YAGT: One of the hardest things I've ever had to do.

[notfred]

So, today I told the person who's been the single biggest influence in my life aside from my parents, who I spent most of the last 6 years with, and who was my best friend for those 6 years, and my fiancee for a couple of them, that we can't talk to each other again.

We broke up six months ago, but we've sort of kept in contact, and it's making it too difficult to get over the whole thing, so I cut it off completely. I'll probably never talk to her again - and given her impact in my life up to this point, that was a hard thing to do.

But I need to get over it, and I know this is the only way I can do it. This should be the last YAGT regarding her, if everything goes how I want it to.

Thanks for reading, now you can commence with the insults and derision that get thrown at the OP in every YAGT.

 

[Nebor]

You did the right thing. Cutting off all contact is the way to go.

 

[RCN]

:thumbsup:

 

[BoomerD]

:camera:?

 

[Nebor]

I assumed this thread would be about putting a pet to sleep, which is typically the hardest thing most people will have to do.

 

[Captante]

Glad to hear it, you made the right decision!

 

[Deleted member 4644]

I have had to cut off a person before once. It was horrible at first, and got easier after a while. Having a little anger can help too. I have talked to her a few times since, but only years later.

 

[OneOfTheseDays]

trust me, this is not nearly as easy as you think it is. you'll be fine for the first few days, maybe even a week, but then the realization that this person is gone from your life will hit you.

when this happens, your true character will come out. if your strong enough and have the willpower to follow through you will resist the temptation to go back and contact her. each time you resist that urge, it gets a little easier. time is your only friend, and the only thing that will truly help you recover. everytime you contact her it will be like going back to square one.

 

[Kadarin]

Good luck!

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: notfred
So, today I told the person who's been the single biggest influence in my life aside from my parents, who I spent most of the last 6 years with, and who was my best friend for those 6 years, and my fiancee for a couple of them, that we can't talk to each other again.

We broke up six months ago, but we've sort of kept in contact, and it's making it too difficult to get over the whole thing, so I cut it off completely. I'll probably never talk to her again - and given her impact in my life up to this point, that was a hard thing to do.

But I need to get over it, and I know this is the only way I can do it. This should be the last YAGT regarding her, if everything goes how I want it to.

Thanks for reading, now you can commence with the insults and derision that get thrown at the OP in every YAGT.

Man what a pessimistic view, I ain't gonna insult you or anything.

It's a real shame that you had to do that, I've almost had to do that with my ex girlfriend that too, but I could never follow through on it. I feel for you.

 

[SurgicalShark]

Originally posted by: notfred
So, today I told the person who's been the single biggest influence in my life aside from my parents, who I spent most of the last 6 years with, and who was my best friend for those 6 years, and my fiancee for a couple of them, that we can't talk to each other again.

We broke up six months ago, but we've sort of kept in contact, and it's making it too difficult to get over the whole thing, so I cut it off completely. I'll probably never talk to her again - and given her impact in my life up to this point, that was a hard thing to do.

But I need to get over it, and I know this is the only way I can do it. This should be the last YAGT regarding her, if everything goes how I want it to.

Thanks for reading, now you can commence with the insults and derision that get thrown at the OP in every YAGT.

That won't be easy path. You will have to be strong and avoid temptations of calling her, looking at her photos or even think about the times you had together.

I went through the same thing. It was not quite easy for me, for days I got recursions about some of the things that we did. It was a long distance relationship so best of the times were on phone so I sometime just remember them. I deleted all photographs, emails, gifts and what not.

Be strong willed and talk it out here if you need help or feel lonely.

 

[OS]

heh, wasn't it a couple days ago, she called you to cry about being dumped.

 

[Zugzwang152]

6 years is a long time. you'll find someone else and be better for the whole experience.

 

[Pepsei]

to be honest, you really don't have to cut that person off. you could still have a healthy relationship with her being just friends.

 

[Conky]

Originally posted by: Pepsei
to be honest, you really don't have to cut that person off. you could still have a healthy relationship with her being just friends.

Umm, no.

Good luck to the OP and don't try to contact her again... it's best that way.

 

[Pepsei]

Originally posted by: Crazyfool

Originally posted by: Pepsei
to be honest, you really don't have to cut that person off. you could still have a healthy relationship with her being just friends.

Umm, no.

Good luck to the OP and don't try to contact her again... it's best that way.

why not? what doesn't kill you, will make you stronger. it would make you more mature in a long run. just don't let them walk all over you. it'd make you a better person and not seem as someone out for revenge.

but it does work better when you're in another relationship and treat your strictly as a friend only.

 

[Pepsi90919]

INSULT

 

[PlatinumGold]

why did you break up with her?

is that in a separate thread?

 

[j00fek]

Originally posted by: RCN
:thumbsup:

good job !

 

[Eli]

My ex and I still talk. I have mixed feelings about it. Talking isn't so bad, I don't really mind that.

But I made the mistake of looking at her MySpace profile the other day, something I hadn't done in quite a few months. That got to me for some reason.. seeing recent pictures of her, in her new life and such. Dredged up some old feelings, even though I've met someone else now.

It's weird.

 

[rhino56]

hey tyler, i was sorry to hear about that when it happened. in a way i was relieved because i didnt want to be the brother in law who had to tell you that she used to be a man before her operation.
im glad you found out on your own and decided to move on. he is a great gal now but i can see its gonna take a special person to to be with her.
so anyways hope these thoughts from me help to make the departure easier for you.

 

[imported_Phil]

Originally posted by: Eli
My ex and I still talk. I have mixed feelings about it. Talking isn't so bad, I don't really mind that.

But I made the mistake of looking at her MySpace profile the other day, something I hadn't done in quite a few months. That got to me for some reason.. seeing recent pictures of her, in her new life and such. Dredged up some old feelings, even though I've met someone else now.

It's weird.

Same here, except my ex is a regular member of another forum, and that makes it a lot harder when she's around all the time. I'm getting over it, and it's getting easier and easier each day.
Good luck notfred

 

[DaiShan]

Originally posted by: notfred
So, today I told the person who's been the single biggest influence in my life aside from my parents, who I spent most of the last 6 years with, and who was my best friend for those 6 years, and my fiancee for a couple of them, that we can't talk to each other again.

We broke up six months ago, but we've sort of kept in contact, and it's making it too difficult to get over the whole thing, so I cut it off completely. I'll probably never talk to her again - and given her impact in my life up to this point, that was a hard thing to do.

But I need to get over it, and I know this is the only way I can do it. This should be the last YAGT regarding her, if everything goes how I want it to.

Thanks for reading, now you can commence with the insults and derision that get thrown at the OP in every YAGT.

Nah, we only do that to the morons who make poor decisions. You OTOH made the right call. :beer: Things will get better

 

[Doboji]

about damn time... this is the same chick who called you to cry about breaking up with her new boyfriend right?

Definitly time to move on...

-Max

 

[ballmode]

Talking to ex's is wierd, especially if they see other guys