Mr Pickles
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- Feb 24, 2006
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I don't know. I think I'll actually respond to this one.
I wrote a whole paragraph, thought it sucked, so deleted it and started over. I'm just going to get to the point with it. I think there is more opportunity around then you think. I've got a buddy of mine that says he has the same problem: because he doesn't hang out with new people he can't seem to find girls worth hanging out with. In all reality you are probably hanging out with more new people then you think...
There are new people in almost every atmosphere. Someone brings a friend that you've never met, someone else brings someone you've seen once or twice but you havent really talked with bla bla bla. No matter what, the people you normally hang out with will always be around, so going out of your way to make a get to know the new person in the group is what is going to get you a chance to branch out. It could be someone's new gf, someone's new bf, any ugly chick or a super hot chick that you would bang in a heartbeat but you know she wouldnt go for you, doesnt matter... get to know them (not by stalking them, but by talking with them). Everyone is willing to be friends with you if they are willing to hang out with your friends. Getting to know them opens up opportunities to the friends that they have and they friends friends that they have and so on. Somewhere down that chain you are bound to find a girl that is remotely interesting. That's why its called networking. Go out of your way to remember everyones name and a few things about them so next time you guys run into each other you can literally just start talking with them.
It sounds like a lot of work, or it might seem like making an effort to get to know an ugly chick is going no where but its one more friend to add to your list that just might be friends with some girl you'd be interested in. Skip no one, be friends with everyone, it will open so many doors it will be rediculous.
Edit: a lot of people in this thread are suggesting joinging groups, but in reality if you do that then you only know them through the group function. If you are going to do that then make sure your effort is NOT TO MEET ONLY THE GIRLS YOU LIKE. Learn to know everyone and be willing to hang out with anyone, then keep your eye out for girls that are interesting.
I wrote a whole paragraph, thought it sucked, so deleted it and started over. I'm just going to get to the point with it. I think there is more opportunity around then you think. I've got a buddy of mine that says he has the same problem: because he doesn't hang out with new people he can't seem to find girls worth hanging out with. In all reality you are probably hanging out with more new people then you think...
There are new people in almost every atmosphere. Someone brings a friend that you've never met, someone else brings someone you've seen once or twice but you havent really talked with bla bla bla. No matter what, the people you normally hang out with will always be around, so going out of your way to make a get to know the new person in the group is what is going to get you a chance to branch out. It could be someone's new gf, someone's new bf, any ugly chick or a super hot chick that you would bang in a heartbeat but you know she wouldnt go for you, doesnt matter... get to know them (not by stalking them, but by talking with them). Everyone is willing to be friends with you if they are willing to hang out with your friends. Getting to know them opens up opportunities to the friends that they have and they friends friends that they have and so on. Somewhere down that chain you are bound to find a girl that is remotely interesting. That's why its called networking. Go out of your way to remember everyones name and a few things about them so next time you guys run into each other you can literally just start talking with them.
It sounds like a lot of work, or it might seem like making an effort to get to know an ugly chick is going no where but its one more friend to add to your list that just might be friends with some girl you'd be interested in. Skip no one, be friends with everyone, it will open so many doors it will be rediculous.
Edit: a lot of people in this thread are suggesting joinging groups, but in reality if you do that then you only know them through the group function. If you are going to do that then make sure your effort is NOT TO MEET ONLY THE GIRLS YOU LIKE. Learn to know everyone and be willing to hang out with anyone, then keep your eye out for girls that are interesting.