Originally posted by: dirtboy
Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: dirtboy
I don't communicate with any of my ex's. What's would be the point of it?
Well if you have a civil parting that just based on the fact that you make good friends more than lovers.
Why would I want to be friends with them? Nothing good comes from it. The only reason is if one of the two still likes or is in love with the other. New partners won't understand this weird friendship. Keeping in touch often doesn't allow one to get over the other. They get jealous when one starts a new relationship before the other.
I have no interest in hanging out with ex's. Unless I was some loser that needed acceptance from everyone or had to remain friends with everyone I met, then I could see doing that. All I know is that when I meet a girl who is hanging out with her ex's that tells me one of two things: either she still likes him and can't move on or he is a complete loser who can't let go.
Are you still in high school or something?
WTF is the loser title getting thrown out there and how is it that the ex-g/f must like 'him' still, yet he can't let go? Something tells me you want to label it this way due to your own seething jealousy should your b/f or g/f still remains friends with their exes.
As an *adult* there are several possible reasons to remain friends....I never said you were pals hanging out daily and what not but here is a few scenarios:
You have dated a co-worker. Unless you are going to change jobs sort of hard to not deal with them.
You have dated a vendor, or someone else in your industry. You see this person at tradeshows, conventions, etc....
You have dated someone that hangs out at the same places you do...it's inevitable to not run into them...rather than reliving high school: running and hiding, starting a fight, etc...you say hi in passing or whatever.
There is a big percentage though of exes that still see each other are also still at least partially messing around...it's really up to your partner...if you trust them and they have agreed to a commitment you just got to trust the situation. They are not a pet you can keep on a leash.
I am friends with a few exes, enemies with some, and a few my wife is friends with and knows that we were sexually involved. I have no desire to sleep with any of my exes now. Perhaps if I was single ever again and we were out together it would be different, but the reasons we did split is because we were just good friends and sex buddies...we didn't have the serious traits to make a life-long relationship with.