YAGT - Insanity!

[canadageek]

well, i guess i'll start with the backstory....
i'm really good friends with this girl, and recently i've started wanting our relationship to go beyond that. we go out for coffee and movies, that kind of thing, and often hang out at each others houses. all's well.

however, Tuesday is her 18th birthday, and after i found out that she has no plans whatsoever, i decided to see what she'd like to do. turns out, she wants to have some drinks and hang out at her house. cool. i volounteered to buy drinks, seeing as how it IS her birthday and all.


after i came down from my floaty little cloud, i realised we were going to need more than a bottle of Baileys and my incredible personality to keep the evening going.

so what the hell else do we do? a movie? something? i have no idea...
can anyone help me out here?

 

[maziwanka]

be ready for the responses you are about to receive..

btw, this really is a weak yagt.

 

[essasin]

She considers you a friend and you consider her more than one. What you want will most likely not happen. Call it a night and wish her a happy birthday.

 

[BlancoNino]

Originally posted by: essasin
She considers you a friend and you consider her more than one. What you want will most likely not happen. Call it a night and wish her a happy birthday.

BS. Girls will not let themselves get into situations like that unless they are attracted to the guy.

 

[canadageek]

yeah, i'm not making this any more than it should. i'm just going crazy trying to work out what to do. it's her 18th birthday, and she should have a good time.

and yes, my motives may be less than 100% pure, but really, who's any different?

 

[essasin]

Originally posted by: BlancoNino

Originally posted by: essasin
She considers you a friend and you consider her more than one. What you want will most likely not happen. Call it a night and wish her a happy birthday.

BS. Girls will not let themselves get into situations like that unless they are attracted to the guy.

They are 18. Young girls love the attention. They will just think he is just a "nice guy." It works out sometimes but it usually does not turn out well. I am sure most will argree with me.

 

[BlancoNino]

Originally posted by: essasin

Originally posted by: BlancoNino

Originally posted by: essasin
She considers you a friend and you consider her more than one. What you want will most likely not happen. Call it a night and wish her a happy birthday.

BS. Girls will not let themselves get into situations like that unless they are attracted to the guy.

They are 18. Young girls love the attention. They will just think he is just a "nice guy." It works out sometimes but it usually does not turn out well. I am sure most will argree with me.

how do you know she just wants to be friends? She obviously wanted to hang out alone with him and drink....at the very least, her intentions could be less than pure as well.

 

[canadageek]

for the record, i am 18 too, and we've known each other for at least 6 or 7 years.

 

[essasin]

Originally posted by: BlancoNino

Originally posted by: essasin

Originally posted by: BlancoNino

Originally posted by: essasin
She considers you a friend and you consider her more than one. What you want will most likely not happen. Call it a night and wish her a happy birthday.

BS. Girls will not let themselves get into situations like that unless they are attracted to the guy.

They are 18. Young girls love the attention. They will just think he is just a "nice guy." It works out sometimes but it usually does not turn out well. I am sure most will argree with me.

how do you know she just wants to be friends? She obviously wanted to hang out alone with him and drink....at the very least, her intentions could be less than pure as well.

Because if she wanted something more I am sure the op would have picked up on it and he would not be posting on atot. But I hope I am wrong and Blanco is right.

 

[MazerRackham]

Well, at least go and buy some condoms before you get her pregnant or possibly contract (or deliver) an STD or two...

 

[canadageek]

good point.....ATOT, i loathe thee.....but, its so much easier to talk to complete strangers, no?

 

[Baked]

If you were planning on some drunken sex, you should've brought a couple bottles of JDs. Chloroform works equally well, and the cashier won't even card you.

 

[JinLien]

Originally posted by: essasin

Originally posted by: BlancoNino

Originally posted by: essasin
She considers you a friend and you consider her more than one. What you want will most likely not happen. Call it a night and wish her a happy birthday.

BS. Girls will not let themselves get into situations like that unless they are attracted to the guy.

They are 18. Young girls love the attention. They will just think he is just a "nice guy." It works out sometimes but it usually does not turn out well. I am sure most will argree with me.

Yup! What he said.

I have 5 sisters and at least 3 of them love it when guys drools over them.

 

[canadageek]

lol, if i was going that far, a blackjack would be cheaper.

 

[BlancoNino]

Originally posted by: JinLien
Yup! What he said.

I have 5 sisters and at least 3 of them love it when guys drools over them.

Drooling over them at a party, maybe. Hearing about how much they like them, perhaps.

But spending a night with a guy, drinking 1 on 1, is completely different.

 

[AbAbber2k]

Originally posted by: BlancoNino

Originally posted by: JinLien
Yup! What he said.

I have 5 sisters and at least 3 of them love it when guys drools over them.

Drooling over them at a party, maybe. Hearing about how much they like them, perhaps.

But spending a night with a guy, drinking 1 on 1, is completely different.

Um... are we sure she suggested drinking alone with him? If that's the case, he shouldn't be moping around wondering why things aren't progressing. He should have his tongue down her fvcking throat RIGHT NOW. If, however, she phrased the suggestion in an ambiguous fasion that may have meant "a small party at my place with friends" then I think he should tread a little lighter.

 

[ColdFusion718]

You are going to have to kick your game up a few notches. When you go to that party, do not act like a friend. Be confident, go after what you want. If that means being a little more aggressive, so be it.

Remember: he who hesitates, maturbates.

 

[essasin]

Originally posted by: BlancoNino

Originally posted by: JinLien
Yup! What he said.

I have 5 sisters and at least 3 of them love it when guys drools over them.

Drooling over them at a party, maybe. Hearing about how much they like them, perhaps.

But spending a night with a guy, drinking 1 on 1, is completely different.

But you are forgetting that they are really good friends of 6-7 years so she is completly comfortable with him. Honestly in her eyes, she believes that she could be butt drunk and she will trust him not to take advantage of her. Now if they only just meet or are distant friends....that would be a different story.

 

[canadageek]

no, she definitely said, drinks. she didn't say anything about others. it was her idea. but i just need some ideas for some other stuff to do that ISN'T trying to get her bra off.

 

[BlancoNino]

Originally posted by: canadageek
no, she definitely said, drinks. she didn't say anything about others. it was her idea. but i just need some ideas for some other stuff to do that ISN'T trying to get her bra off.

Try to get her pants off?

JK

Watch something funny. Family Guy or South Park work well. If they're in a good mood, they're easier to hit on and go for the hand-hold.

 

[canadageek]

also: if you believe me or not, i am NOT going to take advantage of her.

 

[ubercaffeinated]

wait for the sexual tension, work it, and go as far as she'll let you. get some nice drinks. try hypnotik. it's really good chilled. or you can do wine and a nice (not papa johns) pizza. but then again you guys are 18. make sure not to drink too much yourself, just in case you are called to attention

 

[ColdFusion718]

Perhaps you should do this card trick (do it when there is an audience around her).

What you do is find an extra card from another identical deck (say 2 of hearts). You will have to learn how to force a card to do this trick. If you don't know how to force a card, google it.

Here's how it works. You keep the extra card in your fly, yes you heard me right. You force the same card that you have hidden in your crotch so that your target (the birthday girl) picks it. Have her put the card back into the deck, shuffle it around then put the deck back into your pocket or where ever, just out of sight.

Then you tell her to think really hard where she wants that card to end up. It can be anywhere, on the bed in her room, on the kitchen counter. You will make it appear there.

Now do some bs telepathic gestures (here is your chance to get touchy, feely with her). Then you make some look like you are incredibly surprised.

Then you say, "<girl's name>, you naughty girl!" while you pull the same card out of your fly.

Everyone will laugh and you will basically have the girl under your spell.

 

[canadageek]

yeah....thats pretty much the forst post that answers my question, thanks

she said she wanted baileys, so i figure i'll go get some good beans and make some excellent coffee for it.

 

[AbAbber2k]

Originally posted by: BlancoNino

Originally posted by: canadageek
no, she definitely said, drinks. she didn't say anything about others. it was her idea. but i just need some ideas for some other stuff to do that ISN'T trying to get her bra off.

Try to get her pants off?

JK

Watch something funny. Family Guy or South Park work well. If they're in a good mood, they're easier to hit on and go for the hand-hold.

Kino for the win. Just make sure you don't go overboard/move to fast. Touch her hand/arm/shoulder/back when talking to her... as if it's natural. Make sure she's comfortable with the light stuff, and guage her reaction as you progress.

Also, always be higher energy than she is (just not a spastic lunatic). Laugh, talk about things she finds interesting (talk about HER, and if the focus ever ends up on you DO NOT brag about ANYTHING), and show an interest in those same things. If you show up acting kind of ho-hum and she's in a really good mood, you'll bring her down and she's going to lose any kind of interest in you she may have had. Being spontaneous can help. I'm kind of outdoorsy, and since it's summer time and I have no AC, I might suggest running out in the middle of the night to the lake/falls or something unexpected like that. Even if she declines you can neg her for being a boring shut-in. Obviously that's a location dependant example, but you get the idea. Modify to fit your location and interests.

And to finish it all off. Since you're going to be inside watching movies and just chilling, I think I should mention Mystery's (pickup artist who pretty much wrote "the game") pillow fight technique. Smack her with a pillow out of the blue (depends a little on her mood). Have a little tussel, and then just stop and walk away (go make yourself a drink, flop down on the couch/bed, whatever) while telling her that she's a pushover/too easy/etc. It's fun, and she'll wonder why you stopped and probably try to reengage in some kind of physical play. If she does, that's a clear sign that she's interested.