First off, you seem like an abomination to the human race. This whole thread is really sad. Even more sad that you made a thread on an internet message board, detailing your steps you will be taking to ensure your date ends with sexual intercourse. Here's some tips and thoughts on the subject:
Stop calling it poon, you sound like a junior high schooler. I imagine you're still a virgin. Not too surprising. If not, congratulations on finding someone dumb enough to have sex with you. If you go into a date expecting nothing but to 'get poon' you're going to fail every time. By what you wrote, it seems you're used to it -- with good reason. If she resists, you're obviously doing something wrong. It seems this girl probably only went on a pity date with you, and since you asked to touch her 'poon' she probably thinks you are some kind of creepy molester. Seriously, if I were that girl, and you had asked to touch me 'there', I would have slapped you in the face, and I am by no means a prude. You're acting like an immature junior high schooler, and it seems you need to worry about growing up before having sex.