Originally posted by: astrosfan90
Originally posted by: Stewy
Sorry guys, but just forgetting the boyfriend and hittin' it is not a choice. I have some morals, and I just feel it's wrong. I'm not a 'relationship only' type of guy, but I do not think it is acceptable to make her cheat on her boyfriend, who I can tell she still loves. I'll be around for a week, and then she'll be faced with an ugly situation when she gets back home. Already I care too much about her to destroy the relationship she's built up with this guy for a few times of sex here.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not bashing your decision at all. It's yours to make.
But I do take issue with one line of your explanation.
Originally posted by: Stewy
I do not think it is acceptable to make her cheat on her boyfriend...
I hate to burst your bubble, but you can't make her do a damned thing. She's an independent woman capable of making her own decisions, not a poor little flower that needs to you steer her in the right direction. You probably think I'm crazy for reading into it that far, but think about it for a while. Two decisions have to be made for the hookup to happen. You have to decide you are interested in hooking up, and she has to decide if she is interested in hooking up. Her decision is absolutely independent of you and your descision, and the consequences of said decision fall squarely on her shoulders.
Do yourself a favor going down the road in life, and stop thinking of women as inferior beings that need your protection and need you to make choices for them because they're morally inferior and thus unable to make the correct choices for themselves. They're not, and that perspective on women
will get you absolutely and utterly burned one day.
I'm putting this out there honestly--when I was your age, I had the absolute exact same outlook on life, and it took me many painful experiences to realize that I was even in that mindset.
Anyway, keep in mind that I'm not trying to change your mind one way or the other--I'm just trying to open your eyes to see things a little differently. Good luck with the situation and whatever you do, enjoy what time you have left. Don't burn any bridges--the world is smaller than you think. I wound up in a 3 year relationship after college with a girl I had crushed on back in high school on another continent.