YAGT: Is there something wrong with me?

[Corporate Thug]

cute couple...

 

[DrumminBoy]

Does she acknowledge that you both have feelings for eachother? Does she ever talk to you about other guys? It sounds like a basic friendship; I used to talk to girls on the phone as friends but I never had feelings for any of them. If you're trying to take your relationship further you should probably lighten up a bit and not call her all the time. If she wanted to talk, wouldn't she call you? I know it sounds cliche, but sometimes you need to play hard to get. Go a couple days without calling her and see what happens. Good luck, hope it isn't another case of female friendship blues.

 

[mrrman]

time to say adios....move on as she is not the one for you

 

[deftron]

Too similar




She looks like she could be your sister.

 

[FoBoT]

grow up , you are an inch away from "stalker" status

 

[EvilYoda]

Even if you were her b/f, that kind of reaction is a little...freaky. You need to let go a bit and realize that she isn't what you would like her to be in your life.

 

[Spagina]

Your being obsessive about her, whether you believe it or not. You'll have a lot to learn with women. Being in high school, relationships are some of the most mind bending things to deal with. Everything that seems natural at first isn't.

Honestly, from how you describe your situation, your definitely in the friend zone. She may have feelings as a friend for you, but sexually she is looking for bigger game. Your noticing it subconciously if not conciously. It's frustrating you and your getting slightly jealous about it.

Best advice, move on, don't waste your time. If your in high school, you have so many years of women ahead of you, it's ridiculous to invest so much emotional effort in one girl now. Be a man about it, stop calling her, move onto other girls and establish where you want the relationship to be at right away next time.

Lesson learned, move on.

 

[Vich]

shes banging some huge black dude in college, sorry bro.

 

[imported_Stew]

Originally posted by: DrumminBoy
Does she acknowledge that you both have feelings for eachother? Does she ever talk to you about other guys? It sounds like a basic friendship; I used to talk to girls on the phone as friends but I never had feelings for any of them. If you're trying to take your relationship further you should probably lighten up a bit and not call her all the time. If she wanted to talk, wouldn't she call you? I know it sounds cliche, but sometimes you need to play hard to get. Go a couple days without calling her and see what happens. Good luck, hope it isn't another case of female friendship blues.

Yes, she has acknowledged that we both have feelings for her, and if it were up to us we'd be dating. She doesn't talk much about other guys.

As for whoever said this is a phone relationship, it really isn't because we see each other in RL about 3 times a week, sometimes more sometimes less.

Thank you KarenMarie, that's the most satisfying answer I've heard so far.

TallBill, this really is not strange. Plenty of people have long phone conversations.

 

[GeneValgene]

Originally posted by: Spagina
Your being obsessive about her, whether you believe it or not. You'll have a lot to learn with women. Being in high school, relationships are some of the most mind bending things to deal with. Everything that seems natural at first isn't.

Honestly, from how you describe your situation, your definitely in the friend zone. She may have feelings as a friend for you, but sexually she is looking for bigger game. Your noticing it subconciously if not conciously. It's frustrating you and your getting slightly jealous about it.

Best advice, move on, don't waste your time. If your in high school, you have so many years of women ahead of you, it's ridiculous to invest so much emotional effort in one girl now. Be a man about it, stop calling her, move onto other girls and establish where you want the relationship to be at right away next time.

Lesson learned, move on.

 

[Megadeth]

I've been there before... I can tell you from experience that you are over reacting and getting too emotional. Don't be so upset when she has to go, don't stall her to try to talk longer and don't worry about her not calling you. If you smother her expecially in the high school level it's only going to hurt your relationship.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Physically, you are hot. Mentally, who throws a phone? Either way, tell her that if she needs you, or wants to talk, to give you a call. Then don't call her back.
If she doesn't want to talk to you, than perhaps you should move on and find someone who does.

 

[Aharami]

obsession

its a nice cologne

 

[Wooglin]

Originally posted by: Stew

Originally posted by: Atheus

Originally posted by: Stew
Is there something wrong with me?
Am I obsessed?

Maybe... don't call her sometime, say you had something important, see if she calls you.

She says that she doesn't call because she figures that if I don't call, I must be doing something important, and she would feel bad.

That is a heaping pile of horse dookie. Stop being the one who calls and makes the effort, and see if she is willing.

 

[Abel007]

Welcome to the 'friend zone', in this zone of zones one cannot pass into the 'date zone' without first entering the 'date someone else zone' Only then will the 'friend zone' dissipate allowing you to enter the 'date zone' with the intended target.

Chicks love those who are already taken. Its strange but its true, if this doesn't work then just drowned your sorrows in alcohol.

Oh yea, and stop calling her nightly!

 

[BrokenVisage]

Originally posted by: Abel007
Welcome to the 'friend zone', in this zone of zones one cannot pass into the 'date zone' without first entering the 'date someone else zone' Only then will the 'friend zone' dissipate allowing you to enter the 'date zone' with the intended target.

Chicks love those who are already taken. Its strange but its true, if this doesn't work then just drowned your sorrows in alcohol.

Oh yea, and stop calling her nightly!

:laugh:

Top notch explanation

 

[PimpJuice]

start talking to other girls and then see how fast she starts calling you.

nuff said

 

[Chryso]

Why would she need to call you if you call her every day?

 

[Fenixgoon]

Originally posted by: Atheus

Originally posted by: Stew
Is there something wrong with me?
Am I obsessed?

Maybe... don't call her sometime, say you had something important, see if she calls you.

qft

 

[GasX]

I don't miss teenage angst at all...

 

[GeneValgene]

word of advice...

girls find it attractive when you want them, but not need them

reading about you throwing the phone - you are borderline psycho/stalker

 

[iroast]

"Oh yea, and stop calling her nightly! "

it gets old.

 

[MaxDepth]

:thumbsup: to obsessive behavior


We have a winnar in the pre-stalker division!

Originally posted by: Stew
I don't really have a problem with this, but subconsciously I think I'm feeling rejected. [...]

Anyway, the thing is: I always get upset when she says she has to go, and when she hangs up. I usually stall her, and when she goes I often wait to hear the dial tone and just listen. Recently, I actually threw my cordless phone across the room in anger/sadness.

 

[Steve]

The whole phone-throwing thing is not that big a deal. You're just frustrated, and understandably so. However you should give her a chance to see if she'll take the initiative and call for a change. Make it clear to her that she has to do the calling too. Don't set up a time or anything like that, but say something like "Why don't you call me sometime tonight after seven?"

 

[BHeemsoth]

Originally posted by: Stew
I've got a really great friend, named Emily and we've known each other about a year.

We dated for a while, and now we're best friends, but still have feelings for each other. (That's part of the problem... but not the one I want to ask about.)

We go to different schools, and talk on the phone almost every night in excess of an hour, sometimes two hours. We get along just great, and love talking to each other.

The problem though... I'm always the one that calls. Unless I specifically ask her to call me on a certain day, I'm always the one that phones her. I don't really have a problem with this, but subconsciously I think I'm feeling rejected. More importantly, 99% of the time, she is the first one to go. It's not that she doesn't like talking to me, but she has stuff to do and she's not allowed to talk too long on the phone, due to the fact that we're both in high school and her parents don't want her hogging the phone.

Anyway, the thing is: I always get upset when she says she has to go, and when she hangs up. I usually stall her, and when she goes I often wait to hear the dial tone and just listen. Recently, I actually threw my cordless phone across the room in anger/sadness.

Is there something wrong with me?
Am I obsessed?
Pic of me and her

I had the same thing with a past girlfriend. It bothered me to no end. I finally brought it up to here one day, and she gave me some lame excuse about it.