I've been with my GF for over 2 years now and an couple of things have come up and I'd like you to give me your thoughts.
First, my GF went to India last July and before she went, I told her that I was interested in using her being away as an opportunity to be part of a student exchange program and taking a 6 month semester in Australia. It was promptly met with a "You'd better not go to Australia without me! I'll be really mad if you do because I've always wanted to go and I want to go with you."
Now it wasn't a serious statement, but I know she'd be unhappy/jealous if I went to a place like that without her. I wouldn't want to do something big like that without her anyway. I didn't go.
Now that she's done university, she's looking at specializing in marine biology. One of the places she's looking to go is possibly Australia. This makes me really mad because I gave up an opportunity to go because I could see that she didn't want me to experience it without her.
Anyway, what the whole situation is about is that she's likely going away to some coastal city far away for the next few years and I don't know how to deal with it. I love her to pieces and don't want to be with anyone else. I won't be ready to move anywhere for a long time and I hate the thought of seeing her once every few months, or if she goes to Australia not even once in the next 4 years! I don't think I could handle that.
She claims that our relationship is a huge priority in her life but that there are other priorities as well. Is it wrong for me to be upset that she is putting our relationship second to further her education? I don't want to hold her back, but I feel that if she really thought our relationship was so important that she wouldn't even consider going away to school in a place where I can't possibly go unless I dropped everything and started making minimum wage in a foreign country.
The second thing is about her wanting to take trips with her friends to places like Mexico and Las Vegas, etc. These are all things that we both want to do and these are "big trips" for us because we live way up north so we don't get many opportunities to make these kinds of trips.
I feel that we are at the stage in our relationship where I feel that we shouldn't be going on these kinds of trips without the other person. My attitude on this changed when my girlfriend told me why she didn't want me going to Australia. It's something special that one shouldn't be experiencing without the other.
We both have the same feelings on the subject but she thinks that the point one shouldn't go without the other is when we are married. I say that we are at the point now regardless of whether there is a piece of paper stating we are officially married or not.
Please give me your thoughts and feelings here. I'd like to hear what you think.
First, my GF went to India last July and before she went, I told her that I was interested in using her being away as an opportunity to be part of a student exchange program and taking a 6 month semester in Australia. It was promptly met with a "You'd better not go to Australia without me! I'll be really mad if you do because I've always wanted to go and I want to go with you."
Now it wasn't a serious statement, but I know she'd be unhappy/jealous if I went to a place like that without her. I wouldn't want to do something big like that without her anyway. I didn't go.
Now that she's done university, she's looking at specializing in marine biology. One of the places she's looking to go is possibly Australia. This makes me really mad because I gave up an opportunity to go because I could see that she didn't want me to experience it without her.
Anyway, what the whole situation is about is that she's likely going away to some coastal city far away for the next few years and I don't know how to deal with it. I love her to pieces and don't want to be with anyone else. I won't be ready to move anywhere for a long time and I hate the thought of seeing her once every few months, or if she goes to Australia not even once in the next 4 years! I don't think I could handle that.
She claims that our relationship is a huge priority in her life but that there are other priorities as well. Is it wrong for me to be upset that she is putting our relationship second to further her education? I don't want to hold her back, but I feel that if she really thought our relationship was so important that she wouldn't even consider going away to school in a place where I can't possibly go unless I dropped everything and started making minimum wage in a foreign country.
The second thing is about her wanting to take trips with her friends to places like Mexico and Las Vegas, etc. These are all things that we both want to do and these are "big trips" for us because we live way up north so we don't get many opportunities to make these kinds of trips.
I feel that we are at the stage in our relationship where I feel that we shouldn't be going on these kinds of trips without the other person. My attitude on this changed when my girlfriend told me why she didn't want me going to Australia. It's something special that one shouldn't be experiencing without the other.
We both have the same feelings on the subject but she thinks that the point one shouldn't go without the other is when we are married. I say that we are at the point now regardless of whether there is a piece of paper stating we are officially married or not.
Please give me your thoughts and feelings here. I'd like to hear what you think.