YABT: I'm really really frustrated on what to do.

[manlymatt83]

Okay, so there are a few things I've learned about myself over the past few months.

First, I know that I don't want to live alone anymore. Its worthless for me to spend $1500/month with utilities on an apartment that I'm hardly at that is way too big for me.

Second, I know that I NEED TO save money. I notice my existing debt just staying caput, and I need to work on paying that down.

So I have two options at this point.

1) Move in with my friend Nikki's family. They have a spare bedroom. Pay them $500/month rent. I get along with them very well, their entire family actually. This would involve staying at my current job. Nikki I would have to say is probably my best friend, so it works out.

2) Take an outstanding job offer I have in Boston and move up there to live with two girls I met on craigslist (they have a town home and a spare bedroom). Rent would be $750/month with utilities, but I would also get a significant raise (20% raise) at the new job, and it would be living near Boston, which would be nice and I'd like that.

So AnandTech ... this one is tough. I lean towards #2, but I'm not sure.

Can anyone with any kind of experience in this offer some insight, so I can stop all the threads and bouncing back and forth?

Thanks,

MJ

 

[KillerCharlie]

Holy crap man... this is like the billionth time you've posted something like this.

 

[sygyzy]

This is ATOT. Why don't you tell the truth - you want to move back home with mommy and daddy.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: KillerCharlie
Holy crap man... this is like the billionth time you've posted something like this.

Nah, actually the first with specific decisions like this.

The difference here is these are my ONLY two options. its finite.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: sygyzy
This is ATOT. Why don't you tell the truth - you want to move back home with mommy and daddy.

Oh god no.

 

[KillerCharlie]

You are completely incapable of making a decision.

 

[compuwiz1]

Howabout, you just pull your lower lip over your head and swallow. That should take care of everything, as well as relieve ATOT of your posts.

 

[Alone]

1.

 

[Orsorum]

As a poster who used to ask endless questions of the ATOT abyss, I will tell you this: choose what makes the most sense financially and emotionally, and stick with it. Make it, and make it work for you.

 

[Luthien]

Take the new better job and get your own cheap appartment for $500 - $700 a month?

 

[TallBill]

Well option number two will force 2 major changes in your life. If you can handle that, then go for it.

I personally dont think I'd enjoy living with an entire family, but thats just me. Living with 2 women could be either good or horrible.

 

[RallyMaster]

1.5

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: Luthien
Take the new better job and get your own cheap appartment for $500 - $700 a month?

I don't want to live alone. Not an option.

 

[Alone]

Considering how many YAGT's you post, I think you'd be very frustrated living with two women.

 

[Sukhoi]

Stop posting?

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: Alone
Considering how many YAGT's you post, I think you'd be very frustrated living with two women.

Nah

 

[sjwaste]

#2. Don't post it again.

750/mo isn't bad. Boston is great. If they're at least normal, random roomates mean meeting some new people, which it sounds like you want to do.

What does your family think? As much as they wanted me to stay closer to home, they told me to take the better opportunity (although im only a 3 hr drive now)

 

[Alone]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak

Originally posted by: Alone
Considering how many YAGT's you post, I think you'd be very frustrated living with two women.

Nah

Bullsh!t.

 

[George P Burdell]

What do you have against male roommates?

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: sjwaste
#2. Don't post it again.

750/mo isn't bad. Boston is great. If they're at least normal, random roomates mean meeting some new people, which it sounds like you want to do.

What does your family think? As much as they wanted me to stay closer to home, they told me to take the better opportunity (although im only a 3 hr drive now)

Yeah, they are decent people.

I'd miss a lot about Jersey, because its where I've been all of my life... but maybe its good to tear myself away from that for a while. I can always come back and settle down here.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: George P Burdell
What do you have against male roommates?

I'm a very clean guy, and I like quiet. I tend to get along better with women.

 

[angminas]

I'd very likely move in with people I knew over people I met on a computer. But since you're kinda friends with them already, and you're friends with Nikki, you're probably going to need to be pretty nice and responsible and such. It's not likely to be the same laissez-faire kind of thing as with stranger roommates. Saving $1k a month and living with nice people is worth a little extra effort. Nice people are not easy to find, especially when you live with them.

Of course, I don't have enough data to analyze your job or your current city. But the new job and city would have to be pretty nice to upstage #1 IMNSHO.

 

[Steve]

As appealing as #1 sounds, I say #2 as the former could risk ruining your friendship and relationship with Nikki and her family. Living with people you already know changes things, sometimes for the worse.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: sm8000
As appealing as #1 sounds, I say #2 as the former could risk ruining your friendship and relationship with Nikki and her family. Living with people you already know changes things, sometimes for the worse.

Yeah. I understand. But it would mean moving far away from them... 5 hours. But maybe the change would be good.

Such a tough decision, although this is a very good point.

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Okay, so there are a few things I've learned about myself over the past few months.

First, I know that I don't want to live alone anymore. Its worthless for me to spend $1500/month with utilities on an apartment that I'm hardly at that is way too big for me.

Second, I know that I NEED TO save money. I notice my existing debt just staying caput, and I need to work on paying that down.

So I have two options at this point.

1) Move in with my friend Nikki's family. They have a spare bedroom. Pay them $500/month rent. I get along with them very well, their entire family actually. This would involve staying at my current job. Nikki I would have to say is probably my best friend, so it works out.

2) Take an outstanding job offer I have in Boston and move up there to live with two girls I met on craigslist (they have a town home and a spare bedroom). Rent would be $750/month with utilities, but I would also get a significant raise (20% raise) at the new job, and it would be living near Boston, which would be nice and I'd like that.

So AnandTech ... this one is tough. I lean towards #2, but I'm not sure.

Can anyone with any kind of experience in this offer some insight, so I can stop all the threads and bouncing back and forth?

Thanks,

MJ

goto Boston. besides having the possibility of a drunken 3some w/the girls, it's a raise and a new city = new adventure in life!

take the road less traveled. dont be afraid of the unknown. pull that trigger!

<------------ wishes i can take my own advice