YAGT : Relationship issues.

[maximus maximus]

Originally posted by: postmortemIA
That's what you did wrong, you allowed her to make fool of ya. Probably she too notices you are virgin. And she is bitch, move on.

I can't believe you would let somebody stood up on you 6 times. One stood up is enough bad sign that dating withthat person is not repairable. That should be your guide, the moment she disrespects you it means she owns you.

ADVICE: Visit a hooker.

EDIT2. Dude you're not in relationship.

Sorry buddy. I am not desperate. I may be a virgin, but I would not fall to the level of buying sex.

I have enough money with me to buy sex everyday of my life, but choose not to.

 

[bennylong]

Dump her already! If someone was in love with you, they would make time for you and wouldn't be standing you up!

 

[postmortemIA]

Originally posted by: maximus maximus

Originally posted by: postmortemIA
That's what you did wrong, you allowed her to make fool of ya. Probably she too notices you are virgin. And she is bitch, move on.

I can't believe you would let somebody stood up on you 6 times. One stood up is enough bad sign that dating withthat person is not repairable. That should be your guide, the moment she disrespects you it means she owns you.

ADVICE: Visit a hooker.

EDIT2. Dude you're not in relationship.

Sorry buddy. I am not desperate. I may be a virgin, but I would not fall to the level of buying sex.

I have enough money with me to buy sex everyday of my life, but choose not to.

Of course you are not desperate, because you don't know what is it alike. Smart man can make some smart choices that aren't ethical and keep it for himself. Nature has its ways...

 

[dfi]

Originally posted by: maximus maximus

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
Look man, your the "nice guy". She doesn't want to date you, but she knows she can keep you semi strung along in case she changes her mind. I say do a total 180 on her regarding your personality. No more calls, don't take any either for awhile, and just let her show you how interested, or not interested, she is. I'm not saying play games with her, but at this point you're coming across as the chaser.

I can almost gaurentee you that if she's at all interested, and you do what I tell you to, she'll be in your bed in a week.

Honestly though, you gotta face the reality that it probably ain't gonna happen.

You're in a sh1tty spot because you want to believe her and she's feeding you "good excuses" for her behavior and lack of interest, but there's a point where you have to listen to actions over words. IF she were interested she'd make time for you, especially before you leave for 4 weeks......to say otherwise is just pure bullsh1t.

One of two things is happening here:

1. Either she's never going to go any further with this and knows that it will never happen and she's just being apathetic about (likely telling herself she's letting you down gently and praising herself for being "nice") until you move on.

The problem with this is you seem like a "clinger", so if this theory is true she'll eventually just get tired of you "patiently waiting" and get nasty towards you.

or

2. she is just scared about the prospect of dating and is too messed up in the head to know what she wants. With this there's more hope, because there's always a chance she'll figure it out and you'll be fine, but odds are it's #1.

Sorry dude. Find some new tail and ignore this one, I gaurentee she'll come calling at some point.

That is a nice piece of advice. I am not going to take her calls anymore. I need to stand up for myself.

Here is what I am going to say to her.

"I know that your kid and your job mean a lot to you in life, but all I am asking for is a little love and attention from you. It looks like you have a lot going on in your life right now and I understand that it must be difficult for you to juggle with so many different things.

So until things settle down in your life, let us go our own ways. I think it will do good for both of us."

No! Way too nice! She treated you very very poorly. She stood you up 5 times. Think of how little YOU would have to think of someone to stand them up 5 times. Can you even think of one person you would do this to? Imagine how much of a jerk you would to be to do this to someone 5 times. That's who she is. Why would you go out of your way to say anything nice to this person?

Tell her she can call you when she's mature enough to keep the plans that she made. That means she has to be the one to initiate all action from now on. Btw, this probably won't happen. She's done.

 

[m1ldslide1]

So you've already got like 3 pages of replies on the subject, but just for emphasis:

She is playing you. Probably not intentionally, she is just kinda messed up. Being stood up once is grounds enough for dismissal, twice is "shame on me" territory. 5-6 times means she owns you. Of course she gets jealous when you talk to another girl. That's not a sign of affection. That's a sign of her emotional problems. Of course she's SO nice and calls you five times a day. Sign of affection? Not exactly. Sounds like an extremely insecure girl that is bad bad news for a nice guy who is willing to be manipulated. Trust me - I've been there. Hell, maybe I know her.

 

[pulse8]

Bang her, lose the virginity thing and then stop returning her calls.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

get some self respect you needy bastard.

 

[imported_UncivilizedAMD]

Move on!!! It'll save you time, money, and heartache. Obviously she isn't seriously interested in you if she stood u up for 5 times. I got stood up once and that was it for me. YOu're about to leave and she won't come see you. Over that time period that you are gone, her feelings for you will probably fade to nothing and when you come back, your chances with her are zero!! So just move on!!!!!

 

[wfbberzerker]

you are much too nice for her.

 

[JS80]

wow...........

basically she thinks you're gonna committ suicide if she says ****** off so instead she justs stands you up

 

[JS80]

Originally posted by: randay
Your story reaks of "side action". buy a big van with tinted windows and park it ouside her house, make sure shes not seeing any other guys. if any guys do arrive at her house, follow them home and then murder them in thier sleep.

lolz...

 

[doze]

She has kids and an ex husband so this also means that she has drama and problems.

Originally posted by: maximus maximus
I am leaving on a vacation soon for 4 weeks and I would not be able to see her during that time frame. She says that she has no time to see me before I leave for vacation.

Nobody is too busy if they actually like the person. You sound like a real nice guy so if you really want to be with her then ignore her while on vacation and treat her like crap when you get back. Some girls like a-holes, sad but true

 

[DainBramaged]

5-6 times? WTF. Dump her.

 

[psteng19]

Originally posted by: maximus maximus

Originally posted by: waggy
well i would dump her. i can't stand being stood up UNLESS there is a emergancy. while i am a ugly MFer i had good luck when i was single. I have the confidance i would be able to find a women who respected me enough to not stand me up.

My friends also adviced me the same. She is the first girl that I am dating.
I am afraid that I may not find someone else, if I let go of her.

BTW, I am no ugly Mfcker. I think I am average.

Let go of her? You don't even have her yet.

Sorry guy, sounds like you're being played... let her make the next move and just play it cool for now. If she's really interested, she'll do something about it.
If not, move on... it's not worth it.

 

[huberm]

most likely she knows someone else that she is more interested in and you are her backup plan.

avoid her.

 

[krunchykrome]

I can't help but to laugh and :roll: at threads like this.

 

[iroast]

if she were really interested in you, she'd make the time.

 

[Al Neri]

PZ OUT!

 

[lokiju]

Let it go.

I've made the mistake of giving women a second chance when being stood up and that was it, just one chance and always ends up badly.

I'd just move on, forget her, besides you're working with her which will only make it worse (I know from personal experience)

 

[MisterJackson]

BTW, stay a virgin man.....sex is WAYYYY over rated. I take that back.....sex is awesome....the drama that comes along with it sucks ass.

 

[neovan]

Don't have this mentality of "If I lose her, I won't find anyone else." Guess what! THERE ARE OTHER GIRLS!!!

I would have drawn the line the 2nd time she stood you up. The cliche is true "nice guys finish last." Stop being a pansy! Stand up for yourself!

 

[DaShen]

It might be time to move on man.
If she is standing you up, she may be too busy for a relationship. Also, your age may be a hangup with her. She doesn't want another kid.

 

[AbsolutDealage]

Yea, let her go. She's got way too many problems to be worth all of that. And 6 times!? Jesus, maybe once I can see (if something really did come up at the last minute). Heck, you could probably string me out twice if there was some kind of emergency... but 6?!? Have some respect for yourself and for your time and stop associating yourself with her. There's a reason that she's a single mom.

And, for the record, having your first girlfriend be a single mom is not the best idea. Essentially, its an all or nothing type of situation. In the beginning, she doesn't want you to come in to her life and develop a bond with her kid until she knows you will be around for the long term. This is where you are right now. If you go further and put yourself into her life, you will be the new father for the kid. Think about that real hard. You will be the father of a child that is not your own. Find another girl that you can have a more sane, naturally developing relationship with.

Get away from this train wreck of a woman.

 

[Kev]

I feel deprived of love and attention.

You went on 2 dates and she stood you up for 5, this is pathetic.

 

[acemcmac]

I don't get stood up. If it were ever to happen to me, unless their house was on fire or it was a life and death situation, someone would be getting dumped. Period.