This is in reference to my last thread.
There is a festival coming up that all my friends and all my ex-gf's friends are going to. Big group of people and we all get along.
The ex-gf's has invited her new ex-bf (the bf she had after me and them broke up with). Nobody has ever liked this guy, including me. He has threatened me and he was dating the girl I still had feelings for.
She phoned me last night saying she was angry that her friends were angry at her because she invited this guy and that they weren't going to the festival because of it. She also said that one of her friends said that I wasn't going because the guy was showing up (which wasn't true, I'm still going regardless).
Now one part of me says that if nobody likes the guy (and have good reasons for it), what is wrong with saying "I/we choose to not to associate with you or this guy because I/we don't like him or the situation". The other part of me says, the mature thing to do is to just be friendly to all involved, and just hope that eventually she just stops hanging out with the guy. Unfortunately, by doing that, it's almost like supporting her hanging out with the guy and reinforcement for bringing him around (hey, everyone's being nice, so it's fine to bring him again).
So the question... at what point does not being willing to do something/get involved with something become immaturity?
update
What ended up happening was that I went to the festival and had an absolute blast. I got along with everyone and didn't pay any attention to the guy that nobody liked. He made an ass of himself and that was the night. As far as I know, my friend doesn't talk to the guy anymore.
There is a festival coming up that all my friends and all my ex-gf's friends are going to. Big group of people and we all get along.
The ex-gf's has invited her new ex-bf (the bf she had after me and them broke up with). Nobody has ever liked this guy, including me. He has threatened me and he was dating the girl I still had feelings for.
She phoned me last night saying she was angry that her friends were angry at her because she invited this guy and that they weren't going to the festival because of it. She also said that one of her friends said that I wasn't going because the guy was showing up (which wasn't true, I'm still going regardless).
Now one part of me says that if nobody likes the guy (and have good reasons for it), what is wrong with saying "I/we choose to not to associate with you or this guy because I/we don't like him or the situation". The other part of me says, the mature thing to do is to just be friendly to all involved, and just hope that eventually she just stops hanging out with the guy. Unfortunately, by doing that, it's almost like supporting her hanging out with the guy and reinforcement for bringing him around (hey, everyone's being nice, so it's fine to bring him again).
So the question... at what point does not being willing to do something/get involved with something become immaturity?
update
What ended up happening was that I went to the festival and had an absolute blast. I got along with everyone and didn't pay any attention to the guy that nobody liked. He made an ass of himself and that was the night. As far as I know, my friend doesn't talk to the guy anymore.