YAG(girl)T: Lose Lose

[jman19]

Your fiancee sounds really really immature.

 

[Anghang]

Originally posted by: SirChadwick

Originally posted by: SViper
OP, you seem to be making mistake after mistake.

1. You rated her and bought into her little game.
2. You rated her and bought into her little game.....again.
3. You apologize 100x when she clearly didn't want to talk about it.
4. You are self-admittedly making yourself the b**** of the relationship to make it work.

No offense, but it sounds like you need to grow some fvcking balls and be a man.

I'm sure you already know you made a mistake by rating her. Only ask her one time what's bothering her and never ask again about it. You can add something like, "I know something's wrong, so I'm ready to talk about it when you are." Never mention it again after that.

Don't make yourself the b****. You need to set the tone of the relationship. They old saying goes, "Give 'em an inch, and they'll take a mile." That's where you made a mistake. If you put your foot down and don't deal with crap like that, she will stop giving it to you.

I don't know how you are going to get out of the situation you are in though. Sounds like you don't really want to marry her.

The reason I've been giving in lately and am apologizing is because it was just 2 months ago that I asked her to move out. I feel that I should at least "try" to make things work between us... so I've been seeing more movies that she wants to see, doing little things like flowers, notes, all that crap. When she asked me to take dancing classes to make her happy... i said heck no, that's where the line is drawn. I told her I don't ask her to learn golf or tennis so why would I bother with dancing lessons. In all honesty we don't have a ton in common. I'd never cheat on her and she'd never cheat on me - we're both christians - but other than that, it's all just dealing with each other and learning new things... it's tough, but most relationships are. I've never argued so much w/ another woman, but then again I've never cared so much about another woman. I'm beginning to think the only way things will work for us is by going to a counselor and seeing things from an unbiased perspective.

stop giving in
stand your ground
make a decision, is she worth all this effort on your part?
is she putting in her fair share of effort to try and make things work?

if yes then put in the effort to lay it all on the line and get past all this petty insecurity and guilt crap and carry onward to happier times

if no, then end it and move onward

 

[essasin]

Give some off the wall number like 568345 or an insanly low number like -100. The sarcasm is usually good enough to let it pass.

 

[Marinski]

Next time she mentions dancing. Tell her to give you a lap dance.

 

[sdifox]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
why did you just post this if it happened 9 months ago?!
I just noticed that!
you shouldhave posted this then so you would have known what to say when she asked again!

He was banned from using computers for 9 month

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: SirChadwick
So my fiancee and I were watching TV about 9 months ago and she brought up some actresses and asked me to rate them. I did, most receiving 7s-9s. She then proceeded to ask me what I'd rate her... I was cautious about it and didn't say anything. She kept naggin at me to do it, so I did... I said, "God didn't make anyone in this world perfect, but you're as close as it gets... a 9." Big mistake. She about cried for 2 hours and told me she can't understand how I could be with someone I rate a 9. Bizarre... anyway, it's been 9 months and I figured she had gotten over it. Last night she asks me out of nowhere again... "what do you rate me honey?" So I say 10 a fvckin 10!!! She breaks down again telling me how I'm just saying that and I really don't mean it. So now I'm a liar?

Lose lose situation just like 99% of em w/ women.

/rant

Cliffs
1 - Fiancee asks me to rate her
2 - I give her a 9
3 - she cries and asks why so low
4 - 9 months go by
5 - she asks again and I say 10.. an f'n 10
6 - cries again, I lose.

dump her.. she's going to cause u nothing but trouble

 

[sdifox]

When I get that kind of crap, I would do a play by play conversation between myself and her. Making it sound really stupid works. At least for me.

my favorite line "Sometimes I wonder why I stay with you. You are nuts."

 

[zinfamous]

Originally posted by: SirChadwick
I've already asked her to move out of the apt after she lived with me for the first 3 months...

After she left, i felt awful and apologized... i really never wanted her to leave.

I have to keep rethinking things and it just makes it that much harder. I don't feel as though
either of us has waisted our time with each other but it's so damn hard for us to make changes
so that we're both happy in the relationship. We don't get along w/ each others friends really,
except for maybe a few. And I feel like her family hates me - I know her twin sis does.
Honestly, am I better off going back to single guys and gals? I'm just so damn confuzzled.

yikes. here's what you do:

propose a threesome between you, her, and her twin sister (it would help if the sister is on board before you make the proposition; drug her if you have to). If it was meant to be between you and your fiance, then she, and the both of you together, can overcome the emotional turmoil that such a situation would create (whether or not your able to seal the deal on that one )

 

[TuxDave]

hahahahaha!

 

[SZLiao214]

It's a loaded question! Run!

This is the equivalent to when 2 girls ask you which one of us is better looking or at (insert anything).

I usually just straight up say i don't answer questions like that.

 

[NaOH]

Originally posted by: KarmaPolice
tell her to grow up

I concur. I def. couldn't date anyone like that. AT ALL.

 

[Aquila76]

Another question to NEVER answer: Do you ever wish you weren't married?

 

[SirChadwick]

Originally posted by: Aquila76
Another question to NEVER answer: Do you ever wish you weren't married?

Oh god that's horrible... I'll try to stay away from that one!

LOL.

 

[Mardeth]

"If you dont stop crying your gonna go down to 8."

 

[SirChadwick]

Originally posted by: Mardeth
"If you dont stop crying your gonna go down to 8."

Don't give me ideas... I'm bad about using them.

 

[Aquila76]

Originally posted by: SirChadwick

Originally posted by: Aquila76
Another question to NEVER answer: Do you ever wish you weren't married?

Oh god that's horrible... I'll try to stay away from that one!

LOL.

That's a good time to come up with something distractive: "Hey, you wanna go to <some shop you hate that she loves>? It's been a while since you got a <whatever is in there>.

I made the mistake of answering that question in what I thought was a harmless way. I said, "Knowing what I know now about marriage, I probably wouldn't have gotten married. Not just to you in particular, but to all women in general. I don't think I do good enough of a job as a husband." She took it to mean that she wasn't showing enough happiness and love for me and just started bawling. For HOURS.

Yeah, that was a 'couch' move.

 

[xSauronx]

Originally posted by: JEDI

Originally posted by: SirChadwick
So my fiancee and I were watching TV about 9 months ago and she brought up some actresses and asked me to rate them. I did, most receiving 7s-9s. She then proceeded to ask me what I'd rate her... I was cautious about it and didn't say anything. She kept naggin at me to do it, so I did... I said, "God didn't make anyone in this world perfect, but you're as close as it gets... a 9." Big mistake. She about cried for 2 hours and told me she can't understand how I could be with someone I rate a 9. Bizarre... anyway, it's been 9 months and I figured she had gotten over it. Last night she asks me out of nowhere again... "what do you rate me honey?" So I say 10 a fvckin 10!!! She breaks down again telling me how I'm just saying that and I really don't mean it. So now I'm a liar?

Lose lose situation just like 99% of em w/ women.

/rant

Cliffs
1 - Fiancee asks me to rate her
2 - I give her a 9
3 - she cries and asks why so low
4 - 9 months go by
5 - she asks again and I say 10.. an f'n 10
6 - cries again, I lose.

dump her.. she's going to cause u nothing but trouble

 

[Vich]

Originally posted by: Quasmo
You should have told her 9 again.

Or tell her shes an 11 on the personality scale, and that that's all that really matters. Unless shes dull as a brick.

If you really want to avoid the question just tell her shes a 1 and stick to that answer, be real sarcastic and never give a real answer. Obviously she knows you dont think of her as a 1, and you never have to answer the question.

Something i would say quasmo haha.

My ex had crazy moments like the OP's , but on various other subjects.

 

[j00fek]

Originally posted by: GideonX
Your trouble started when you agreed to rate girls on TV in front of the woman Good luck.

QFT

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
When a woman asks what you would rate her, rate each part individually. But do it sexy-funny.

1. Ass that won't stop. 4 points.
2. Breasts that make you want to sit up and beg for buttermilk. 5 points.
3. Traffic stopping legs
etc..etc...
And while describing each part make sure to caress that part, that way you might get some sex.

Some great stuff in this thread, but this post here has to be some of the most brilliant insight into the female mind that I've seen in a while. I'm going to have to remember this one and use it someday.

 

[Ruptga]

Originally posted by: Aquila76

Originally posted by: SirChadwick

Originally posted by: Aquila76
Another question to NEVER answer: Do you ever wish you weren't married?

Oh god that's horrible... I'll try to stay away from that one!

LOL.

That's a good time to come up with something distractive: "Hey, you wanna go to <some shop you hate that she loves>? It's been a while since you got a <whatever is in there>.

I made the mistake of answering that question in what I thought was a harmless way. I said, "Knowing what I know now about marriage, I probably wouldn't have gotten married. Not just to you in particular, but to all women in general. I don't think I do good enough of a job as a husband." She took it to mean that she wasn't showing enough happiness and love for me and just started bawling. For HOURS.

Yeah, that was a 'couch' move.

You guys fill me with laughter and dread all at the same time :laugh:

 

[thirdlegstump]

Tell her that if she asks that question again, you'll put her in a microwave.

 

[fallenangel99]

haha.. just tell her how much weight she is going to put after you guys marry and have kids.

 

[Crazee]

Tell her that while she is a 9, her twin is a 10



Seriously, only you can answer whether you should be with her or not, but that being said, if you feel like asking the question in a public forum then the answer is probably no.

 

[montanafan]

Sounds like a combination of two things: 1) She's immature and insecure. 2) She found out after you asked her to leave, and then started giving into her when you asked her back, that she can lay a guilt trip on you and get more attention that way.

If you want to break the pattern, the next time she tries to make you feel guilty about something so trivial, just let her sulk, don't give her the attention she's seeking. She'll either get over it, or you'll break up. Either way you'll probably be better off.