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[Josh123]

Ok, Tuesday night my GF cought me in my 2nd lie to her. The first one I lied about how many beers I had one night and the 2nd lie was telling her that I've not been talking to my ex-gf since we broke up at the first April. I really haven't been talking to her but I did write her an email Tuesday apologizing for being a dick to her in our breakup. We work together so I don't want any trouble at the job. So she asked if I had been talking to her and I said no and she said I was lying. After she said that I told her the truth. Well Wednesday I tried all day to work things out. She said she couldn't trust me and can't be with me. I finally got her to give me another chance.

Last night she called me and asked if I was going to go up to her job and see her. I told her ya and I went up there to talk. She said that were "talking" but not together or just friends. What the hell does "talking" mean??? After she got off work we went and stood infront of my truck. She said she had to go and gave me a big hug then a kiss. Then later last night she stayed with me, but nothing happend. Its that time of the month for her though. Everything seemed like how it was in the relationship last night though. So now i'm freakin confused.

Cliff Notes:
1. Lie to GF 2 times in a month
2. Accused of wanting back with Ex-GF
3. She wants a break
4. Talk her into another chance
5. Now confused on what the term "talking" is and
our situation.

*Update: Sunday I went over to talk to her. It ended with me telling her I can't continue to talk or hang out with her because It hurts not actually being with her. So she asked for a hug and I said good bye. I know I'll see her again. I just hope she ends up missing me.
I did end up talking to the Ex on AIM Sunday night. Talked about a lot of past things and that she still misses me. I love her but I don't think I want to be with her even though I'm pretty sure I could be.

Should I wait for the recent EX to come around, go back to my previous EX of a year and a half, or just not worry and let things ride?

 

[Stumps]

MEH...I lie to my GF all the time...if "I love you" counts

 

[NutBucket]

You've only been together a month? Chill out on the lies man!

 

[Vinny N]

How old is she?

Drama can be a burden, but you may forever lose any power in this relationship if you don't just break it off with her (She may drag this on and you'll be the one always going back to her so turn it around). I'm not convinced things will go back to normal as is.

 

[Stumps]

hmmm it really sounds like you are just a sleeze and she is waking up to that fact...

 

[DaiShan]

Wait, so you broke up with your last GF on the first of May, and you are having troubles with your *new* gf on the 4th? You need to slow down a bit...

 

[NatePo717]

Who the fvck cares if you talk to someone or not or even how many beers you had? Your gf needs to chill.

 

[cirrhosis]

You fudged up. I was dishonest with my gf at first, she caught me on a lie. I didn't lie to her again though and told her everything, anything she wanted to know. Then she lied to me - it's hard to go on if that trust isn't there, and it's hard to get it back. If she loves you and is committed to making things work, then she will stick by you. But if you keep up your same crap, it's goodbye. GL.

 

[Josh123]

Originally posted by: DaiShan
Wait, so you broke up with your last GF on the first of May, and you are having troubles with your *new* gf on the 4th? You need to slow down a bit...

We broke up the first of April.

 

[gigapet]

ages of both of you

 

[deadlyapp]

tell your new girl to get over herself.

 

[1sikbITCH]

Well, since you've pretty much ruined it with this chick, smack her around a bit and see what happens. Maybe she'll like it! If not, say your goodbyes and move on to the next one.

 

[BobDaMenkey]

Originally posted by: NatePo717
Who the fvck cares if you talk to someone or not or even how many beers you had? Your gf needs to chill.

I'm fairly inclined to agree here. Admittedly trust is a huge part of relationships, and they really have a hard time working without it, but getting upset over little white lies, like how many beers you had(unless you were driving) is bogus.

If she's going to be raising such a stink over this kind of stuff, you'll be in hell later in your relationship.

Personally, I'd bail out on the drama queen.

 

[j00fek]

Originally posted by: Stumps
MEH...I lie to my GF all the time...if "I love you" counts

rofl classic

 

[MisterJackson]

Trust is a very fragile thing. Once it's broken it takes time to repair. How much time is dependant on the level of your lie. In ANY relationship there are going to be lie's. No one is %100 honest or infailable. Your lie's are minor at face value, but to her, the one about the ex will be seen as a big lie. She essentially fears you might get back with your ex so she feels she should be cautious of going forward with you. It's up to you to assure her now that is not the case (if indeed you no longer have feelings for the ex and want to be with the current girl).

 

[Josh123]

Originally posted by: gigapet
ages of both of you

I'm 22 and shes about to be 19. I think her being 19 is the main problem, but in a small town like the one I live in.......its pretty damn hard to find women.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Josh123

Originally posted by: gigapet
ages of both of you

I'm 22 and shes about to be 19. I think her being 19 is the main problem, but in a small town like the one I live in.......its pretty damn hard to find women.

you have to do two things i think:

1) stop lying.....you obviously suck at it.

2) tell her that she is behaving in a rediculous manner, that obviously you have to talk to your ex because you work together with her. Then tell her that it completely irrelevant and unimportant how many beers you drink. If she can't deal with those to things and she is going to be interoggating you on rediculous bullshit night after night your going to give her rediculous bullshit answers.

Take a tough stance on this. If she doesnt accept it then she is pyscho. good bye.

 

[MisterJackson]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Josh123

Originally posted by: gigapet
ages of both of you

I'm 22 and shes about to be 19. I think her being 19 is the main problem, but in a small town like the one I live in.......its pretty damn hard to find women.

you have to do two things i think:

1) stop lying.....you obviously suck at it.

2) tell her that she is behaving in a rediculous manner, that obviously you have to talk to your ex because you work together with her. Then tell her that it completely irrelevant and unimportant how many beers you drink. If she can't deal with those to things and she is going to be interoggating you on rediculous bullshit night after night your going to give her rediculous bullshit answers.

Take a tough stance on this. If she doesnt accept it then she is pyscho. good bye.

while I agree with giga for the MOST part you might wanna finesse the "tell her that she is behaving in a rediculous manner, that obviously you have to talk to your ex because you work together with her" part. She had a right to initially be suspicious since you lied about an ex. As long as you're telling her the truth now, then yeah, no big deal. If she starts pulling some "You better never talk to her again" crap, dump her like explosive diarrhea.

 

[Josh123]

Thanks for the help.

But what does "talking" mean??? Like I said earlier, were not just friends and were not together......were "talking". This is what she told me.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Josh123
Thanks for the help.

But what does "talking" mean??? Like I said earlier, were not just friends and were not together......were "talking". This is what she told me.

dont worry about her girl speak .....you make the rules here. get her in compliance stat.

 

[KarenMarie]

what does it mean?

it means that she thinks she likes you, but is not sure because it is hard for a person to admit that they care about a liar.

so cut it out and stop lying.

 

[jhayx7]

My advice:



Drink more beer! :beer:

 

[Josh123]

Originally posted by: jhayx7
My advice:



Drink more beer! :beer:

lol ya, who cares what anyone thinks when your drunk 24/7.

 

[Josh123]

Update

 

[KarenMarie]

ok, if you are not sure which you want to be with, then it seems that you just want to be with someone, not someone in particular.

i would therefore suggest you be with no one. when the one you REALLY WANT to be with comes along, there will be no question.