YAGT: I like a married woman. Anyone have experience with this?

[tyler811]

Dont fool yourself she will do the same to you. She got married to get away from her family and now she wants you to get away from her husband.

Think man with the head on your shoulders not the one in your pants. You have to see the pattern here

 

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[kmrivers]

Originally posted by: tyler811
Dont fool yourself she will do the same to you. She got married to get away from her family and now she wants you to get away from her husband.

Think man with the head on your shoulders not the one in your pants. You have to see the pattern here

25, 32, ?, ?

Whats the pattern? I could say the next number is 39, but how do I know? You can't establish a pattern from a couple random events. Now if the pattern was, 25, 32, 39, 46, I would say establishing a pattern would be pretty easy. But her next number could be 42. Nobody knows. Besides anyone can change their life and the patterns they fall into. If the OP sees this as being an issue he has a number of options.

The woman has been faced with two equally crappy situations. Being forced to marry by her parents, and now being stuck with the guy she married. She is trying to get away from those things. But she had reasons to. Her means of doing so may be a bit shady, but she is doing what she can. Whose to say she will have a reason to run away from the OP? You can't say that. I think if she does decide to leave her husband the OP should help her to become more of an individual and give her the chance to become who she wants to be.

You shouldnt be making judgements about her character from the limited information given here.

And she can't do the same thing to the OP if he doesnt let her. It is up to him to see her for what she is, whether that be the woman of his life or someone is confused and lost about who they are.

 

[jadinolf]

Originally posted by: BillyBatson

Originally posted by: pulse8
Does she have kids?

no, 0 kids

Phone number?

 

[olds]

Originally posted by: pulse8

Originally posted by: BillyBatson

Originally posted by: pulse8
Does she have kids?

no, 0 kids

Then be prepared for two things.

1. Her husband will probably want to kill you.
2. She'll cheat on you if she cheats on her husband.

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[BillyBatson]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat

Originally posted by: pulse8

Originally posted by: BillyBatson

Originally posted by: pulse8
Does she have kids?

no, 0 kids

Then be prepared for two things.

1. Her husband will probably want to kill you.
2. She'll cheat on you if she cheats on her husband.

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it really doesn't work that way. just because you do it once doesn't mean you will do it again, sometimes you do something wrong and realize how wrong it was and learn from it and never actually do it again. now if you think it was fine and don't regret it then yeah you might be more likely to do it a 2nd time than the first but not always the case. also seeing as she is 24 and has never done it and has been loyal even to her husband despite not being fully happy says a lot too. i supposed if she does like me i am somewhat of a temptation and if i do go away the likelyhood of her cheating will be far less, it isn't like she will go find someone else to cheat with since she isn't looking for an escape while still being married.
you are right about the husband he will prob want to kill me if something were to happen and he finds out.t he again if she leaves him and starts dating me he will want to kill me just as much since i am still the other guy sort of and he knows we are currently friends. i did state earlier than he is bigger than me lol but not taller. i really dunno who would win but he would have the rage factor aswell lol

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: tyler811
Dont fool yourself she will do the same to you. She got married to get away from her family and now she wants you to get away from her husband.

Think man with the head on your shoulders not the one in your pants. You have to see the pattern here

Out of all the posts, this is the wisiest. She's exhibiting a path some people just continue throught their entire life - always longing and jumping for what they do not have.

 

[wazzledoozle]

You must be a creep, posting pics on the interweb of a married woman you probably stalk.

 

[TheSlamma]

She is purrty. Tell her it's time to divorce the guy and you guys get on a roll.

 

[fuzzybabybunny]

Originally posted by: BillyBatson
i really dunno who would win but he would have the rage factor aswell lol

I don't think I'd want to mess with anyone who's in Berserking mode. I hear they get more hit points and better attack rolls, like +2 to hit and damage or something.

 

[EGGO]

Let me put it this way, I'll be waiting for the rest of your YAGTs of this girl if you decide to go further.

 

[jcuadrado]

you're young...enjoy your life...if hanging with this chic will make you happy..even though it may be temporary...do it.

 

[BillyBatson]

Originally posted by: fuzzybabybunny

Originally posted by: BillyBatson
i really dunno who would win but he would have the rage factor aswell lol

I don't think I'd want to mess with anyone who's in Berserking mode. I hear they get more hit points and better attack rolls, like +2 to hit and damage or something.

rofl tis' true, but you forgot the 1% chance to crit, and 3% chance to dodge a stun or fear attack.

 

[mattlear]

Don't do it. Not because of Karma, not because it's the "right" or "wrong" thing to do... don't do it because if you really are crazy in love with this girl, and are looking for something more than just sex, how on earth could you EVER trust her?

You'll always know that she lied and cheated on someone else to be with you.

If she really does love you, she'll break things off with her husband. Remember, you may only be getting half the story here, from her and some of her friends. How do you know that she doesn't rave about how wonderful her husband is to some of her other friends that you aren't close to? There is something there between her and her husband or else she wouldn't have married him, no matter how bad he is to her.

My advice - if you love her, tell her that you do, but that neither of you can act on it while she is married. You will definitely save yourself some heartache in the future this way.

Good luck man,

-Matt

 

[OneOfTheseDays]

I'm not going to judge you morally if you do go ahead and bang her.

All I can say is that is it worth the trouble? There are goddamn thousands of single and eligible women in your area. I am not a believer in this soulmate crap, we are all capable of having that connection with so many different people. Humans are just lazy by nature and when we meet someone we really click with we stop looking. So go out and start meeting more women. From your pics your not a half-bad looking guy, you should have no trouble as long as you can keep up a conversation.

 

[Accipiter22]

I'm not going to judge you. I'm 25 and I've never had that with anyone. I don't know how often normal people find that in life. But if you think there's something there, talk to her about it. Don't buy the whole "if she leaves him for you, she'll do it to you someday" line of thinking. If you match up with each other, then she'll stay with you. Also don't believe the 'once a cheater always a cheater' thinking either. Certain people in certain situations will cheat, but that does not mean a person will always cheat on their partner.

You have to be prepared to possibly lose her if you tell her how you feel, but keeping your feelings inside isn't going to do you any service. You'll be lying to her. Acting like a friend when you're looking for more, and want her as more. You think when you're 80 you're going to look back at this and be glad that you said nothing to her? Or do you think you'll be wistful and wonder, even slightly, about what could have been. Knowing one way or the other will be a relief, and this girl and you might have a once in a lifetime opportunity to improve each others lives.

Make sure you're not reading too much into the situation and that you're not just seeing something that isn't there. Once you've established that there is some sort of chemistry there, bring it up. Life isn't always going to just hand you good things, sometimes you have to work at them, seek them out, probe, and if your inkling is right, you find something amazing.

 

[chrisms]

As someone posted before, beware of the girl with the jackass boyfriend/husband. It will eventually be you.

 

[Soybomb]

Have sex with her if you just think she's hot. If you actually think you have feelings for her quit thinking about her like that or break it off.

 

[RossGr]

Yes I have been and am currently involved with a married women, I call her my wife.

Did it go badly, yes, espically the first wife.

Do I regret it, yes.... I mean it is marriage after all.


Perhaps a not so well worded poll?

 

[amddude]

Let it be man

 

[postmortemIA]

Just got text message from married gal about our upcoming seeing

 

[Q]

I'd leave her alone if I were you

 

[y2kc]

Originally posted by: kmrivers

Originally posted by: y2kc

Originally posted by: BillyBatson

Originally posted by: LS20
jim and pam?

married = tampered. 3000000000 females in the world, why bother with one who's already taken, regardless of circumstances?

who is Jim and Pam?

i tried not to. She came back into my life and i honestly care for the girl. I have not tried anything at the moment i have just entertained the idea of it. Like it has been said here before, you can't help who you care for or love. It would def be another story if she was happy with who she was with or only saw me as a friend, it wouldn't be the first time someone i wanted or wnated to get to know wasn't interested in me big deal i would move on. But i really care and if we were together i could see it working out and from what she has told me, the way she is with me, and what our friends tell me, she is interested aswell. Circumstances aren't ideal for it though so nothing has happened and i have no intention of donig anything anytime soon other than be her friend. I did want other peoples opinions based ont heir past experiences though since it has been getting closer to a point where she might actually say something and i would like to make a rash move or give her more than a "i will get back to you on that" lol

Based on my past experience there are more things that can go wrong than can go right. As long as she's married you should strongly consider backing off and respecting her vows (even though she may not want you too).

If she's truly unhappy with her mate she should leave and divorce him. If you two are meant to be you will, but first things first.

Finally, know this to be the absolute truth, She's doing it to her husband, She'll do it to you too buddy.

Be her friend, but the innapropriate acts should stop.

That is not an absolute truth.

1: She isn't doing anything. At this point she in merely spending time with him. Liking someone is not a crime.

2: The OP and anyone for that matter should have the ability to know whether someone would continue to do that (cheat, or whatever). If you can't see it, then you are blinded by your foolish feelings of how you "need" someone and thus are willing to accept anything to have that person or someone in general.

3: Just because she doesn't love her husband does not mean she won't love the OP and do the same thing to him. Also see number 2 again.

Whether or not cheating is acceptable is up to the OP and the woman. If they are ok with doing that, it is there decision. As I said before, if the OP really likes her then he should be willing to wait to see the ending of the marriage, as those things can go sour.

1. She is "doing something". does her husband know about the full extent of their relationship? no. why is this married woman "spending time", quality time, with a man who is not her husband? would it be ok with you if your s\o "spend time" with someone of the opposite sex, talked for hours on the phone when you sleep and express interest in them?

2. I don't understand your point...

3. I'm not questioning her love for her husband, lack thereof or her ability to love this guy. What is an absolute truth is that people that seek happiness outside of the boundries of the committment (marriage in this case) usually repeat the pattern when the inevitable occurs.

"Whether or not cheating is acceptable is up to the OP and the woman."

lol... wow.

 

[Wheatmaster]

i honestly think you should sit down with her one and one and explain how you feel and see how she reacts. Definitely see what she sees in the long term.