YAGT: Just found out she didn't cheat on me

KoolDrew

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:brokenheart:

And this whole time I thought she really loved me...

Update:

It turns out she didn't cheat on me which makes me feel like crap. See, I was told by both my sister and one of my ex's friends that she did yesterday. It turns out my sister also found out from this friend. Now normally I wouldn't believe what other people had to say because I do trust her, but that night there was a bit of confusion about our plans and I thought she ditched me, but she didn't. So, I already thought she ditched me so it made me believe that she did cheat on me. And I called her up and asked her about it and she seemed hesitant to answer which made me believe she cheated on me even further, but it could have to do with her being around a bunch of people at the time.

Well, my ex did tell me what did happen, and she's never really lied to me the whole time we've been together (almost 8 months), but with all this going on I did not believe her. Then today I asked her friend again and she told me she had it all wrong. So, I asked around even more and it turns out that my ex was telling the truth. Everything she told me was exactly what I was hearing from other people. It turns out the guy she supposedly cheated on me with made it up and other people believed him. Then it finally got to me.

So, basically we are not together now because of all this crap going around and I believed it and dumped her because of it, without even really listening to her side. However, even after I apologized for me not believing her and everything she doesn't want to be with me. The reason she told me was because my friends and family hate her because they think she cheated on me. I can see why that would suck, but as a reason for not wanting to get back with me? I could simply tell my friends and family the truth, which I would've planned on doing anyway. Her other reason is that she does not feel good enough for me. Now, you should know she is a person of very low self-esteem. She just keeps telling me that we can't be together. We did just break up last night. Maybe I should just give her some time?

This whole situation really sucks...
 

SagaLore

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Join the club. :brokenheart:

You'll feel better in a few weeks. Then you can move on and find someone better, someone committed.
 

eits

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just because she cheated on you doesn't mean she doesn't love you... it just means that she made a dumb and regretful choice. if she KEPT cheating on you, that'd mean that she didn't really love you that much.
 

KLin

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Originally posted by: KoolDrew
:brokenheart:

And this whole time I thought she really loved me...

Who's she? Your GF? Your sister? Your 1st cousin? Your aunt? Your 9th grade English teacher?
 
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Originally posted by: eits
just because she cheated on you doesn't mean she doesn't love you... it just means that she made a dumb and regretful choice. if she KEPT cheating on you, that'd mean that she didn't really love you that much.

No actually... that's a pretty good signal that she doesn't love you. If she even cared about you a little bit she wouldn't have done that.
 

eits

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Originally posted by: KLin
Originally posted by: KoolDrew
:brokenheart:

And this whole time I thought she really loved me...

Who's she? Your GF? Your sister? Your 1st cousin? Your aunt? Your 9th grade English teacher?

who do you think?? :roll:

what a dumb post, klin... i expected better from you.
 

KoolDrew

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Originally posted by: eits
just because she cheated on you doesn't mean she doesn't love you... it just means that she made a dumb and regretful choice. if she KEPT cheating on you, that'd mean that she didn't really love you that much.

Well, she also lied to me when I asked about it and ditched me today. Lately I have even suspected it and asked her about it, but she denied it. Well, today I found out my gut instinct was right all along.
 

KLin

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Originally posted by: eits
Originally posted by: KLin
Originally posted by: KoolDrew
:brokenheart:

And this whole time I thought she really loved me...

Who's she? Your GF? Your sister? Your 1st cousin? Your aunt? Your 9th grade English teacher?

who do you think?? :roll:

what a dumb post, klin... i expected better from you.

I don't really care what you think.
 

eits

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Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
Originally posted by: eits
just because she cheated on you doesn't mean she doesn't love you... it just means that she made a dumb and regretful choice. if she KEPT cheating on you, that'd mean that she didn't really love you that much.

No actually... that's a pretty good signal that she doesn't love you. If she even cared about you a little bit she wouldn't have done that.

sometimes people make bad choices. you honestly think that if someone cheats on the other person and regrets it because it was a mistake and they love their significant other that they really don't?
 

IMaN00BieGF

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Screw her, move on and try to find someone that will respect you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
 

SagaLore

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Originally posted by: KoolDrew
Originally posted by: eits
just because she cheated on you doesn't mean she doesn't love you... it just means that she made a dumb and regretful choice. if she KEPT cheating on you, that'd mean that she didn't really love you that much.

Well, she also lied to me when I asked about it and ditched me today. Lately I have even suspected it and asked her about it, but she denied it. Well, today I found out my gut instinct was right all along.

Yep. My personal feelings on the matter - its not the cheating that hurts. Its the lying.
 

eits

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Originally posted by: KoolDrew
Originally posted by: eits
just because she cheated on you doesn't mean she doesn't love you... it just means that she made a dumb and regretful choice. if she KEPT cheating on you, that'd mean that she didn't really love you that much.

Well, she also lied to me when I asked about it and ditched me today. Lately I have even suspected it and asked her about it, but she denied it. Well, today I found out my gut instinct was right all along.

at least you found out, man. just make sure that you don't take this into your next relationship... you could end up ruining it.
 

AccruedExpenditure

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Originally posted by: eits
just because she cheated on you doesn't mean she doesn't love you... it just means that she made a dumb and regretful choice. if she KEPT cheating on you, that'd mean that she didn't really love you that much.

No, it means she doesn't care enough about her relationship not sleep w/ someone else. Move on man, plenty of fish.
 

50cent1228

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Originally posted by: KoolDrew
:brokenheart:

And this whole time I thought she really loved me...

wow that sux...it should be the other way around...u got da shaft
 

eits

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Originally posted by: SagaLore
Originally posted by: KoolDrew
Originally posted by: eits
just because she cheated on you doesn't mean she doesn't love you... it just means that she made a dumb and regretful choice. if she KEPT cheating on you, that'd mean that she didn't really love you that much.

Well, she also lied to me when I asked about it and ditched me today. Lately I have even suspected it and asked her about it, but she denied it. Well, today I found out my gut instinct was right all along.

Yep. My personal feelings on the matter - its not the cheating that hurts. Its the lying.

no, it's not just the lying... it's the fact that it wasn't you. it's the subconscious punch in the gut that says, "you're not good enough, so i got it from someone else".
 

eits

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Originally posted by: AccruedExpenditure
Originally posted by: eits
just because she cheated on you doesn't mean she doesn't love you... it just means that she made a dumb and regretful choice. if she KEPT cheating on you, that'd mean that she didn't really love you that much.

No, it means she doesn't care enough about her relationship not sleep w/ someone else. Move on man, plenty of fish.

people make mistakes... that doesn't mean that they don't still love the person they cheated on.

i'm not excusing it... i'm just saying that it's dumb to pass judgment and say that they don't love their significant other just because of a mistake or bad choice they made and regret. it's not that black and white.
 
Jun 27, 2005
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Originally posted by: eits
Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
Originally posted by: eits
just because she cheated on you doesn't mean she doesn't love you... it just means that she made a dumb and regretful choice. if she KEPT cheating on you, that'd mean that she didn't really love you that much.

No actually... that's a pretty good signal that she doesn't love you. If she even cared about you a little bit she wouldn't have done that.

sometimes people make bad choices. you honestly think that if someone cheats on the other person and regrets it because it was a mistake and they love their significant other that they really don't?

Having sex with someone else when you are in a committed relationship is not a "mistake." Filling up with the wrong gas is a mistake. Forgetting to pay the electric bill is a mistake. Locking yourself out of the house is a mistake.

Having sex with another person when you are in a relationship is a pre-meditated and calculated decision where a person weighs the prospect of satisfying their curiosity vs the likelyhood that they will be caught. The other person's feelings don't come into play in that equasion. And when you act against your SO without regard to their feelings then there is no love there. Guilt, maybe. But I'd say love is out the window.
 
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