YAGT: Met a girl at party...

[YetioDoom]

Originally posted by: Colt45
pick her up before the wine thing.

whip it out.

if she runs out of the car, problem solved. if she lays you, that ain't bad neither.

I need to learn how to think like this.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: ajayjuneja
1. Met girl at party. "Laura."
2. Danced with girl, did some West coast swing. She was a pretty good dancer.
3. / me been looking for a dance partner. As a general rule of thumb, and as part of ballroom etiquette, I tend to keep dancing separate from dating.
4. She was disappointed that I could not go dancing with her this upcoming weekend, because I have a wine tasting party that one of my former bosses' is throwing at his vineyard.
5. To be "nice" I said she could come along to the party. I didn't expect her to say "Yes."
6. She said "yes."

I think it'll be strange to go to my former bosses party with someone I just met and am clearly not dating, nor wanting to date. I screwed up. How do I back out of this courteously?

/me regrets offering in the first place now.

If you didnt' do her after the party (or at it) you have now entered friends only terrority, have fun dancing and wine tasting Rico Sauve!

 

[EULA]

it would be funny if "Laura" was a member of AT, and was reading this...

 

[Lazy8s]

Are you trying to date your boss? If so then uninvite her. If not then I doubt he'll be too jealous when you show up for a date.

 

[ajayjuneja]

Originally posted by: Lazy8s
Are you trying to date your boss? If so then uninvite her. If not then I doubt he'll be too jealous when you show up for a date.

No, my former boss is a guy...

 

[Lazy8s]

Originally posted by: ajayjuneja

Originally posted by: Lazy8s
Are you trying to date your boss? If so then uninvite her. If not then I doubt he'll be too jealous when you show up for a date.

No, my former boss is a guy...

Then what's the problem bringing some eye candy?

 

[Yossarian]

Originally posted by: bradruth
Looking for a dance partner? Ballroom etiquette? What are you, gay?

just to put the question in perspective, how much do you spend on hair care products per month?

 

[bradruth]

Originally posted by: Tiamat
Since when where guys not allowed to have female acquaintances?

Summer of '96.

Originally posted by: Yossarian

Originally posted by: bradruth
Looking for a dance partner? Ballroom etiquette? What are you, gay?

just to put the question in perspective, how much do you spend on hair care products per month?

:laugh:

And just to put his answer in perspective, I just bought a several-month supply of all the hair and hair-related products I use...


...a bottle of shampoo.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: ajayjuneja
right, but I don't want my old boss or anyone at the party to think *I am dating her*

Who cares what they think?

Just go and have a good time. If she comes on to you just tell her that you like her as a friend and aren't interested in a relationship right now.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

Originally posted by: ajayjuneja
right, but I don't want my old boss or anyone at the party to think *I am dating her*

Who cares what they think?

Just go and have a good time. If she comes on to you just tell her that you like her as a friend and aren't interested in a relationship right now after you are heading to the bathroom to clean up.

fixed1one!

 

[HomeBrewerDude]

its a date not a wedding.

whats the big deal??? .... go early leave early

 

[sniperruff]

she's a friend. so?

 

[cyclohexane]

don't you all get it? The guy needs to dance! He needs to dance!

 

[stan394]

actually, i went to a ballroom dacing class in college with a gal about six, six and a half years ago. we knew each other before the class but were not attracted to each other in any way. half a year later we started dating and by next year we are getting married!

 

[BooGiMaN]

i think i get it...

having sexual feelings for your dance partner weakens your loins thus she would be the kryptonite to your super dance powers!

(exotic spanish accent) you must not do the forbidden dance with her..you must not!

think of the competition ..focus....dance the forbidden dance you must not young padawin!


you could always tell her your gay...i mean at this point with the ballroom dancign and the wine tasting and the no wanting to boink her...how much of a stretch is that really?

but seriously why dont you want people thinking your dating her?

 

[everman]

What's the big deal? Just take her, you can't back out like that now and you know it.

Oh and don't ask questions you don't know the answer to

 

[brigden]

Originally posted by: HN
dude, this is totally the last few scenes of Swingers. wait 3 days and shag her.

(or you can say the party was cancelled)

Mike: So how long do I wait to call?
Trent: A day.
Mike: Tomorrow.
Sue: Tomorrow, then a day.
Trent: Yeah.
Mike: So two days?
Trent: Yeah, I guess you could call it that, two days.
Sue: Definitely, two days is like industry standard.
Trent: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?
Sue: Yeah, but two's enough not to look anxious.
Trent: But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you...
Mike: Yeah, but you know what, mabey I'll wait 3 weeks. How's that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number.
Charles: Then ask her where you met her.
Mike: Yeah, I'll ask her where I met her. I don't remember. What does she look like? And then I'll asked if we fccked. Is that... would that be... T, would that be the money?
Trent: You know what. Ha ha ha Mike, laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.
Mike: Well how long are you guys gonna wait to call your babies?
Trent, Sue: Six days.

 

[eakers]

if she is looking for a romantic thing with you and you just want to be dancing partners then niether is going to work out. because even if you lay it out right now you only wanna be dancing partners shes going to feel hurt/rejected.

that said, take her to the party,.

 

[Byte]

call her every 10 minutes, guranteed to work. If not, you'll be shaggin her hard. Win-Win.

 

[alm4rr]

Originally posted by: Liviathan
Who cares..just go and have fun.

Why are you so concern people thinking you are dating her?

 

[bootymac]

Go with her. Throw your "just friends" garbage out the window. If you guys have a fun time together, then there you go, you have a new shag buddy

 

[RGN]

Originally posted by: ajayjuneja

Originally posted by: KarenMarie

Originally posted by: ajayjuneja

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
can't you just go as friends?

That was my initial intention, do I need to "inform" her that this is just friends? Or only inform her if she tries to cross the line?

If you bring it up, you will make the situation awkward and you will both have a crap time. Just go, be yourself and treat her like you would any female that is just a friend. If she makes a move that she wants something more than just friendship, tell her that while you are flattered, you are unavailable.

Thanks KarenMarie! sounds like good advice!

It is good advice. The best in the thread. The thing that bothers me is that you need help with this. WTF is this world coming to. We are effing doomed.

 

[EvilYoda]

You're either ignorant, brave or stupid to have posted all those details on ATOT. I'm hoping it's #2...this thread was just asking for all the idiots and their doubting comments.

However, you do seem to be overconcerned with the situation. You're anticipating problems that will probably never present themselves and if by chance they do, you should be able to solve them quite simply and easily. Just relax.

 

[IHateMyJob2004]

Originally posted by: ajayjuneja
1. Met girl at party. "Laura."
2. Danced with girl, did some West coast swing. She was a pretty good dancer.
3. / me been looking for a dance partner. As a general rule of thumb, and as part of ballroom etiquette, I tend to keep dancing separate from dating.
4. She was disappointed that I could not go dancing with her this upcoming weekend, because I have a wine tasting party that one of my former bosses' is throwing at his vineyard.
5. To be "nice" I said she could come along to the party. I didn't expect her to say "Yes."
6. She said "yes."

I think it'll be strange to go to my former bosses party with someone I just met and am clearly not dating, nor wanting to date. I screwed up. How do I back out of this courteously?

/me regrets offering in the first place now.

Tell her you would love to go dancing some time )you idiot) and back out of the wine think BY TELLING THE TRUTH. If that's not good enough, would you really want to date her?

Oh, BTW: It's not work, it's dancing. Why not dae someone from there? And maybe she thinks the "date in your head" is actually "practice".

 

[jeffeh]

dude like seriously let your balls lower a bit, your a guy, your old boss is a guy, no one is going to care