that's true but i feel even if you dont meet anyone, atleast you will have improved your own life or someone else's by volunteering/taking classes so you dont come away w/ nothing
that's true but i feel even if you dont meet anyone, atleast you will have improved your own life or someone else's by volunteering/taking classes so you dont come away w/ nothingOriginally posted by: ggnl
Well I'm 25 like the OP and from my experience stuff like that tends to fall off sharply once women graduate from college and/or get full time jobs. It's not a bad idea at all, but you have to approach it as something you would like to do anyways with the pleasent side effect of occasionally meeting new women. If, like the OP I'd assume, you're looking specifically to meet women it's just a lot easier to engage is events where the women have the same mindset. Otherwise it's a lot like waiting for lightning to strike. Sometimes you get lucky, and sometimes you have 12 month dry spells.Originally posted by: Mo0o
I volunteer at a childrens hospital and there are plenty of attractive girls there volunteering. although their ages tend to be younger, ranging from 16-21.Originally posted by: ggnl
That's oversimplifying it a bit I think. Even if you're the type of guy that can easily score a date once you establish a rapport with a woman, the chances that any given club or volunteer activity are going to have at least one woman that is attractive, compatible, AND single are pretty low.
It's true that you'll never meet anyone if you don't go out and look, but it's probably more productive to stick to activities where the participants are actively looking for dates like online personals or speed dating events.
Originally posted by: xospec1alk
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/05/17/fashion/17Dating.html
That's what I said, but the OP doesn't want to improve his life, he wants to meet babes!Originally posted by: Mo0o
that's true but i feel even if you dont meet anyone, atleast you will have improved your own life or someone else's by volunteering/taking classes so you dont come away w/ nothingOriginally posted by: ggnl
Well I'm 25 like the OP and from my experience stuff like that tends to fall off sharply once women graduate from college and/or get full time jobs. It's not a bad idea at all, but you have to approach it as something you would like to do anyways with the pleasent side effect of occasionally meeting new women. If, like the OP I'd assume, you're looking specifically to meet women it's just a lot easier to engage is events where the women have the same mindset. Otherwise it's a lot like waiting for lightning to strike. Sometimes you get lucky, and sometimes you have 12 month dry spells.Originally posted by: Mo0o
I volunteer at a childrens hospital and there are plenty of attractive girls there volunteering. although their ages tend to be younger, ranging from 16-21.Originally posted by: ggnl
That's oversimplifying it a bit I think. Even if you're the type of guy that can easily score a date once you establish a rapport with a woman, the chances that any given club or volunteer activity are going to have at least one woman that is attractive, compatible, AND single are pretty low.
It's true that you'll never meet anyone if you don't go out and look, but it's probably more productive to stick to activities where the participants are actively looking for dates like online personals or speed dating events.
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
you being sarcastic?!
honestly, its rather simple. I think a lot of males over complicate things to the point of craziness.
We (females) are eveywhere. It is just a matter of really becoming aware of who is around you and getting the balls to strike up a casual, friendly conversation.
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I have a question for all you guys:
If someone (a female speaker) were to come to your town/school/university and talked about dating/sex/relationships, would you go and see her? Kind of like a self-help type deal but more hands on and in small group workshops?
Originally posted by: Sex Smurf
Have an imaginary phone conversation on your cell within earshot of some hot chicks. Say into the phone "That is not acceptable! If I'm going to be backing this deal, the other partners will have to front the rest of the 45 million. . . . call me back with some good news next time!" then hang up. Wait a few minutes, peek around to see who is looking, make eye contact, then say hello.
Originally posted by: AMDZen
Originally posted by: xospec1alk
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/05/17/fashion/17Dating.html
OK then, I have what I hope isn't too stupid of a question - where exactly do you find these "groups" / "clubs"?
Originally posted by: AMDZen
Originally posted by: Sex Smurf
Have an imaginary phone conversation on your cell within earshot of some hot chicks. Say into the phone "That is not acceptable! If I'm going to be backing this deal, the other partners will have to front the rest of the 45 million. . . . call me back with some good news next time!" then hang up. Wait a few minutes, peek around to see who is looking, make eye contact, then say hello.
Thats pretty awesome. Maybe not so over the top as 45 mill, but thats a killer idea to get laid any way
Originally posted by: AMDZen
Originally posted by: Sex Smurf
Have an imaginary phone conversation on your cell within earshot of some hot chicks. Say into the phone "That is not acceptable! If I'm going to be backing this deal, the other partners will have to front the rest of the 45 million. . . . call me back with some good news next time!" then hang up. Wait a few minutes, peek around to see who is looking, make eye contact, then say hello.
Thats pretty awesome. Maybe not so over the top as 45 mill, but thats a killer idea to get laid any way
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I have a question for all you guys:
If someone (a female speaker) were to come to your town/school/university and talked about dating/sex/relationships, would you go and see her? Kind of like a self-help type deal but more hands on and in small group workshops?
Originally posted by: ggnl
Originally posted by: AMDZen
Originally posted by: Sex Smurf
Have an imaginary phone conversation on your cell within earshot of some hot chicks. Say into the phone "That is not acceptable! If I'm going to be backing this deal, the other partners will have to front the rest of the 45 million. . . . call me back with some good news next time!" then hang up. Wait a few minutes, peek around to see who is looking, make eye contact, then say hello.
Thats pretty awesome. Maybe not so over the top as 45 mill, but thats a killer idea to get laid any way
Until you take her out for a date in your '85 Corolla.
"Why are we going to Applebees for dinner? I thought you were rich..."
Originally posted by: AMDZen
Originally posted by: xospec1alk
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/05/17/fashion/17Dating.html
OK then, I have what I hope isn't too stupid of a question - where exactly do you find these "groups" / "clubs"?
Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: AMDZen
Originally posted by: xospec1alk
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/05/17/fashion/17Dating.html
OK then, I have what I hope isn't too stupid of a question - where exactly do you find these "groups" / "clubs"?
LOL!
Seriously?... man, that is a lame excuse. If you are too lazy to actually look up a social gathering that involves things that you enjoy, then you have already failed to do the one thing you need to do, which is be proactive and not lazy.
There are hundreds of clubs out there. Go to a cycling shop and they will have bike club, a book store (a book club), a dance studio (a dance class), a dojo (self defense class), speech clubs (you can find online www.toastmasters.org), a gun range (gun club), golf range (an actual country club), tennis courts (you will find a group for sure), ... you can even take night classes and go back to school (a lot of people do this, and it is both beneficial mentally as well as socially). If you are religious, go to a church/temple.
i.e. - do what you like to do, and be proactive. Don't make it about meeting a girl, but just being yourself and doing what you like, and if a girl catches your interest, then great. And trust me, it will happen if you are proactive enough.
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: Quintox
Man, what would we do without Lola?
you being sarcastic?!
honestly, its rather simple. I think a lot of males over complicate things to the point of craziness.
We (females) are eveywhere. It is just a matter of really becoming aware of who is around you and getting the balls to strike up a casual, friendly conversation.
Originally posted by: crt1530
They will if they see a spider. Then you can refuse to help them, post about it and never finish the story.Originally posted by: AccruedExpenditure
Originally posted by: BigToque
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
i should write an ebook on this and sell it at a deep discount to any ATOT members.
*sigh*
DO THINGS YOU LIKE! Or, get out of your comfort zone and try something new and be open to anyone you meet there.
Take a cooking class, join a book club, volunteer at an animal shelter... that is the first step. Get out there where you can come into contact with females. Don't go to bars.
The thing is that I already do things that I like. I'm at the gym 3-4 days a week and play hockey. This takes up a good chunk of my free time.
I've still got the evenings to go out, so I know when I'm able to meet people. It's jsut finding other things I want to do that won't take so much effort that I'm just always going 7 days a week. I still want time to just relax
lol, dood... If the bulk of your free time is occupied by activities where you're not meeting women how do you think you're going to meet women... They're not going to come over and knock on your door...
Switch up your routine...
Originally posted by: Sex Smurf
tom leykis show starts in a hour and half. It's Leykis 101 day. call in so i can listen to your problems on the FM radio.
Not being able to meet people means you're LAZY!
http://www.971freefm.com/
Originally posted by: ggnl
Originally posted by: NuroMancer
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
i should write an ebook on this and sell it at a deep discount to any ATOT members.
*sigh*
DO THINGS YOU LIKE! Or, get out of your comfort zone and try something new and be open to anyone you meet there.
Take a cooking class, join a book club, volunteer at an animal shelter... that is the first step. Get out there where you can come into contact with females. Don't go to bars.
Listen to the lady.
That's oversimplifying it a bit I think. Even if you're the type of guy that can easily score a date once you establish a rapport with a woman, the chances that any given club or volunteer activity are going to have at least one woman that is attractive, compatible, AND single are pretty low.
It's true that you'll never meet anyone if you don't go out and look, but it's probably more productive to stick to activities where the participants are actively looking for dates like online personals or speed dating events.
Originally posted by: amdhunter
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I have a question for all you guys:
If someone (a female speaker) were to come to your town/school/university and talked about dating/sex/relationships, would you go and see her? Kind of like a self-help type deal but more hands on and in small group workshops?
I probably wouldn't, and I am sure you read my thread. I'd be too embarrassed.
he openly admits his advice is not for lasting relationships but simply to get laid.Originally posted by: DJFuji
Originally posted by: Sex Smurf
tom leykis show starts in a hour and half. It's Leykis 101 day. call in so i can listen to your problems on the FM radio.
Not being able to meet people means you're LAZY!
http://www.971freefm.com/
Leykis is a misogynist with bad advice and little personal success with women. Avoid him. He will only make you a bitter, lonely man like himself.
Originally posted by: Mo0o
he openly admits his advice is not for lasting relationships but simply to get laid.Originally posted by: DJFuji
Originally posted by: Sex Smurf
tom leykis show starts in a hour and half. It's Leykis 101 day. call in so i can listen to your problems on the FM radio.
Not being able to meet people means you're LAZY!
http://www.971freefm.com/
Leykis is a misogynist with bad advice and little personal success with women. Avoid him. He will only make you a bitter, lonely man like himself.
Originally posted by: Mo0o
he openly admits his advice is not for lasting relationships but simply to get laid.Originally posted by: DJFuji
Originally posted by: Sex Smurf
tom leykis show starts in a hour and half. It's Leykis 101 day. call in so i can listen to your problems on the FM radio.
Not being able to meet people means you're LAZY!
http://www.971freefm.com/
Leykis is a misogynist with bad advice and little personal success with women. Avoid him. He will only make you a bitter, lonely man like himself.
Originally posted by: AMDZen
Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: AMDZen
Originally posted by: xospec1alk
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/05/17/fashion/17Dating.html
OK then, I have what I hope isn't too stupid of a question - where exactly do you find these "groups" / "clubs"?
LOL!
Seriously?... man, that is a lame excuse. If you are too lazy to actually look up a social gathering that involves things that you enjoy, then you have already failed to do the one thing you need to do, which is be proactive and not lazy.
There are hundreds of clubs out there. Go to a cycling shop and they will have bike club, a book store (a book club), a dance studio (a dance class), a dojo (self defense class), speech clubs (you can find online www.toastmasters.org), a gun range (gun club), golf range (an actual country club), tennis courts (you will find a group for sure), ... you can even take night classes and go back to school (a lot of people do this, and it is both beneficial mentally as well as socially). If you are religious, go to a church/temple.
i.e. - do what you like to do, and be proactive. Don't make it about meeting a girl, but just being yourself and doing what you like, and if a girl catches your interest, then great. And trust me, it will happen if you are proactive enough.
Yea I should of been more specific, I was hoping for some websites that would show different things in your area. I'm curious about finding like a wine club, but I don't know where to look - you can't just go to a liquer store.
I wasn't asking this question in regard to meeting women, just curious if there are some cool websites out there that list stuff by area so your not driving all over town.
I don't consider myself TOO lazy, I just don't like driving. Rather know whats up ahead of time
EDIT: SOOO any way, specifically now - if no one knows of cool websites - where would I go to find out about wine clubs? Some elite gathering at the moose lodge or something?