Basically move on, she screwed the relationship over and all you can really do is forget about it.
Originally posted by: archiloco
there is a simple thing you need to do.
never talk to her again, if she confronts you then politely converse in a yes and no fashion. and that's it....couriosity killed the cat and the last thingyou need to do is dwell on this......my favorite part of a break up is never talking to the person again
Originally posted by: siameseplease
Originally posted by: archiloco
there is a simple thing you need to do.
never talk to her again, if she confronts you then politely converse in a yes and no fashion. and that's it....couriosity killed the cat and the last thingyou need to do is dwell on this......my favorite part of a break up is never talking to the person again
I love the "use your vocabulary to the fullest extext and make her feel stupid"..but that only works if you had a girlfriend like i did..lolz.
Originally posted by: Stewy
Originally posted by: Firebot
Originally posted by: Stewy
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Get over her by getting under someone else. Something like that. Yeah.
I've got someone lined up... She's only going to be here for a week or two, so I have to move quickly. We 'hooked up' for about a week before she went back home (she was a foreign exhange student in my high school) and now she's back.
The plus? She's my ex-gf's 'best friend'
The negative? She's my ex-gf's 'best friend'
This Sunday I'll find out if I have a change with her, I guess. Three years might be a barrier though.
What is wrong with you? That's not a plus at all. Wipe the slate clean and just move on completly. No 'best friend', no 'sister', no 'mother'. Go for someone which doesn't have obvious ties which will force you to meet your ex-GF again no matter what.
Why's it a plus?
Sweet, sweet revenge!!!
It wouldn't be some random hookup. Getting with her would be something I have wanted to do since she went back to her country, three years ago. It would definetly make me get over my ex!
Plus, she has an extremely toned body, and a really, really nice ass!
Originally posted by: Cdubneeddeal
Originally posted by: Stewy
Originally posted by: Firebot
Originally posted by: Stewy
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Get over her by getting under someone else. Something like that. Yeah.
I've got someone lined up... She's only going to be here for a week or two, so I have to move quickly. We 'hooked up' for about a week before she went back home (she was a foreign exhange student in my high school) and now she's back.
The plus? She's my ex-gf's 'best friend'
The negative? She's my ex-gf's 'best friend'
This Sunday I'll find out if I have a change with her, I guess. Three years might be a barrier though.
What is wrong with you? That's not a plus at all. Wipe the slate clean and just move on completly. No 'best friend', no 'sister', no 'mother'. Go for someone which doesn't have obvious ties which will force you to meet your ex-GF again no matter what.
Why's it a plus?
Sweet, sweet revenge!!!
It wouldn't be some random hookup. Getting with her would be something I have wanted to do since she went back to her country, three years ago. It would definetly make me get over my ex!
Plus, she has an extremely toned body, and a really, really nice ass!
That's very immature of you to even think that, sorry, had to say it. You will not get over your ex by sleeping with another girl, it will just make you think of her even more. You'll think of the times you made love then held each other. Take it from someone that's been there before...you'll regret doing it.
And stop wondering what she's doing. It's only going to bring you farther down. Sure, it's tough to not be in that frame of mind but if you really think about how you feel after finding certain things out you'll soon realize you didn't want to know in the first place.
Originally posted by: Stewy
Originally posted by: Cdubneeddeal
Originally posted by: Stewy
Originally posted by: Firebot
Originally posted by: Stewy
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Get over her by getting under someone else. Something like that. Yeah.
I've got someone lined up... She's only going to be here for a week or two, so I have to move quickly. We 'hooked up' for about a week before she went back home (she was a foreign exhange student in my high school) and now she's back.
The plus? She's my ex-gf's 'best friend'
The negative? She's my ex-gf's 'best friend'
This Sunday I'll find out if I have a change with her, I guess. Three years might be a barrier though.
What is wrong with you? That's not a plus at all. Wipe the slate clean and just move on completly. No 'best friend', no 'sister', no 'mother'. Go for someone which doesn't have obvious ties which will force you to meet your ex-GF again no matter what.
Why's it a plus?
Sweet, sweet revenge!!!
It wouldn't be some random hookup. Getting with her would be something I have wanted to do since she went back to her country, three years ago. It would definetly make me get over my ex!
Plus, she has an extremely toned body, and a really, really nice ass!
That's very immature of you to even think that, sorry, had to say it. You will not get over your ex by sleeping with another girl, it will just make you think of her even more. You'll think of the times you made love then held each other. Take it from someone that's been there before...you'll regret doing it.
And stop wondering what she's doing. It's only going to bring you farther down. Sure, it's tough to not be in that frame of mind but if you really think about how you feel after finding certain things out you'll soon realize you didn't want to know in the first place.
Yes, I guess it did have to be said. And I freely admit, you are right. It is extremely immature of me to think about getting with this girl purely to upset my ex. I may have misphrased my true intentions in that original post which you quoted.
It's not that I only want to get with her friend because of revenge... That actually plays a relatively small part in my motivation. Like I've said, she's really hot, and I had a huge crush on her for a long time (it was a mutual crush, however. I talked to her about it almost a year ago).
However, since I've been hurt, I'm having a hard time not thinking about anything related to her in terms of 'revenge.'
Originally posted by: Stewy
NO PICS!!! If that turns you off, then get out of my thread, k thanks.
So. I was dating this girl since I got out of high school, around three years ago. However, she broke up with me around a month ago, saying that she just didn't 'feel it' anymore. However, I suspected that there was another reason behind it.
Through the entire relationship, I always felt like she loved me more than I loved her... It was pretty apparant that she cared very much about me, so I really don't know what happened towards the end. She always told me that if she broke up with me, it would take her a long time to get over 'us'. In June, the sex became sparse, like once or twice a week, and she always finished long before I did. Then, because she got a new job, we started not being together all that much, and not really being all that close when we were together.
So, around a week after we broke up, I find out that she was very attracted to some guy she met before we broke up, and that in the last few weeks of the realtionship she thought of me 'as a really good friend.' When she was with me, she was thinking of this other guy.
The next week, I talk to her about this... All I want is the truth, because I've been a wreck thinking about her breaking up with me because she was with another guy. She tells me that she's just 'friends' and she probably will not date someone for a long time.
The next day, someone in one of my classes approaches me, telling me that my ex-gf is with his friend's younger brother. He claims that they are dating, and have been together for the last week or so.
Fast foward to today. Another friend from one of my classes has done the unthinkable. Not only has she personally met my ex's new guy, and hung around them for an hour, but she's taken pictures of them, to show me. She has pictures of them lying on the coutch, holding hands, and a picture of them making out!!!!! Well, as you can imagine, now I feel like sh!t. I'm suppose to meet her later this week to talk about things. Mainly, all I want to know is if they are having sex yet. I don't know why it really matters to me, but I think actually hearing from her that they are together, and having sex, would make everything better, since the worst part is wondering.
The same friend that took the pictures says that this guy also spends every weekend living with her. She has a small room, with a double bed, which makes me think that something is happening.
Here's the real kicker: Both my GF and I are pretty intelligent. We are both 21. This guy is a exchange student from Spain who can barely speak english, and is here for the equivalent of a GED. Also, he is 18. The only thing I can see that this guy has over me is looks, which really hurts, because I will freely admit that my GF is not the best looking.. She's put on around 20 pounds in the last few years.
So, if you made it through that, what do you think?
Here's what makes it so bad. I'm taking summer classes right now, and the only people I know in the entire town are the people that have told me about what is going on. So, I'm really lonely. On the weekends I visit friends from other cities, so I'm not bored, but on the week days all I can do is sit around and think about her and this guy.
Realistically, breaking up wasn't bad. If she did not have this guy, it wouldn't be a big deal. But, the fact that she moved on so quickly really hurts.
Thoughts?
EDIT
Posted by someone:
"My head hurts after reading this thread. You have a GF now and you want to know if your ex and this guy are having sex?"
I know it's wierd. However, I think the worst part about thinking about her and the new guy is wondering what exactly is going on between them. If I just knew for a fact that something was going on, I think it would bring some degree of closure to me.
I felt I needed to reply to this particular topic in the OP.
Originally posted by: Cdubneeddeal
Originally posted by: Stewy
Originally posted by: Cdubneeddeal
Originally posted by: Stewy
Originally posted by: Firebot
Originally posted by: Stewy
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Get over her by getting under someone else. Something like that. Yeah.
I've got someone lined up... She's only going to be here for a week or two, so I have to move quickly. We 'hooked up' for about a week before she went back home (she was a foreign exhange student in my high school) and now she's back.
The plus? She's my ex-gf's 'best friend'
The negative? She's my ex-gf's 'best friend'
This Sunday I'll find out if I have a change with her, I guess. Three years might be a barrier though.
What is wrong with you? That's not a plus at all. Wipe the slate clean and just move on completly. No 'best friend', no 'sister', no 'mother'. Go for someone which doesn't have obvious ties which will force you to meet your ex-GF again no matter what.
Why's it a plus?
Sweet, sweet revenge!!!
It wouldn't be some random hookup. Getting with her would be something I have wanted to do since she went back to her country, three years ago. It would definetly make me get over my ex!
Plus, she has an extremely toned body, and a really, really nice ass!
That's very immature of you to even think that, sorry, had to say it. You will not get over your ex by sleeping with another girl, it will just make you think of her even more. You'll think of the times you made love then held each other. Take it from someone that's been there before...you'll regret doing it.
And stop wondering what she's doing. It's only going to bring you farther down. Sure, it's tough to not be in that frame of mind but if you really think about how you feel after finding certain things out you'll soon realize you didn't want to know in the first place.
Yes, I guess it did have to be said. And I freely admit, you are right. It is extremely immature of me to think about getting with this girl purely to upset my ex. I may have misphrased my true intentions in that original post which you quoted.
It's not that I only want to get with her friend because of revenge... That actually plays a relatively small part in my motivation. Like I've said, she's really hot, and I had a huge crush on her for a long time (it was a mutual crush, however. I talked to her about it almost a year ago).
However, since I've been hurt, I'm having a hard time not thinking about anything related to her in terms of 'revenge.'
Understood. However, it will make you feel worse in the end if you sleep wtih this girl. Be strong and keep yourself busy is my best advice to you. If you don't play into the revenge game it will make you stronger in the future if anything of this nature happens again. It will teach you new coping skills for the future. You don't want to get older and still be in the revenge type of mindset. It's not healthy and honestly, it's morally wrong. However, you're going to do whatever you're going to do. But I guess keep some of my opinion in mind. I've been through what you're going through on two occassions and both times I did think of revenge but knew it wasn't the right thing to do.
Good luck.
Originally posted by: BD2003
FWIW, although they probably are already, even if they are not, they will be soon.
But yeah, I'd put my money on it.
And if you do her best friend, you are my hero.
BTW, shes your EX-GF, not your GF...
If she cheated on him, revenge is in order. Doesn't sound like she did though.
It is most definitely a dish best served cold...but not too cold.
Originally posted by: Stewy
Originally posted by: BD2003
FWIW, although they probably are already, even if they are not, they will be soon.
But yeah, I'd put my money on it.
And if you do her best friend, you are my hero.
BTW, shes your EX-GF, not your GF...
Yeah, I cleared that up in my OP. Sorry about the confusion there... I think I made a mistake in the copy and paste of that sentence.
I'll get back to you about the best friend. I'm hoping I'll have a shot, but not for revenge purposes.
Originally posted by: Pepsei
dude, it's over... let it go..it doesn't matter if she lied to you or not... ok..always treat this like she lied. you'll feel better.
think outside of the box....
Originally posted by: Cdubneeddeal
Originally posted by: Pepsei
dude, it's over... let it go..it doesn't matter if she lied to you or not... ok..always treat this like she lied. you'll feel better.
think outside of the box....
I wouldn't necessarily think like that. Thoughts of betrayal can really hurt your future relationships that you have. It's better to think of the reasons why the two of you aren't compatible. Think of any red flags you saw in the beginning or during the relationship you might have shrugged off and slowly realize how big those red flags are and thank God that the two of you aren't together as those red flags could have caused things longer down the road to be worse.
Originally posted by: Stewy
Originally posted by: Cdubneeddeal
Originally posted by: Pepsei
dude, it's over... let it go..it doesn't matter if she lied to you or not... ok..always treat this like she lied. you'll feel better.
think outside of the box....
I wouldn't necessarily think like that. Thoughts of betrayal can really hurt your future relationships that you have. It's better to think of the reasons why the two of you aren't compatible. Think of any red flags you saw in the beginning or during the relationship you might have shrugged off and slowly realize how big those red flags are and thank God that the two of you aren't together as those red flags could have caused things longer down the road to be worse.
So, here's some more information about us:
From the beginning, I never thought about her as someone who I would want to spend my entire life with. For the longest time, she was all about being together 'forever' and stuff like that, but I always was the one who kept reserved and quiet about my future plans, because as far as I felt, she was only the girl who I was dating now, and in the future I'd find a girl I loved more than her.
Strangely enough, I kept this mental attitude until the end of the relationship. It's not that I didn't love her, or even didn't show that I loved her, because I did. However, there was always this nagging thought that she was not the ideal girl for me to spend the rest of my life with. By our very nature, we disagreed on some fundamental issues which I believe a couple should agree on: Appropiate age for marriage, kids/not kids, ect. We never really had a serious discussion about these topics, but from the general conversations we had, I know we were incompatible.
However, since she broke up with me, I haven't felt like I did for the rest of the relationship. Like many people in this thread have cautioned me not to do, I convinced myself that she'd get tired of Jeorge, and and I could win her back. Somehow the realization that her and Jeorge are having sex made me realize that we are not getting back together.
By my nature, I am not a very jealous person. Actually, I think this is one of the first times I have ever really felt jealous of someone for an extended period of time. Perhaps I just need to figure out a way of getting over the jealousy?
Who knows..
Originally posted by: Firetower
dont forget to bring the lube camping.