YAGT: Falling for a girl I know I can't have

[linkgoron]

Just something that made me laugh...
You lose respect for your ex GF because she fvcked some guy the week you broke up,
and then you want to hook up with a girl that has a BF?

Yes I know that you said you're not that type of guy, but I'm talking about the girl.

It's a bit ironic imo, but otherwise... GL...

 

[imported_Stewy]

Originally posted by: linkgoron
Just something that made me laugh...
You lose respect for your ex GF because she fvcked some guy the week you broke up,
and then you want to hook up with a girl that has a BF?

Yes I know that you said you're not that type of guy, but I'm talking about the girl.

It's a bit ironic imo, but otherwise... GL...

Clairification: I lost respect because my ex-GF hooked up with a guy a week after we broke up, when she was drunk, the first night she met the guy.

This new girl and I have known each other for a long time. She is not pushing me to do anything with her, and I would probably think a lot less of her if she was. The way our relationship is developing is more of a 'down the road' type relationship. In my mind, there's a huge difference between what her and I are doing and my skank of an ex-GF.

 

[Sparke]

There are plenty of fish in the sea. Just go out, meet new people, and you'll look back and realize that a situation like this is out of your control. And you'll probably find someone with whom you have an even stronger connection.

 

[hdeck]

you always want what you can't have

 

[CrackRabbit]

I had a thing for a German exchange student once.
I noticed she hadn't been in class for a week and asked about it.
Found out she had been deported for smoking pot.

 

[GuitarDaddy]

Ask her to marry you and become a US citizen

Plan B: Chloroform her and keep her locked in the basement, until the feds stop looking for her

 

[astrosfan90]

Originally posted by: Stewy

Sorry guys, but just forgetting the boyfriend and hittin' it is not a choice. I have some morals, and I just feel it's wrong. I'm not a 'relationship only' type of guy, but I do not think it is acceptable to make her cheat on her boyfriend, who I can tell she still loves. I'll be around for a week, and then she'll be faced with an ugly situation when she gets back home. Already I care too much about her to destroy the relationship she's built up with this guy for a few times of sex here.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not bashing your decision at all. It's yours to make.

But I do take issue with one line of your explanation.

Originally posted by: Stewy

I do not think it is acceptable to make her cheat on her boyfriend...

I hate to burst your bubble, but you can't make her do a damned thing. She's an independent woman capable of making her own decisions, not a poor little flower that needs to you steer her in the right direction. You probably think I'm crazy for reading into it that far, but think about it for a while. Two decisions have to be made for the hookup to happen. You have to decide you are interested in hooking up, and she has to decide if she is interested in hooking up. Her decision is absolutely independent of you and your descision, and the consequences of said decision fall squarely on her shoulders.

Do yourself a favor going down the road in life, and stop thinking of women as inferior beings that need your protection and need you to make choices for them because they're morally inferior and thus unable to make the correct choices for themselves. They're not, and that perspective on women will get you absolutely and utterly burned one day.

I'm putting this out there honestly--when I was your age, I had the absolute exact same outlook on life, and it took me many painful experiences to realize that I was even in that mindset.


Anyway, keep in mind that I'm not trying to change your mind one way or the other--I'm just trying to open your eyes to see things a little differently. Good luck with the situation and whatever you do, enjoy what time you have left. Don't burn any bridges--the world is smaller than you think. I wound up in a 3 year relationship after college with a girl I had crushed on back in high school on another continent.

 

[sandmanwake]

Ask yourself if you really want to have a relationship (more than sex) with a woman who would cheat on her boyfriend. It's one thing if she breaks it off first and then hook up with you, but if she hooks up with you and never broke up with the other guy, what makes you think she won't do it to you at some point in the future? She cheats once, she'll do it again.

 

[yowolabi]

Originally posted by: Stewy
Me = America
She = Europe, non-English speaking

Sorry guys, but just forgetting the boyfriend and hittin' it is not a choice. I have some morals, and I just feel it's wrong. I'm not a 'relationship only' type of guy, but I do not think it is acceptable to make her cheat on her boyfriend, who I can tell she still loves. I'll be around for a week, and then she'll be faced with an ugly situation when she gets back home. Already I care too much about her to destroy the relationship she's built up with this guy for a few times of sex here.

What kind of gun are you holding to her head?

 

[CKent]

Lol, she's gonna leave her current boyfriend for you? What do you think she'll do with you when she finds someone else? :laugh:

 

[Atomicus]

Save yourself the heartache; let her go NOW before you do something irrational.

 

[frankgomez75]

Originally posted by: astrosfan90

Originally posted by: Stewy

Sorry guys, but just forgetting the boyfriend and hittin' it is not a choice. I have some morals, and I just feel it's wrong. I'm not a 'relationship only' type of guy, but I do not think it is acceptable to make her cheat on her boyfriend, who I can tell she still loves. I'll be around for a week, and then she'll be faced with an ugly situation when she gets back home. Already I care too much about her to destroy the relationship she's built up with this guy for a few times of sex here.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not bashing your decision at all. It's yours to make.

But I do take issue with one line of your explanation.

Originally posted by: Stewy

I do not think it is acceptable to make her cheat on her boyfriend...

I hate to burst your bubble, but you can't make her do a damned thing. She's an independent woman capable of making her own decisions, not a poor little flower that needs to you steer her in the right direction. You probably think I'm crazy for reading into it that far, but think about it for a while. Two decisions have to be made for the hookup to happen. You have to decide you are interested in hooking up, and she has to decide if she is interested in hooking up. Her decision is absolutely independent of you and your descision, and the consequences of said decision fall squarely on her shoulders.

Do yourself a favor going down the road in life, and stop thinking of women as inferior beings that need your protection and need you to make choices for them because they're morally inferior and thus unable to make the correct choices for themselves. They're not, and that perspective on women will get you absolutely and utterly burned one day.

I'm putting this out there honestly--when I was your age, I had the absolute exact same outlook on life, and it took me many painful experiences to realize that I was even in that mindset.


Anyway, keep in mind that I'm not trying to change your mind one way or the other--I'm just trying to open your eyes to see things a little differently. Good luck with the situation and whatever you do, enjoy what time you have left. Don't burn any bridges--the world is smaller than you think. I wound up in a 3 year relationship after college with a girl I had crushed on back in high school on another continent.

Well said. Lots of ppl fail to realize that you CAN'T make someone do something they don't want to do unless you have a gun or something. It is their choice. Hell, if she did cheat on her man with you at least you know what kind of girl she is and that will save you from a broken heart down the road by realizing she does those kind of things when she loses interests in her BF's. So just do it, let her deal with her own issues.. she may not even care when she gets back home and act like nothing happened. Seriously don't try to protect her... you're not Superman... you're human. Enjoy your youth while you can and learn from it. Though if its because you don't feel thats right than I can understand it, but don't think for a sec that she prolly wouldn't do it to you. Lots of fish in the sea, so pull out your rod and start fishin'!

 

[imported_Stewy]

"I do not think it is acceptable to make her cheat on her boyfriend"

Okay, perhaps I used the wrong word there. I didn't mean that I would force her to cheat on her boyfriend. However, if it wasn't for me, there wouldn't even be a temptation to cheat on her boyfriend. I used the wrong word/phrase there. That post is now edited to reflect what I actually meant to convey.

The thing is, I don't think she would actually cheat on her boyfriend. She would break up with him first. This is one of the characteristics that I really admire about her. Like I said in a previous post, I would feel different about her if she actually did cheat on her boyfriend. I do not want a girl who would drop her long term boyfriend for a week in another country.

 

[maziwanka]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Same sh!t, different day.

I think I saw a thread for a decent set of balls in Hot Deals this morning.

hahahahha

dunno what to think about the girl having a bf and whatnot.

there's always a girl you would love to be with but just can't...

i hope it works out for you

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: Aflac
reminds me of that song "you're beautiful" or whatever.

Excellent song.