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[essasin]

Send some signs. Put your had on this leg when you guys sit and watch the movie. The guy does like you and it sounds like everything is going slow (in a physical sense) but well. IMO these types of relationships are the best because you two become first first and develop a solid foundation for a commited relationship.

 

[yowolabi]

Wait till he's drinking water and tell him you're glad you guys are such good friends. If he chokes, he likes you.

 

[DanTMWTMP]

Originally posted by: yowolabi
Wait till he's drinking water and tell him you're glad you guys are such good friends. If he chokes, he likes you.

hahahaha the evilness.

 

[SolMiester]

HEG - looks like you found a real guy, take your time, he is getting to know you 1st, before jumping you. He doesnt sound like the type of guy that does casual sex so its all good girl.
The kiss was to let you know he's interested.

Enjoy!

 

[SmoochyTX]

I like your haircut!

But yeah, like everybody else is saying it sounds like he likes you and is just shy and is wanting to make sure you like him in 'that way' before he tries to go any further.

Make sure you touch him occasionally (not in that way...at least not yet...lol) when you're talking to him or when you're around him. Let him 'catch you' looking at him when he's looking at something else. And if he tries this quick kiss on the cheek thing again, stop and say, "Only one kiss tonight?"

BTW, if you're not holding hands during the movie already, try that too. The guy seems gunshy and wants positive reinforcement. LOL

 

[GuitarDaddy]

Let's see, he has gone out with you repeatedly, he's trying to introduce you to everyone that matters to him, he won't let you pay for anything,he gave you the infamous cheek kiss.

There is absolutely no doubt here, he more than likes you, he is smitten(old fashioned term ) and he is absolutely scared to death. Put the poor guy out of his misery already.

Try this: The next time he want's to go to the movies, say "I,m getting kind of tired of the movies but I really want to spend time with you, how about we go to a quiet resturant then dancing" If he comes back with "I can't/don't dance" then say something like "Well, just come over here and we can watch a DVD and cuddle on the couch"
If he doesn't get the hint by then give up, he's either not interested or is too stupid for you. My guess is he will probably burn the rubber off his tires getting to your place:music:

By the way, nice haircut

 

[irishScott]

Originally posted by: AbAbber2k
He's shy. I don't know many guys that kiss girls they're not interested in. If he just hugged you then maybe I'd question his interest a little more. I'm pretty sure he just hasn't found the balls yet to really make a move.

seconded

 

[rockyct]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Could just be shy? What kind of signals are you sending him?

BTW-You look great! :thumbsup:

Let's recap here:
Possibly signs that he could like you (roughly in order of increasing magnitude):
1) he likes talking to you
2) you're the only person who's met his roommates
3) he's extremely thoughtful around you
4) he likes seeing movies with you
5) you've met his parents
6) he pays for everything
...
7) HE KISSED YOU!

At this point all feelings should be out there. The longer you wait to tell him how you feel, the less likely he'll keep it up. I would say it's moved beyond giving him subtle hints. You need to tell him directly that you are interested in starting a relationship. However, if you must continue being coy, the girl could be used to relay your feelings for him. I wouldn't be surprised if he is planning to use her to find out your feelings for him.

 

[irishScott]

Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy
Let's see, he has gone out with you repeatedly, he's trying to introduce you to everyone that matters to him, he won't let you pay for anything,he gave you the infamous cheek kiss.

There is absolutely no doubt here, he more than likes you, he is smitten(old fashioned term ) and he is absolutely scared to death. Put the poor guy out of his misery already.

Try this: The next time he want's to go to the movies, say "I,m getting kind of tired of the movies but I really want to spend time with you, how about we go to a quiet resturant then dancing" If he comes back with "I can't/don't dance" then say something like "Well, just come over here and we can watch a DVD and cuddle on the couch"
If he doesn't get the hint by then give up, he's either not interested or is too stupid for you. My guess is he will probably burn the rubber off his tires getting to your place:music:

By the way, nice haircut

seconded as well. Although, being a rather shy guy myself, and given the fact that he's been chivalrous as hell; and given the fact that your responses to date have seemed somewhat unenthusiastic to him, he might go the "nice gentlemen route" and hesitate (ie put if off, raincheck, etc). If this happens, give him no more than a week and no less then 2 days. If nothing happens, he's not interested.

By doing what GuitarDaddy said you let him know your interested in no uncertain terms. Up to him to take it from there.

As a side note: Don't include "cuddle on the couch" if you ask him to watch a DVD with you. Just sounds weird and could make things awkward, increasing the likelihood that he will "hesitate".

Keep in mind, I'm 19. I dunno if the bf/gf scene has changed much in the last 10 years or so, But that's the way I see it.

 

[KarmaPolice]

no really...in that second pic..wtf did you do to your chair in the background?

 

[hzl eyed grl]

I just got home about half an hour ago.

Spent most of the day with the girl. I asked her what's up. lol She said that after being burned by his ex, he didn't date for a long time and went on his first date in quite a while a few months ago. (A few months before he met me.) She said that he is VERY shy. (Big shock, eh? Side note. . .she has a dog named Hazel. When she's called I want to turn around. haha) I guess they've been bugging him to find out what he thinks and he's just said that he isn't sure yet. She said that he definitely likes me but he's not letting on if it's more or not just yet. They're hoping he does because they want him to have someone and be happy. lol (Not that I'd mind, right?) After she and I went shopping (Didn't vacuum the car, shopping is more important, no? Hey, my birthday's in a week and most of my jeans don't fit!) we went back to their place and all the guys were already home. We watched tv, he made some home made chicken noodle soup that he shared with me and we all just watched tv and hung out. He'd had a long day at work and fell asleep on the couch. lol

Anyway, she basically thinks that he's just shy. (y'all thought that) She's hoping he likes me as more than friends, but both of us think/know that if it's not more than friends, we're all still good friends. She really likes him and said that he's one of the best roommates she's ever had. I'm waaay sleepy, but I shall keep you all informed as I know/find out anything. I'm having another procedure done on my back tomorrow, so I'll be out of commission for a lot of tomorrow.

The second picture includes my grandmother's chair. It's those kind with the remote control that lifts them slowly up so it's not as hard for them to get out. lol

Oh, and I haven't met his parents yet. That's, perhaps, next weekend.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: SolMiester
HEG - looks like you found a real guy, take your time, he is getting to know you 1st, before jumping you. He doesnt sound like the type of guy that does casual sex so its all good girl.
The kiss was to let you know he's interested.

Enjoy!

 

[hzl eyed grl]

I updated. I got in a little before midnight last night and posted, but forgot to put it up top.

 

[crystal]

That is a lot of "lol" in the update. gl.

 

[irishScott]

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
I updated. I got in a little before midnight last night and posted, but forgot to put it up top.

Sounds like it'l work out. Just give him time and don't pressure too much (although pressure him enough to let him know you're interested). Good luck.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Originally posted by: irishScott

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
I updated. I got in a little before midnight last night and posted, but forgot to put it up top.

Sounds like it'll work out. Just give him time and don't pressure too much (although pressure him enough to let him know you're interested). Good luck.

Thank you.

I had the procedure on my back today and got a text from him with well-wishes. Tonight we talked about seeing "Black Snake Moan". I can't remember if we're going to be seeing it Friday or Saturday. (Looks like it should be really funny.) His roommate called me today and was wanting to hang out before my procedure, but since I can't eat beforehand, I try not to do too much cuz I'm hone-gray. She wants to meet my dog and I said that I'd bring her over one afternoon. (Perhaps tomorrow if I'm feeling up to it.)

 

[theblackbox]

maybe he's just a little cautious. a little weird for someone in their 30's but okay, maybe he had a real long time thing going and got burned bad. wait, what am i saying??? that sounds too sensitive.
Ask him out, tell him you are interested but want to make sure it's he right thing and not want to rush into anything. If he is receptive, hurrah, if not, move on and find another one.

And, by the way, you are looking good these days.

 

[HeroOfPellinor]

In my opinion, it's a no go. Sorry. I really wouldn't get at all invested.

 

[Siddhartha]

OP,

It sounds like you like him. What do you want in this relationship? And how long are you willing to wait?

Unless I have been told not to, I would have made some sort of physical expression of my interests by the second or third date.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Gonna go see "Black Snake Moan" this Friday with him and his friend. That movie looks good. (Well, to me. lol)

How long am I willing to wait? I'm not seeing anyone else right now and I like him. Why rush?

 

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl

Would he have me meet his roomies/parents if I'm just a friend? I haven't dated in a looong time (broke up with my fiance in August and we haven't even really called these "dates", it's always been just that we're going to the movies or whatever) like this, so don't know what to think.

I'd say your chances are good. Guys aren't like girls and don't just want "friends" to go to the movies. There's always the sexual motive.

And thanks for posting pics of yourself. I wasn't about to click links to pics of some guy.

 

[eakers]

we have the same hair.. I usually wear mine straightened though

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Originally posted by: eakers
we have the same hair.. I usually wear mine straightened though

Your hair still blonde, Kat? I demand that you PM me pics, STAT!

91 - YW

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Updated

He and I and two of his roommates (the one guy and his girlfriend) and one of his friends went to see 300 tonight. It was playing in two different auditoriums and both were freakin' packed! Anyway, a little way into the movie I finally worked up the balls to loop my arm through his. It doesn't seem like it'd be a big deal, but it took me a while. lol He and I will watch the movie with our arms crossed a lot and just lean over and talk. (We're usually guessing or saying what we think is gonna happen next.) He had his arms crossed and I slipped my arm through his. (Said that I kept getting chilly. Which was the truth because I was like right under an air conditioning vent.) He left his arms crossed and I left my arm there for a while. We were, unfortunately, in an area with no chairs or anything in front of us so we couldn't put our legs up. (Sucks when you have chronic pain.) I started hurting and needed to take my pain medicine. I slipped out my arm and watched him to see what he'd do. Instead of keeping his arms crossed, he opened them up and put his elbows on the rests. I took that as an okay to slip my arm in again. :thumbsup: (He certainly didn't seem to mind.) I left it that way until the movie ended. I gave him a kiss on the cheek when I left and he's gonna let me know when we're going to see the movie on Sunday. I'll see what happenz.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

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