We'll I've been going pretty strong with my girlfriend for 3 months now. We've fallen madly in love and I haven't been happier in my life.
Let me just start off by saying I'm not some whinny HS troll (it seems people have to accentuate this in order to at least sound credible). I'm going off to WPI next year and my girlfriend's going to Stonehill college.
Things have been going well for so long now. My mom absolutely loves her and so does my girlfriend. It was this immediate connection that made me suspicious at first, I didn't understand why she could like her so much so fast. Then I started noticing that whenever she talked about her family she'd always a. sound depressed b. not talk much and c. never say anything good. I just got off the phone with her minutes ago; she made me promise not to dislike her parents. It's really hard to do that.
From what she's told me, her parents care more about her brother (which doesn't make sense since she does better then him in school). He?s, by the way, studying EE at northeastern. I'm also somewhat bothered by the fact that she doesn't let me ever come over and talk to her family. I've had dinner once with her parents, and I seemed to have made a very good impression I just don't know if it will be lost with me not ever communicating with them.
Let me go back to the mother issue. All the time we've been going out she's never had trouble coming home late (she's 18 and I'm 19, same birthday just exactly a year apart). All of a sudden yesterday she gets in a fight with her mom for I guess being late (I brought her home at 9:30). I'd understand her being yelled for being late, but she said her mom started going on and on about other things, how she doesn't do things right and yada yada. It just really irritates me that her mom makes her feel so bad and insecure. It took me a month after going out with her to feel "worthy" of being my girlfriend, she felt like she was dumber them me and too ugly. I said that was non-sense and asked her what gave her that idea. Now I get where it comes from... I'm really lost as to what to do.
She called me crying tonight saying her mom forbade us seeing each other. I don't want to circumvent her parent's authority but my love for her will find a way otherwise I'm lost as to how to make things work between her parents. And I know the immigrant pressure. She's been her for five years and, like me, she's had to do certain things "normal" American kids would leave to their parents, like paying bills and finding their parent's work, and being used to being left alone since a young age. Somehow though I've had a good relationship with my mom, she's the person I trust most in the world I just wished my girlfriend also had this relationship. I'm lost.... I just don't understand how a mother could ruin a perfect girl's self esteem and not allow her to be happy. I feel bad that I couple of weeks ago my mom said in front of her "I want my son to be happy, and right now you make him happy. So it's non of my business to interfere". I wish her mom and mine were more on the same page. Sorry I'm not cliff noting.
Let me just start off by saying I'm not some whinny HS troll (it seems people have to accentuate this in order to at least sound credible). I'm going off to WPI next year and my girlfriend's going to Stonehill college.
Things have been going well for so long now. My mom absolutely loves her and so does my girlfriend. It was this immediate connection that made me suspicious at first, I didn't understand why she could like her so much so fast. Then I started noticing that whenever she talked about her family she'd always a. sound depressed b. not talk much and c. never say anything good. I just got off the phone with her minutes ago; she made me promise not to dislike her parents. It's really hard to do that.
From what she's told me, her parents care more about her brother (which doesn't make sense since she does better then him in school). He?s, by the way, studying EE at northeastern. I'm also somewhat bothered by the fact that she doesn't let me ever come over and talk to her family. I've had dinner once with her parents, and I seemed to have made a very good impression I just don't know if it will be lost with me not ever communicating with them.
Let me go back to the mother issue. All the time we've been going out she's never had trouble coming home late (she's 18 and I'm 19, same birthday just exactly a year apart). All of a sudden yesterday she gets in a fight with her mom for I guess being late (I brought her home at 9:30). I'd understand her being yelled for being late, but she said her mom started going on and on about other things, how she doesn't do things right and yada yada. It just really irritates me that her mom makes her feel so bad and insecure. It took me a month after going out with her to feel "worthy" of being my girlfriend, she felt like she was dumber them me and too ugly. I said that was non-sense and asked her what gave her that idea. Now I get where it comes from... I'm really lost as to what to do.
She called me crying tonight saying her mom forbade us seeing each other. I don't want to circumvent her parent's authority but my love for her will find a way otherwise I'm lost as to how to make things work between her parents. And I know the immigrant pressure. She's been her for five years and, like me, she's had to do certain things "normal" American kids would leave to their parents, like paying bills and finding their parent's work, and being used to being left alone since a young age. Somehow though I've had a good relationship with my mom, she's the person I trust most in the world I just wished my girlfriend also had this relationship. I'm lost.... I just don't understand how a mother could ruin a perfect girl's self esteem and not allow her to be happy. I feel bad that I couple of weeks ago my mom said in front of her "I want my son to be happy, and right now you make him happy. So it's non of my business to interfere". I wish her mom and mine were more on the same page. Sorry I'm not cliff noting.