Originally posted by: jdini76
Think back about some sort of philosophy about getting married you mentioned thinking it was no big deal. It was to her.
That is why I had trouble ignoring it. Sure, she might be able to wait, but I'm left wondering was it something about our serious discussions or was it something about our choice of dinner last night? Was it a marriage related topic? Or was it a joke I told that she doesn't like? I was just left hanging.
Most likely, I think it was a comment I made in passing about school. She attended an all girls private school, I attended a public school. Both of us are successes. I can show you studies that factor out family upbringing (income, race, parental caring, etc) that says private and public schools give the exact same results. Top students do well in both, low students do poorly in both, average students do average in both. Multiple studies are coming out now showing that. I mentioned in passing that single-gender schools have some advantages but they have significant drawbacks too. I THINK this is what it is about. Something minor as it doesn't affect us in any way, but something that she really wants to defend.
I think she is under a mistaken circular argument. Top private schools get to be selective in their clients, the top rich students with parents who care can get in, thus it is full of only top students and get top scores, thus it is considered a top school, thus top students attend, etc. It isn't the school that made them successes (studies show these kids would do equally as well in other schools). They were successes because they were already bright students with parents who cared about a good education.
Of course, I could be wrong in that guess.
Originally posted by: jdini76
Originally posted by: Descartes
20 months without an argument? Damn.
Yea sounds good on the surface, But apparently she keeps everything bottled up. It will eventually let lose and all hell will break lose!
That is the way things go sometimes. I'd rather be blunt and let things out, bottleing things up doesn't help either of you. But I'm also quite easy going. I don't fight over anything that is minor. I'll gladly enter a debate, but keep things civil and not actually argue.