Are you naive enough to believe your 17yo daughter and her 20yo bf are not enganged in sexual activities already? Or do you just have that kind of open relationship where you trust her (rather rare)?
Originally posted by: Isla
Originally posted by: crumpet19
I'm 22. My GF is 18. She'll be starting her first year this fall. Workin good so far.
My daughter will be 18 late this year, her boyfriend will be 21. They've known each other since they were kids on the playground. It works out well, but they are very serious about life in general.
They will probably start getting more intimate soon, and I'm fine with that. It's meaningful and not just 'getting some'.
Originally posted by: cKGunslinger
Originally posted by: Isla
Originally posted by: crumpet19
I'm 22. My GF is 18. She'll be starting her first year this fall. Workin good so far.
My daughter will be 18 late this year, her boyfriend will be 21. They've known each other since they were kids on the playground. It works out well, but they are very serious about life in general.
They will probably start getting more intimate soon, and I'm fine with that. It's meaningful and not just 'getting some'.
Are you naive enough to believe your 17yo daughter and her 20yo bf are not enganged in sexual activities already? Or do you just have that kind of open relationship where you trust her (rather rare)?
Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy
I started dating my wife when she was a Senior in HS, and I was a Senior in college. It was extremely awkward at the time. Her friends thought it was cool, my frieinds called me perv, child molester, etc..,etc.... Both our families absolutely hated it. But in just a few years the age diff(5yrs) was not a problem. We dated for several years before getting married, just celebrated our 20th aniversary and have a 16yr old son
Originally posted by: Isla
Zendari
As the mother of a daughter who will be a senior in highschool this year...
With all your talk about abortion, you need to realize that MANY unwanted pregnancies arise from the relationships of teenage girls and their older boyfriends. No matter how strong you think you are, you are getting into very dangerous territory here.
Children in our modern society are very slow to mature (many 30 year olds are still babies, IMHO!) and no matter how wise and mature the two of you think you are, when hormones take over, all bets are off.
In the END, you will be the one to make sure nothing happens. Can you handle that?
Originally posted by: zendari
Originally posted by: Isla
Zendari
As the mother of a daughter who will be a senior in highschool this year...
With all your talk about abortion, you need to realize that MANY unwanted pregnancies arise from the relationships of teenage girls and their older boyfriends. No matter how strong you think you are, you are getting into very dangerous territory here.
Children in our modern society are very slow to mature (many 30 year olds are still babies, IMHO!) and no matter how wise and mature the two of you think you are, when hormones take over, all bets are off.
In the END, you will be the one to make sure nothing happens. Can you handle that?
Of course I can. What do you think I am, a liberal?
Oh and to update: I went for it, its working out well, though she is kinda b*tchy and talks too much. We'll see what happens.
Oh and to update: I went for it, its working out well, though she is kinda b*tchy and talks too much. We'll see what happens.
Originally posted by: Vertimus
It's more of a problem for her than you. So I wouldn't bet on it.
Edit: It's harder for a 18-year old to explain a 20-year old boyfriend to her friends than vice versa.
Originally posted by: cKGunslinger
Originally posted by: Isla
Originally posted by: crumpet19
I'm 22. My GF is 18. She'll be starting her first year this fall. Workin good so far.
My daughter will be 18 late this year, her boyfriend will be 21. They've known each other since they were kids on the playground. It works out well, but they are very serious about life in general.
They will probably start getting more intimate soon, and I'm fine with that. It's meaningful and not just 'getting some'.
Are you naive enough to believe your 17yo daughter and her 20yo bf are not enganged in sexual activities already? Or do you just have that kind of open relationship where you trust her (rather rare)?
:thumbsup: Nice.Originally posted by: Isla
She and I have grown up together... I was only 20 when I had her. She's infinitely more mature than I thought I was when I was her age!
They fool around a bit, I'm sure heavy petting is something they do on a regular basis. They are just two very old-fashioned, conservative kids (even though neither is remotely Republican, hah!). I mean, they even go to yard sales, they aren't interested in drinking or clubbing... he's an engineering geek and she will probably be a high school english teacher.
She's always told me everything, I don't think she can help herself--- she's terrible with secrets. She actually WANTS to tell me about her first time, which is kind of weird to me but I'm not going to tell her that. I've conveyed my values/morals about sexuality to her and she understands what kind of a responsibility being sexually active is. When she was 12, I had her baby brother, so she knows it's not all just fun and games. She's also not interested in having sex for the first time someplace cheesy like the backseat of a car... they will probably spend the night in a hotel. I've told her that when she's ready and if she wants to go on birth control, she's got my blessing---- because she's shown me through her actions that she takes sex and relationships seriously.
Originally posted by: jndietz
Originally posted by: zendari
Originally posted by: Isla
Zendari
As the mother of a daughter who will be a senior in highschool this year...
With all your talk about abortion, you need to realize that MANY unwanted pregnancies arise from the relationships of teenage girls and their older boyfriends. No matter how strong you think you are, you are getting into very dangerous territory here.
Children in our modern society are very slow to mature (many 30 year olds are still babies, IMHO!) and no matter how wise and mature the two of you think you are, when hormones take over, all bets are off.
In the END, you will be the one to make sure nothing happens. Can you handle that?
Of course I can. What do you think I am, a liberal?
Oh and to update: I went for it, its working out well, though she is kinda b*tchy and talks too much. We'll see what happens.
how long did it take you to earn your daughter's boyfriend's trust?
Originally posted by: SouthPaW1227
By the way, those insane rush of high schoolers on ATOT yelling "TAG IT AND BAG IT!!one1!11!" are most likely never even came close to having sex, and don't even understand a meaningful relationship.
Taggin' it and baggin' it has got to be one of the worst ways to go into a relationship.
Originally posted by: Isla
Originally posted by: jndietz
Originally posted by: zendari
Originally posted by: Isla
Zendari
As the mother of a daughter who will be a senior in highschool this year...
With all your talk about abortion, you need to realize that MANY unwanted pregnancies arise from the relationships of teenage girls and their older boyfriends. No matter how strong you think you are, you are getting into very dangerous territory here.
Children in our modern society are very slow to mature (many 30 year olds are still babies, IMHO!) and no matter how wise and mature the two of you think you are, when hormones take over, all bets are off.
In the END, you will be the one to make sure nothing happens. Can you handle that?
Of course I can. What do you think I am, a liberal?
Oh and to update: I went for it, its working out well, though she is kinda b*tchy and talks too much. We'll see what happens.
how long did it take you to earn your daughter's boyfriend's trust?
I've known him since he was a kid. He's been like a member of our family for years. A couple of years ago, we brought him with us on our family vacation. I think he likes me better than his own mom.
Originally posted by: SouthPaW1227
By the way, those insane rush of high schoolers on ATOT yelling "TAG IT AND BAG IT!!one1!11!" are most likely never even came close to having sex, and don't even understand a meaningful relationship.
Taggin' it and baggin' it has got to be one of the worst ways to go into a relationship.