anyone back.
And you're blaming your friend for that? That's more idiotic than saying a rape victim got raped because she dressed sexy and deserved it. The altercations i got into, i fought back, but that was because i was extremely angry at the time. Not everyone is a 'macho gangsta' willing to fight back. :disgust:
I'm going to end here with you because i know this is going go on ad infinitum for pages on end. :disgust:
91TTZ's response doesn't surprise me. I'd expect the same of Icebergslim, if he might drop by this thread.
Originally posted by: 91TTZ
But your attitude seems so poor and cowardly that I can honestly say that I'd get satisfaction by roughing you up a bit.
How's life back there with your Stone Age brain still in full command? Species as low down on the evolutionary tree as reptiles engage in that sort of behavior. Nice to see you're making yourself at home with that mentality. Let me know when you're ready to use more than your brain stem.
Originally posted by: Phokus
Nobody said it was, but this kid had serious mental health issues and it's not being addressed in schools. Teachers and administrators turn a blind eye.
That's just it - there's a pre-existing mental instability or problem, and it may even be a result of this that the bullying is brought on. Others see this, and they engage in the primitive behavior of attacking the weak, even of their own species. If someone's mental state is already abnormal, their perceptions are different, and their reactions are not easily predicted. Some people might complain to their friends about it for support, or maybe use their circle of friends to help ward off or discourage potential verbal/physical attacks. The shooter may have had no people whom he felt he could trust, which would only add to the sense of helplessness and isolation. After so much of this, the only solution seems to be the most final one - death.
I was never physically bullied. I came from a tame school; I only witnessed one fight in all my years at school. It was verbal taunting, and exclusion from groups. It started around 2nd grade, and only relented because I left the building for good, when I graduated. I never hit anyone though. Despite my dad suggesting that I punch someone, I believed that words did not warrant physical attacks. That, and I weighed less than people a few years younger than me. I don't doubt that, as a high school senior, freshman could have beaten me in a fight, because most of them were still taller and bigger than me. I was 110lbs when I finished high school. And I knew full well that losing in a fight would accomplish absolutely nothing positive.
I guess there were fantasies about others whom I strongly disliked dying off. It seemed like there was nothing else that could stop them. But I never at all considered doing it. I didn't like the idea of hitting someone. Killing was just out of the question. I'd sooner take my own life than harm another for verbal harassment. I also lacked the shooter's apparently violent mind. His writings, the little bits I've read, were unlike anything I'd come up with. The most violent act I engage in is playing computer games, and even now I mainly play Simcity4.
It's quite difficult to keep a reason in mind to go to a place every day where you know you're going to be berated at every turn. They made fun of everything: how I walked, how I dressed, my hair, glasses, speech, writing, vocabulary, the fact that I'd sleep on the bus, my backpack, the fact that I did my homework, my choice of friends, the food I liked, the music I liked, and the list goes on. What I "learned" in school was that most of the people there hated every last minute detail about me.
I eventually learned ways of minimizing the abuse. Eye contact often would bring it on, so I made eye contact with no one. That persists to this day. I can't bear the thought of eye contact. I don't like speaking to people as I pass. I don't like leaving home, as home is "safe." I dislike crowds, but then I've always hated crowds. Before kindergarten, at a birthday party, I told a room of cheerful relatives to "BE QUIET!!!!" when they were singing to me. God I hated that noise and attention. All I remember to this day when I think about that time is just a feeling of horrible rage. I was stuck in a high chair at the time and couldn't get down. I was trapped, and freaking the hell out.
So I never liked crowds, or groups of people, or social situations. Even before the taunting began in school, I preferred either being by myself, or with adults. Other kids just seemed too, well, childish. Adults usually spoke clearly and concisely. Kids my age didn't.
Take that predisposition, and then put a person like that into school, where everything is geared toward socialization, often times mandatory. If I could do a group project by myself, I would. Working with others felt like a waste of time. Talking to someone else, keeping them up to my speed, just was a drain on me. I could get work done, or be bothered by someone else who didn't really care about the project or know what was going on.
About to end this punctuated rant (yes, this is punctuated for me), I will close by just reinforcing, I do not condone what Cho Seung-Hui did, not at all. What was done to him still does not warrant violence. Unfortunately for all involved, it seems that he might have posessed mental instabilities or imperfections from the beginning. Change that, and what seems completely insane to a "normal" person will make perfect, logical sense to someone like him. And in his mind, he KNOWS his solution is the only one. He doesn't just think it, he knows it, knows it to be true with all that he is. And reasoning with someone like that isn't easy - what is reasonable to others is chaos to him. To reason, one must first understand, and it seems that either no one tried to understand, or else he blocked out or rejected any attempts to do so. The result was a tragedy. Sadly, it has happened before and it seems that not enough was done to prevent it. And, like so many other events in history, despite people saying that, "We must remember this, and learn from it, so that it might never happen again," it also tends to come to pass that, "It's happened before, it will happen again."