YAGT: I can't meet any girls

[BigToque]

I just wanted to post about being frustrated that I'm not meeting any girls. (I'm 25 btw)

I got out of a long relationship almost 1.5 years ago. About 4 months after the breakup, I had a 2 month relationship with a 37 year old woman (which has turned into a nice friendship) and that's it. I have gone on 1 date in the last 12 months.

Half my friends are in long term relationships so when we hang out (always a big group thing) it's usually just going for dinner or hanging out at someone's house. The other half of my friends just don't like to go out. They would rather just stay home and drink and watch a game on tv or play video games.

I tried doing the "just go out by yourself and have a good time" bit for a while. I met a couple of girls at the bar but obviously nothing that turned into anything. I'm done with going out by myself now.

I just never have any opportunity to actually meet girls. If I could be around them in any kind of social situation I'm sure I'd be getting some dates, but what are you supposed to do when you are never in any social situations where there are girls that are not part of the group you're with?

I don't know the answer to my problem...

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: BigToque
I just wanted to post about being frustrated that I'm not meeting any girls. (I'm 25 btw)

I got out of a long relationship almost 1.5 years ago. About 4 months after the breakup, I had a 2 month relationship with a 37 year old woman (which has turned into a nice friendship) and that's it. I have gone on 1 date in the last 12 months.

Half my friends are in long term relationships so when we hang out (always a big group thing) it's usually just going for dinner or hanging out at someone's house. The other half of my friends just don't like to go out. They would rather just stay home and drink and watch a game on tv or play video games.

I tried doing the "just go out by yourself and have a good time" bit for a while. I met a couple of girls at the bar but obviously nothing that turned into anything. I'm done with going out by myself now.

I just never have any opportunity to actually meet girls. If I could be around them in any kind of social situation I'm sure I'd be getting some dates, but what are you supposed to do when you are never in any social situations where there are girls that are not part of the group you're with?

I don't know the answer to my problem...

i have the same problem. i don't get into any social situations other than work or with a friend.

also doesn't help that i live in the middle of nowhere.

 

[chr6]

library, church, i think theres good women there

 

[archcommus]

Finally a YAGT that isn't totally pathetic that I can somewhat relate to.

 

[krunchykrome]

Get a baby and go to the park. Women love babies.



No, seriously, how about getting a dog. Take it to the park on a nice day. Every time I go to the park or lake, I see all of these single (Im not sure if they're all actually single) women walking dogs. I see the dog owners talking to each other about their dogs and such. Just make sure that you actually like dogs and you want one for other reasons also.

 

[Double Trouble]

Ya know, there is one way to instantly increase the available pool of candidates by 100%

In that situation, your best bet is to join some clubs or groups, perhaps through work, perhaps through your church etc. It's a good way to meet people, build a network of new friends that might bring some opportunities. You're in the "tweener" time with some friends maturing and getting married while others are still in goofing off mode.

 

[iRONic]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Get a baby and go to the park. Women love babies.

Heh heh...

 

[Lola]

i should write an ebook on this and sell it at a deep discount to any ATOT members.

*sigh*


DO THINGS YOU LIKE! Or, get out of your comfort zone and try something new and be open to anyone you meet there.
Take a cooking class, join a book club, volunteer at an animal shelter... that is the first step. Get out there where you can come into contact with females. Don't go to bars.

 

[crt1530]

Join a gym, play on a coed sports team, volunteer, speed date, online date, stop whining. Hit on every woman you come into contact with that you find attractive. Women can tell when you are desperate. Don't be.

 

[Q]

Man, what would we do without Lola?

 

[maddogchen]

ask your friends that are in long term relationships, to see if their gfs have any single friends that are girls and invite them to hang out at dinner or someone's house

edit: grammar sucks

 

[Uhtrinity]

I have found myself being in the same kind of situation after being widowed almost 4 years ago and being a single father.

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: Quintox
Man, what would we do without Lola?

you being sarcastic?!


honestly, its rather simple. I think a lot of males over complicate things to the point of craziness.

We (females) are eveywhere. It is just a matter of really becoming aware of who is around you and getting the balls to strike up a casual, friendly conversation.

 

[StevenYoo]

Originally posted by: Quintox
Man, what would we do without Lola?

seriously. These female life units can be quite useful sometimes.

 

[skrilla]

Originally posted by: BigToque

I don't know the answer to my problem...

It's not just your problem. I got the same kind of thing going on here and I have been thinking about it a lot lately.

Either my friends are engaged or married - and it is pretty much an, "I gotta be home by 10" attitude. They don't feel the need to be in social situations.

I have a few other close friends who have started dating people and are pretty much nowhere to be found recently.

It is a good question, man. I'd like ideas too.

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: StevenYoo

Originally posted by: Quintox
Man, what would we do without Lola?

seriously. These female life units can be quite useful sometimes.

hahahahhaa

 

[f4phantom2500]

lol

"I never meet girls because I never find myself in social situations where I would meet them. I mean, I spend 8 hours a day at work, 8 hours sleeping, and 8 hours on ATOT. What am I doing wrong?!?!?"

 

[Lola]

I have a question for all you guys:

If someone (a female speaker) were to come to your town/school/university and talked about dating/sex/relationships, would you go and see her? Kind of like a self-help type deal but more hands on and in small group workshops?

 

[randomlinh]

i hear ya's. i made a terrible mistake in falling for a friend... now I'm down one good friend. i'm too broke to do anything though.

 

[NuroMancer]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
i should write an ebook on this and sell it at a deep discount to any ATOT members.

*sigh*


DO THINGS YOU LIKE! Or, get out of your comfort zone and try something new and be open to anyone you meet there.
Take a cooking class, join a book club, volunteer at an animal shelter... that is the first step. Get out there where you can come into contact with females. Don't go to bars.

Listen to the lady.

 

[Double Trouble]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I have a question for all you guys:

If someone (a female speaker) were to come to your town/school/university and talked about dating/sex/relationships, would you go and see her? Kind of like a self-help type deal but more hands on and in small group workshops?

That depends on the speaker. Can't make that determination without pics

I wouldn't, I'm happily married, but I can think of some friends that should!

 

[Kev]

Yeah it sucks when all your friends are married or getting married,

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: BigToque
I just wanted to post about being frustrated that I'm not meeting any girls. (I'm 25 btw)

I got out of a long relationship almost 1.5 years ago. About 4 months after the breakup, I had a 2 month relationship with a 37 year old woman (which has turned into a nice friendship) and that's it. I have gone on 1 date in the last 12 months.

Half my friends are in long term relationships so when we hang out (always a big group thing) it's usually just going for dinner or hanging out at someone's house. The other half of my friends just don't like to go out. They would rather just stay home and drink and watch a game on tv or play video games.

I tried doing the "just go out by yourself and have a good time" bit for a while. I met a couple of girls at the bar but obviously nothing that turned into anything. I'm done with going out by myself now.

I just never have any opportunity to actually meet girls. If I could be around them in any kind of social situation I'm sure I'd be getting some dates, but what are you supposed to do when you are never in any social situations where there are girls that are not part of the group you're with?

I don't know the answer to my problem...

I'm the same age. With the same exact conundrum. I'll tell you when I solve it. I go to my gym, but other than there, I really don't know where I'd go to meet 'relationship' material. I'm an expert at picking up girls, but I got tired of 'picking up' girls. I want an actual relationship now

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: chr6
library, church, i think theres good women there

My problem is I go to a church where I'm the youngest member by 30 years

 

[compman25]

Are you Canadian? That would explain why