YAG(uy)T

[hzl eyed grl]

Originally posted by: scootermaster

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
I've a question. I met a guy that loooves going to the movies. (Met him online and started talking because we have that in common) We've been going to the movies a lot. I can't tell if he likes me likes me or just likes me as a friend to go to the movies with. Last night was the first night that he sort of leaned in against me in the show and then gave me a kiss on the cheek. Then tonight we went out with one of his roommates (the girlfriend of one of his others). He didn't act the same as last night. (Like kiss on the cheek, etc...) He's always totally chivalrous, opening doors and all that sh!t and is totally sweet. We have tons in common and I'm the first friend that he's brought back home since he's lived there. (11 months) His roommates seem to like me and the girl really does. She is gonna call me tomorrow to come over. I was going to go to the movies with him and his parents today, but they couldn't make it, so we're all going to go see "Amazing Grace" next weekend, I believe.

Would he have me meet his roomies/parents if I'm just a friend? I haven't dated in a looong time (broke up with my fiance in August and we haven't even really called these "dates", it's always been just that we're going to the movies or whatever) like this, so don't know what to think. I just don't know if he's interested because I just can't read him yet.

Opinions???

I thought you were married or something.

Hmmm Read the part that's in bold in the above paragraph.

bamacre - He's not homosexual! haha I'm definitely hoping he wants to date.

freedomsbeat212 - Totally want to date him. :thumbsup:

Pics: Geez. haha I got my hair cut today.
Gotta have a typical typical intarweb pic, right?
Satisfied?

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Originally posted by: HomeAppraiser
I'd kick it up a notch by holding his hand at and after the movies. Go to a scarry movie and bury your face in his chest or jump into his arms. All that movie watching must give you a stiff neck, ask him for a neck/backrub! Sounds like he really likes you as a friend and does not want to loose that if you start then stop dating. Good luck.

Edit: I can't type for sh!t

lol We went to see "Zodiac" and I thought it would be scary and I'd be able to do the bury my head in his shoulder thing, but it wasn't scary. *le sigh*

 

[slackerinabox]

OK, with all due respect (and I note the hypocrisy here - my YAGTs paint the obvious picture that I'm clueless about dating)... You're not young. You're not a child. He's not a child. Your original post is full of such wide-eyed confusion that I thought you were 14. You're a grown up - you want to date him? Kiss him! Tell him! Hold his damn hand and put it on your lap, near your tingly parts. Seriously, I'm not being crude but, if a girl ever was direct with a guy, hell, I wouldn't have the problems that I do. The ambiguity of the female gender is so difficult to deal with sometimes that, if you want to be a rockstar and earn my respect, take action. Don't be this annoying little petal waiting to be plucked. Don't be coy, don't make him wonder how you feel about him, and just take control.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
OK, with all due respect (and I note the hypocrisy here - my YAGTs paint the obvious picture that I'm clueless about dating)... You're not young. You're not a child. He's not a child. Your original post is full of such wide-eyed confusion that I thought you were 14. You're a grown up - you want to date him? Kiss him! Tell him! Hold his damn hand and put it on your lap, near your tingly parts. Seriously, I'm not being crude but, if a girl ever was direct with a guy, hell, I wouldn't have the problems that I do. The ambiguity of the female gender is so difficult to deal with sometimes that, if you want to be a rockstar and earn my respect, take action. Don't be this annoying little petal waiting to be plucked. Don't be coy, don't make him wonder how you feel about him, and just take control.

LOL It's just been so long since I've really dated. I know that sounds lame and I'm all growded up and stuff, I'm not (I guess) self conscious...? Not that he isn't. (Like I said) I'll definitely try to make a move next time.

 

[dug777]

No. Pics of the guy. Not you.


When we say 'pics' in a YAGT we don't want pics of the OP, do we?

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
OK, with all due respect (and I note the hypocrisy here - my YAGTs paint the obvious picture that I'm clueless about dating)... You're not young. You're not a child. He's not a child. Your original post is full of such wide-eyed confusion that I thought you were 14. You're a grown up - you want to date him? Kiss him! Tell him! Hold his damn hand and put it on your lap, near your tingly parts. Seriously, I'm not being crude but, if a girl ever was direct with a guy, hell, I wouldn't have the problems that I do. The ambiguity of the female gender is so difficult to deal with sometimes that, if you want to be a rockstar and earn my respect, take action. Don't be this annoying little petal waiting to be plucked. Don't be coy, don't make him wonder how you feel about him, and just take control.

LOL It's just been so long since I've really dated. I know that sounds lame and I'm all growded up and stuff, I'm not (I guess) self conscious...? Not that he isn't. (Like I said) I'll definitely try to make a move next time.

Good, my work here is done Remember, whatever happens, there are millions of other guys other there. Rejection is a silly thing to fear, the opposite of rejection is what scares the sh1t out of me!

 

[Hyperblaze]

I believe this is the first serious YAGT written by a girl on ATOT.

Typically they go to www.yagt.org or elsewhere.

Sadly enough, I wish what Freedomsbeat212 said was true for many women. It's scary that I actually agree with him.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
I've a question. I met a guy that loooves going to the movies. (Met him online and started talking because we have that in common) We've been going to the movies a lot. I can't tell if he likes me likes me or just likes me as a friend to go to the movies with. Last night was the first night that he sort of leaned in against me in the show and then gave me a kiss on the cheek. Then tonight we went out with one of his roommates (the girlfriend of one of his others). He didn't act the same as last night. (Like kiss on the cheek, etc...) He's always totally chivalrous, opening doors and all that sh!t and is totally sweet. We have tons in common and I'm the first friend that he's brought back home since he's lived there. (11 months) His roommates seem to like me and the girl really does. She is gonna call me tomorrow to come over. I was going to go to the movies with him and his parents today, but they couldn't make it, so we're all going to go see "Amazing Grace" next weekend, I believe.

Would he have me meet his roomies/parents if I'm just a friend? I haven't dated in a looong time (broke up with my fiance in August and we haven't even really called these "dates", it's always been just that we're going to the movies or whatever) like this, so don't know what to think. I just don't know if he's interested because I just can't read him yet.

Opinions???



EDIT:

Update

Okay, here are the pics.

Pics: Geez. haha I got my hair cut today.
Gotta have a typical typical intarweb pic, right?
Satisfied?

he sounds hard to read at this point. (and they say females are complicated )

if you are fine with going on these movie dates then continue. things should progress either way with your relationship in time, don't you think?

i really like your haircut.

 

[SearchMaster]

Yeah, it's been said but he's shy. He probably hasn't dated much and is scared as hell. I think it's perfectly fine to get him into a more intimate setting and just tell him that you're wondering if he's interested in you, because you're interested in him, and he hasn't been very demonstrative so far. Ask if you can kiss him. If he still doesn't get the hint, move on - he's socially inept.

 

[Aikouka]

He likes you; he's just shy. Being that he's 31 and single, it's most likely that's the reason why he's not married already, or it's possible that he was married or engaged (as you were) at one point and he's a bit afraid to get back in the fray. Nothing really wrong with that from my perspective.

Although I don't necessarily agree with freedom on his brash-ness, as if this guy really is just shy, that may create more of an awkward moment than you'd want. That doesn't mean he wouldn't like it, just that he may not expect to hit the gas so fast .

 

[iroast]

maybe he's shy? why not just pull him in for a real kiss the next time he aims for your cheeks.

 

[homercles337]

I thought we were going to get pics of the guy, we all know what hazel looks like.

On topic, get him drunk, then start rubbing on him. That'll do it.

 

[KB]

He totally wants to shag you.. but doesn't want to be too forward and scare you away. Take your time and enjoy the attention.. and if it isn't moving fast enough... make the move.

 

[Amused]

:brokenheart:

 

[Zysoclaplem]

You make him work for it!

 

[funboy6942]

Does he know of your situation with your ex? AUG oif last year to me doesnt seem all that long time ago really to be broken up with someone you were engaged with, coming from a guys point of view, and he may be getting mixed signals from you and not sure if you want to take it slow, or if you even want a guy in your life right now, or maybe hes there for he is hoping you been without it long enough he may get a little action and you will be on your way.

It kinda sounds like hes throwing you a few snacks to see and your not taking the treat, maybe next time he goes for the peck on the cheek you turn your head at the last minute to get some lip action and see what happens then A little slippage of the tongue action may go on, you both may stop in your tracks look at each other and go at it like a pack of wild animals, or hell may move away and look at the ground and the both of you make small talk, talking about how the weather is. Point being, in the end you will than know where this relationship is going.

 

[jupiter57]

Dang, girl!
You know your biggest fan is gonna want to save these pics now, don't you?
(With your permission of course, nothing dirty, just out of admiration)
You seem to be evolving from a beautiful young lady to a total KNOCKOUT!

 

[sixone]

This is exactly why I try to avoid shy guys like the plague. You never know where you are with them, and even if you do make a move, you never know whether they're really into it, or secretly afraid to tell you to back off.

Just go with your gut, and good luck!!

 

[Mellman]

Originally posted by: DanTMWTMP
could this be the first YAguyT ever in ATOT?

no - there have been plenty of these too...

to the OP, you have hazel eyes, nice.

The guy is probably interested, but probably is shy and doesnt want to screw it up by pushing you too fast. give him some signs that you like him too

 

[DaShen]

He sounds like a shy, nice guy. Best thing to do is to either confront it and say you like him, or leave it alone and just let it play out. I suggest the latter. Give him hints though and encourage him when he throws himself out there. I would say that his kisses on the cheek are probably pretty big steps for him (most guys I know do't have platonic friends who are girls who they kiss on the cheek <I know I don't> ). Next time he kisses you on the cheek at the movies, snuggle up to him. Maybe that will encourage him.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: Mellman

Originally posted by: DanTMWTMP
could this be the first YAguyT ever in ATOT?

no - there have been plenty of these too...

to the OP, you have hazel eyes, nice.

The guy is probably interested, but probably is shy and doesnt want to screw it up by pushing you too fast. give him some signs that you like him too

Bingo

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: moshquerade
he sounds hard to read at this point. (and they say females are complicated )

if you are fine with going on these movie dates then continue. things should progress either way with your relationship in time, don't you think?

i really like your haircut.

How is that hard to read? The guy likes her, but is shy. He isn't playing mind games, but he is taking it really slow, too slow for the girl in this case.

Time for the OP to start encouraging him. Show him signs that you will reciprocate those feelings. Good luck to you.

 

[rudder]

Do you pay for your tickets or does he pay?

 

[zeruty]

I think the best course of action would be... to blindfold him, lead him into your bedroom, handcuff him to your bedframe, and then rip his clothes off! I think you can figure out the rest.

At least that is what I am hoping for when I take a girl to the movies.

Good luck!

 

[Sinsear]

Make a move quick or you'll end up in the friends zone.