Originally posted by: SirChadwick
Originally posted by: SearchMaster
Tell her the new hairstyle pushed her up that extra point.
Actually I'll come up w/ something better tonight and just tell her how much we've been through and grown together. It put her up another point simply b/c she puts up w/ my crap.
Wait, nevermind that will just cause more drama. How about I just end myself?
Good idea. She cried because you rated her a 9?Originally posted by: KarmaPolice
tell her to grow up
Originally posted by: moshquerade
and you are going to marry that?
wow.... good luck with that life.
Originally posted by: silverpig
Ha same. Sometimes when she's across the room, I'll pretend to be pulled over to her by her gravitational pull. "Oh god... so fat... can't... resist... gravity..." Then I'll give her a hug (which she loves) and we'll laugh.
Of course it helps that she isn't fat at all.
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
"The only woman in the world I would want to rate is you, and you are a perfect 11, because that is higher than 10."
FINALLY! After 7 years you get it!
ALthough i know you were rolling your eyes as you typed that!
Originally posted by: SirChadwick
Originally posted by: yllus
Wow, she cried? All of the comedy aside, that'd be a really big warning sign for me...
Well the first time she cried. The second time she just pouted and barely talked to me all night. Then the usual, "what's wrong honey?" x 100 was asked by myself. She kept saying "nothing" x101. Then finally she just said I just need to realize that you're not going to change... I asked what do you mean? She says you're always going to feel the same way about me, thinking I'm just a 9 no matter what you tell me.
Seriously, we've already called our marriage off for another year due to some problems. I'm trying to make things work w/out being the b*tch of the relationship. But apologizing for things like this doesn't really help the situation. I don't feel that I was wrong in anyway, but of course I can't say that b/c then she'll say "you're never wrong about anything are you?"
Originally posted by: Quasmo
If you really want to avoid the question just tell her shes a 1 and stick to that answer, be real sarcastic and never give a real answer. Obviously she knows you dont think of her as a 1, and you never have to answer the question.
Originally posted by: SViper
OP, you seem to be making mistake after mistake.
1. You rated her and bought into her little game.
2. You rated her and bought into her little game.....again.
3. You apologize 100x when she clearly didn't want to talk about it.
4. You are self-admittedly making yourself the b**** of the relationship to make it work.
No offense, but it sounds like you need to grow some fvcking balls and be a man.
I'm sure you already know you made a mistake by rating her. Only ask her one time what's bothering her and never ask again about it. You can add something like, "I know something's wrong, so I'm ready to talk about it when you are." Never mention it again after that.
Don't make yourself the b****. You need to set the tone of the relationship. They old saying goes, "Give 'em an inch, and they'll take a mile." That's where you made a mistake. If you put your foot down and don't deal with crap like that, she will stop giving it to you.
I don't know how you are going to get out of the situation you are in though. Sounds like you don't really want to marry her.
Originally posted by: SirChadwick
Originally posted by: SViper
OP, you seem to be making mistake after mistake.
1. You rated her and bought into her little game.
2. You rated her and bought into her little game.....again.
3. You apologize 100x when she clearly didn't want to talk about it.
4. You are self-admittedly making yourself the b**** of the relationship to make it work.
No offense, but it sounds like you need to grow some fvcking balls and be a man.
I'm sure you already know you made a mistake by rating her. Only ask her one time what's bothering her and never ask again about it. You can add something like, "I know something's wrong, so I'm ready to talk about it when you are." Never mention it again after that.
Don't make yourself the b****. You need to set the tone of the relationship. They old saying goes, "Give 'em an inch, and they'll take a mile." That's where you made a mistake. If you put your foot down and don't deal with crap like that, she will stop giving it to you.
I don't know how you are going to get out of the situation you are in though. Sounds like you don't really want to marry her.
The reason I've been giving in lately and am apologizing is because it was just 2 months ago that I asked her to move out. I feel that I should at least "try" to make things work between us... so I've been seeing more movies that she wants to see, doing little things like flowers, notes, all that crap. When she asked me to take dancing classes to make her happy... i said heck no, that's where the line is drawn. I told her I don't ask her to learn golf or tennis so why would I bother with dancing lessons. In all honesty we don't have a ton in common. I'd never cheat on her and she'd never cheat on me - we're both christians - but other than that, it's all just dealing with each other and learning new things... it's tough, but most relationships are. I've never argued so much w/ another woman, but then again I've never cared so much about another woman. I'm beginning to think the only way things will work for us is by going to a counselor and seeing things from an unbiased perspective.
Originally posted by: SirChadwick
I've already asked her to move out of the apt after she lived with me for the first 3 months...
After she left, i felt awful and apologized... i really never wanted her to leave.
I have to keep rethinking things and it just makes it that much harder. I don't feel as though
either of us has waisted our time with each other but it's so damn hard for us to make changes
so that we're both happy in the relationship. We don't get along w/ each others friends really,
except for maybe a few. And I feel like her family hates me - I know her twin sis does.
Honestly, am I better off going back to single guys and gals? I'm just so damn confuzzled.
Originally posted by: StevenYoo
I'm sorry, but this post made me literally LOL.
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
LOL! there is no right way to answer that question by a girl
I don't even know what i would want for an answer so i don't think i would ever ask a question like that!
I guess you should have said "we all have our flaws, myself included, but to me you are perfect. Not only are you physically beautiful, but also kind, thoughtful, honest...". with a sincere voice, that would have been fine.
Originally posted by: silverpig
Originally posted by: Dirigible
Originally posted by: Quasmo
I'm telling you, be sarcastic. Rate her a 1 and tell her all her good qualities. When you talk to her again say you rethought your position on the matter and decided shes a 1 because shes TOO attractive, and TOO helpful, and TOO nice, ect.
Editors note: I would have been brutally honest because I don't have a sense of modesty. I probably blurted out 6 or 7, and been totally ****** the rest of my life.
The sarcastic route works for me. When my wife asks me if she's fat, I say, "Hell yes!," and go on with an over-the-top description of how she's fatter than anything that exists or could exist in the universe. This works because (A) it makes her laugh, and (B) it effectively gets the point across that I'm not playing that game. Do not ever actually answer any of those sorts of questions.
Ha same. Sometimes when she's across the room, I'll pretend to be pulled over to her by her gravitational pull. "Oh god... so fat... can't... resist... gravity..." Then I'll give her a hug (which she loves) and we'll laugh.
Of course it helps that she isn't fat at all.
Originally posted by: Compton
Tell her that a 10 wouldn't cry.
She's obviously got some HUGE (as in bigger than typing in caps) problems with self-esteem. If you want to be the one who tries to make her feel good about herself to no avail for the rest of your life..
Originally posted by: SirChadwick
Originally posted by: yllus
Wow, she cried? All of the comedy aside, that'd be a really big warning sign for me...
Well the first time she cried. The second time she just pouted and barely talked to me all night. Then the usual, "what's wrong honey?" x 100 was asked by myself. She kept saying "nothing" x101. Then finally she just said I just need to realize that you're not going to change... I asked what do you mean? She says you're always going to feel the same way about me, thinking I'm just a 9 no matter what you tell me.
Seriously, we've already called our marriage off for another year due to some problems. I'm trying to make things work w/out being the b*tch of the relationship. But apologizing for things like this doesn't really help the situation. I don't feel that I was wrong in anyway, but of course I can't say that b/c then she'll say "you're never wrong about anything are you?"
Originally posted by: JS80
Originally posted by: SirChadwick
Originally posted by: yllus
Wow, she cried? All of the comedy aside, that'd be a really big warning sign for me...
Well the first time she cried. The second time she just pouted and barely talked to me all night. Then the usual, "what's wrong honey?" x 100 was asked by myself. She kept saying "nothing" x101. Then finally she just said I just need to realize that you're not going to change... I asked what do you mean? She says you're always going to feel the same way about me, thinking I'm just a 9 no matter what you tell me.
Seriously, we've already called our marriage off for another year due to some problems. I'm trying to make things work w/out being the b*tch of the relationship. But apologizing for things like this doesn't really help the situation. I don't feel that I was wrong in anyway, but of course I can't say that b/c then she'll say "you're never wrong about anything are you?"
i have a question about engagement ring...if the girl ends up being crazy and you call it off, how do you get the ring back? do you have to steal it just in case she decides to pawn it off?