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Originally posted by: KLin
You'll be broken up within a month.
There's the rub.
Originally posted by: KLin
You'll be broken up within a month.
Originally posted by: archcommus
We discussed some things. She actually didn't cry as much as she used to, I think she's getting used to thinking about it.
Basically, I told her that I don't want to go to school in the mindset that we HAVE to stay together, because that will result in me avoiding all girls and any kinds of potential relationships. I said I need to go feeling open and free, so I can meet new girls, go on dates if I want, etc. She understood and realized that she'd want to do the same thing when she goes to college.
BUT, and this is the very important part, we realize that just because we see other people, that doesn't mean we INSTANTLY have to cut off all relations with each other. We can still see each other, we just won't be a strict couple anymore. For example, when I come home for breaks, we can still catch a movie, maybe go to dinner, basically just have fun as if we were any other two people going on a date. And, if at the end of the school year I'm still not dating anyone ELSE seriously, and if I still want to be with her, then that means our relationship survived a healthy test.
What do you think, do our thoughts on this sound good?
Originally posted by: MazerRackham
Why would you want to date the same girl all the way through college? Dude, YOU CAN GET WITH SO MANY CHICKS IN COLLEGE IT'S SICKENING NOW THAT I'M OUT OF COLLEGE. STAY SINGLE IN COLLEGE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD.
Originally posted by: archcommus
There is a lot of trust both ways. I know she'd never cheat on me and I'd never cheat on her. That said, if I knew I didn't want to get involved with anyone on campus, she would be able to trust me and not go crazy if I don't call every night or something like that.
However, we all know it would be nearly impossible to stay true to one woman an hour away with all the other women around me daily. We KNOW I will be tempted to do physical things and we KNOW I will encounter females that I want to get to know better or perhaps date. This is especially true since I will only be seeing her maybe twice a month, and since it's my FIRST YEAR, and next year she will be going, too. That is why we're not even attempting to stay a strict couple. I can do what I want, she can do what she wants. If either of us find someone else, then it wasn't meant to be. If neither of us do, we'll come crawling back to each other naturally.
Sounds good on paper, but...I dunno. I'm afraid this plan will just result in a complete break-up, even if neither of us find someone else.
Originally posted by: archcommus
Well I made a big boo boo today, apparently. I thought things were alright after our talk earlier today, but when I just called now to say goodnight she was bawling her eyes out.
I'll post more in a bit.