I've been good friends with a girl I know here at school for a long time and I honestly think I've fallen in love with her. The problem is that I know for a fact that a relationship between the two of us would never work out.
To try and explain this, let me describe her. She is a piano major, loves to read, and loves to talk about philosophy. All of which I am definitely looking for in a girl (well, she wouldnt have to play piano I guess). This is the side of her I see whenever I'm alone with her. However, in other situations, especially in a large group of friends, she loves to be the center of attention and is therefore loud and obnoxious, loves to drink, and, well, gets very friendly while drunk (not to the point of sleeping with people and this actually has not happened for a while). She also admits to being terrified of commitment and basically refuses to focus on one guy.
Now this wouldn't be much of a problem if I didn't know that she likes me too (I wouldn't go as far as love). But naturally, she is not looking for a serious relationship and so I would just get to fool around with her (again, no sex implied), while still remaining friends. I think this is a bad idea, just because the whole combo of incompatible personalities, me being in love, and she not caring too much can only end badly. So is it possible to still stay the good friends we are if nothing happens? And how do I force myself to move on, away from her? Being at a relatively small university, I see her almost constantly so it'll be somewhat difficult.
Something about me for comparison: I am a fairly reserved engineering major. I hate being the center of attention and while I do drink, I dislike getting drunk.
No pics, out of respect for her.
EDIT: I thought at least some people would read the damn thing on their own.
Cliffs:
In love with girl.
We are incompatible (RTFP if you want to know why)
How do I forget about her considering I see her at least a few times everyday?
To try and explain this, let me describe her. She is a piano major, loves to read, and loves to talk about philosophy. All of which I am definitely looking for in a girl (well, she wouldnt have to play piano I guess). This is the side of her I see whenever I'm alone with her. However, in other situations, especially in a large group of friends, she loves to be the center of attention and is therefore loud and obnoxious, loves to drink, and, well, gets very friendly while drunk (not to the point of sleeping with people and this actually has not happened for a while). She also admits to being terrified of commitment and basically refuses to focus on one guy.
Now this wouldn't be much of a problem if I didn't know that she likes me too (I wouldn't go as far as love). But naturally, she is not looking for a serious relationship and so I would just get to fool around with her (again, no sex implied), while still remaining friends. I think this is a bad idea, just because the whole combo of incompatible personalities, me being in love, and she not caring too much can only end badly. So is it possible to still stay the good friends we are if nothing happens? And how do I force myself to move on, away from her? Being at a relatively small university, I see her almost constantly so it'll be somewhat difficult.
Something about me for comparison: I am a fairly reserved engineering major. I hate being the center of attention and while I do drink, I dislike getting drunk.
No pics, out of respect for her.
EDIT: I thought at least some people would read the damn thing on their own.
Cliffs:
In love with girl.
We are incompatible (RTFP if you want to know why)
How do I forget about her considering I see her at least a few times everyday?