I met this girl 1.5 years ago when she was only still engaged to her current husband. We met at work and quickly became friends. She is the girl everyone at work wished they could be with but she naturally kept to herself. When we started talking people would point out how she would go way out of her way to come talk to me, see me, hug me, and dress nicer on the days we are both there. She works in the vault at work so no one really gets to see her. I worked ont he sales floor so she would called me up to a dozen times from the vault phone while on the clock and would txt me all day long. We have a LOT in common and she rememebrs everything i tell her. I denied any of it and would tell ppl we are just friends and she has a fiance. We ended up having several conversations a year ago where she said she would date me in a heartbeat if she was single and had asked if i would date her if i was single and she ever left her fiance.
Everyone knows she was not in love with her fiance but had been with him for 5 years. They were engaged and broke up after 3 years, were apart for 1 year in which time she only dated 1 guy and got back together, he never proposed again and they both assumed they were sitll engaged, her and i met a year after that. Her parents are VERY religious (she is also Salvadoran which says a lot if you know about them). Her and i stopped talking about in March (would take longer to explain but nothing bad happned) and she ended up getting married in July. Her parents caught her sneaking out of the house at midnight so they told her to either get married or be thrown out on the streets and not be allowed to see her little sisters. She pretty much got married just to move away from her fam and her husband has his own apaprtment.
The Husband: 26 years old. Was an arse before, none of her frineds liked him, he would try and shelter her, would keep tabs on her, and would show up out of nowhere anytime and place to check up on her. Now that they are married he is supposedly SUPER nice, tries harder with her friends, cooks and cleans around the house and workes 10+ hour days in construction. Supposedly none of this excites her and when people ask her if she is happier she relies with "eh". I don't don't that she cares for him in someway but i dunno about love.
We started talking again in August and we talk ALL the time, she txts me all hours of the day, flirts a little, calls me at 1, 2, 3am and has long conversations. She meets me for coffee on the days her husband works really late. Several people that know her tell me i sitll have a chance, and one of her closest friends told me that i def have a chance at gettnig her into bed if nothing else.
I think we definitely like each other but her current relationship situation suggests that nothing could, or should happen. Yet i like her and though i have dated a lot of people this year especially int he last 4 months, i get along with ehr the best. I am normally in denial with other girls even when i thinkt hey are interested i tell myself they are not, but with this girl i have gotten to know her very well and just the way she talsk to me, goes out of her way to keep in contact with me, gets jealous of the other girls i date, and the way she looks at me i do think she likes me.
Would you go for it? I thought about what if i just tried the physical thing, would it even be worth it, would i end up wanting more and just hurt myself when i can't get it?
-Short Version
- I think a married woman and i like each other
- Mutual friends tell me i have a chance, at something phsyical if nothing else
- told me int he past that she would date me if single. asked if i would date her if she left her fiance (at the time)
- no one thinks she loves her husband, was forced to marry
- calls me at 3am to talk for 2 hours
- sneaks out to have coffee with me. gets jealous of other girls i date
- she is 24, i am 24
Of course it wouldn't be a GT without pics right?
5 Recent Pics Of Her
Pic Of Her (left) and I at LA Car Show
Us @ Xmas Party
Again @ Xmas Party
-Updates- 1-1-07
Because of the holidays her and i have both been busy and have not spoken much. We did somewhat bring it up in a txt message but both agreed to talk about it when we have more time.
I did decide that i will NOT be doing anything physical as long as she is with her husband. For my sake since i know i will end up wanting more which may never be possible, or we could eventually get caught and it would not only add too much drama in my life but ruin our friendship which i care about a lot.
-Updates 1-9-07
So I spoke with her last night. I don't want to get too into it because I am totally bummed at the moment. Basically She said she thinks she does like me and she would like to be with me and see where it goes.... if she was single.... Said that I am a great friend and she has thought about it for a long time but she is married now and she cna't just turn her back on it this soon and this easily. Said she has wanted to be physical with me aswell for a long time now especially because of some of the things we have talked about but didn't know how to go about it or if it was ok with me to just have that. I said no I don't want just that especially while she is married and it would put our friendship at risk.
bottom line-
-would like to date me if she was single
-not willing to turn her back on her marriage this fast
-has thought about a physical relationship with me, to which i said no to
-we remain friends, no more, no less.
Also came to a realization due to my other thread YAGT: I did something i am embarassed of... that I tend to go for unavailable women. Some emotionally unavailable, and others who are literaly with someone else or who have an ex they keep going back to or want to go back to. I need to change things. This girl was diff yes, though married i truely liked her and would have done anything to make it work. others i dunno. time for a change.
Everyone knows she was not in love with her fiance but had been with him for 5 years. They were engaged and broke up after 3 years, were apart for 1 year in which time she only dated 1 guy and got back together, he never proposed again and they both assumed they were sitll engaged, her and i met a year after that. Her parents are VERY religious (she is also Salvadoran which says a lot if you know about them). Her and i stopped talking about in March (would take longer to explain but nothing bad happned) and she ended up getting married in July. Her parents caught her sneaking out of the house at midnight so they told her to either get married or be thrown out on the streets and not be allowed to see her little sisters. She pretty much got married just to move away from her fam and her husband has his own apaprtment.
The Husband: 26 years old. Was an arse before, none of her frineds liked him, he would try and shelter her, would keep tabs on her, and would show up out of nowhere anytime and place to check up on her. Now that they are married he is supposedly SUPER nice, tries harder with her friends, cooks and cleans around the house and workes 10+ hour days in construction. Supposedly none of this excites her and when people ask her if she is happier she relies with "eh". I don't don't that she cares for him in someway but i dunno about love.
We started talking again in August and we talk ALL the time, she txts me all hours of the day, flirts a little, calls me at 1, 2, 3am and has long conversations. She meets me for coffee on the days her husband works really late. Several people that know her tell me i sitll have a chance, and one of her closest friends told me that i def have a chance at gettnig her into bed if nothing else.
I think we definitely like each other but her current relationship situation suggests that nothing could, or should happen. Yet i like her and though i have dated a lot of people this year especially int he last 4 months, i get along with ehr the best. I am normally in denial with other girls even when i thinkt hey are interested i tell myself they are not, but with this girl i have gotten to know her very well and just the way she talsk to me, goes out of her way to keep in contact with me, gets jealous of the other girls i date, and the way she looks at me i do think she likes me.
Would you go for it? I thought about what if i just tried the physical thing, would it even be worth it, would i end up wanting more and just hurt myself when i can't get it?
-Short Version
- I think a married woman and i like each other
- Mutual friends tell me i have a chance, at something phsyical if nothing else
- told me int he past that she would date me if single. asked if i would date her if she left her fiance (at the time)
- no one thinks she loves her husband, was forced to marry
- calls me at 3am to talk for 2 hours
- sneaks out to have coffee with me. gets jealous of other girls i date
- she is 24, i am 24
Of course it wouldn't be a GT without pics right?
5 Recent Pics Of Her
Pic Of Her (left) and I at LA Car Show
Us @ Xmas Party
Again @ Xmas Party
-Updates- 1-1-07
Because of the holidays her and i have both been busy and have not spoken much. We did somewhat bring it up in a txt message but both agreed to talk about it when we have more time.
I did decide that i will NOT be doing anything physical as long as she is with her husband. For my sake since i know i will end up wanting more which may never be possible, or we could eventually get caught and it would not only add too much drama in my life but ruin our friendship which i care about a lot.
-Updates 1-9-07
So I spoke with her last night. I don't want to get too into it because I am totally bummed at the moment. Basically She said she thinks she does like me and she would like to be with me and see where it goes.... if she was single.... Said that I am a great friend and she has thought about it for a long time but she is married now and she cna't just turn her back on it this soon and this easily. Said she has wanted to be physical with me aswell for a long time now especially because of some of the things we have talked about but didn't know how to go about it or if it was ok with me to just have that. I said no I don't want just that especially while she is married and it would put our friendship at risk.
bottom line-
-would like to date me if she was single
-not willing to turn her back on her marriage this fast
-has thought about a physical relationship with me, to which i said no to
-we remain friends, no more, no less.
Also came to a realization due to my other thread YAGT: I did something i am embarassed of... that I tend to go for unavailable women. Some emotionally unavailable, and others who are literaly with someone else or who have an ex they keep going back to or want to go back to. I need to change things. This girl was diff yes, though married i truely liked her and would have done anything to make it work. others i dunno. time for a change.