YAGT: (seriously) Megan is not pregnant. Our engagement is over.

[thomsbrain]

well, only you can decide if you're willing to forgive her for this. she's right, people go through worse and get through it, but for her to do this so young doesn't bode well for the future. i mean if she complains now, it's only gonna be worse when you're really 35 with a mortage.

at any rate, this is why people our age (i'm 22) should NOT be married. my parents got married when my mom was 19 and they got through it and have a solid relationship now, but apparently they went though some major sh!t those first few years. you know it's a bad idea when even the people who got through it say not to do it. you've got many years of relative youth and new people ahead of you. it doesn't make sense to get that tied down so early.

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: welst10

Originally posted by: SampSon
All humans "cheat".

Simply because monogamy is not in human nature. No matter how much you force your willpower.

So wrong a statement. You may say all humans have desire to cheat. But only a small portion do cheat.

check your stats dude before you make such a statement.

majority cheat.

 

[TreyRandom]

Originally posted by: thomsbrain
at any rate, this is why people our age (i'm 22) should NOT be married. my parents got married when my mom was 19 and they got through it and have a solid relationship now, but apparently they went though some major sh!t those first few years. you know it's a bad idea when even the people who got through it say not to do it. you've got many years of relative youth and new people ahead of you. it doesn't make sense to get that tied down so early.

I disagree - many people are ready at age 22. Maybe not most, but many are. I know I was.

Regardless, being "in your 20s" is no excuse for irresponsible behavior. Most 20-something-year-olds know better... but choose their behavior anyway. They're not children by any means, but they still expect to be given a green light for bad behavior just because they're "in their 20s". In truth, this behavior can carry over well into ones 30s and 40s.

If you're not ready for a commitment, and if you choose to mess around, then that's cool - that's the choice you've made, but it doesn't make it all better just because you're in your 20s. One shouldn't use age as a crutch for simply "wanting to mess around" - just call it what it is: a decision, a choice, whether good or bad. Regardless of age, you choose your behaviors, and you deal with the consequences, as Megan has discovered.

Cliff Notes Summary:
Just because you're in your 20s doesn't mean you'll make bad decisions... nor does it mean you'll make good ones.

 

[Garuda]

If you give up now, then you've already lost my friend.

It will confirm your girlfriend's suspicion's that you're just a pussy whipped white boy. She will find love in the arms of her studly latin lover once again.

No, there is only one solution. You must challenge the Mexican fellow to a duel, to prove your manhood once and for all.

 

[cressida]

Originally posted by: Garuda
If you give up now, then you've already lost my friend.

It will confirm your girlfriend's suspicion's that you're just a pussy whipped white boy. She will find love in the arms of her studly latin lover once again.

No, there is only one solution. You must challenge the Mexican fellow to a duel, to prove your manhood once and for all.

The goat will kick your a$$.

 

[Judgement]

Originally posted by: Garuda
If you give up now, then you've already lost my friend.

It will confirm your girlfriend's suspicion's that you're just a pussy whipped white boy. She will find love in the arms of her studly latin lover once again.

No, there is only one solution. You must challenge the Mexican fellow to a duel, to prove your manhood once and for all.

lol he will just hold Red's head between his pecs, flex, and pop his head like a cherry

 

[brigden]

YOU BROKE UP WITH YOUR MOM?!?!

 

[isekii]

so are you back together yet ?

 

[Judgement]

Originally posted by: brigden
YOU BROKE UP WITH YOUR MOM?!?!

come on man, that sh!t was old what seems like years ago and its not even in reference to anyone I know

 

[Crucial]

I'm not reading the whole thread after that post but I would say get the ring, pay your bills, and don't look back. I had an on again off again relationship with my first real g-riend for 4 years. It was the biggest mistake of my life. I wish I would have dropped her a lot sooner than I did.

Don't feel bad for her and her debt. It's her own fault. Just cut off any contact with her and go on with your life. Have a few rebound screws and don't talk to her at all for a couple months at least. The longer you stay away the easier it will be. I haven't spoken to my ex for over 4 years now and the few times we run into each other we don't even really look at each other. It's just easier this way.

 

[nan0bug]

Sorry to hear that dude, bitches suck. The nice thing is, now you have a perfect excuse to fvck all of her friends.

 

[randomlinh]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: lnguyen

Originally posted by: Citrix
people make mistakes. give her a second chance.

Out of curiousity, have you ever been in a situation when someone cheated on another? I'm not trying to say anything, but a lot of ppl say this but have never experienced it. the essence of trust is completely lost. At least for me, this is something that is extremely difficult to get back. Probably just because of how i've grown up.

For most people trust is what they label it as...however the real deal is they cannot accept their guy or girl with another person sexually.

If you are OK with your SO's past, you can then either deal with cheating or not ... if you are already still thinking about the guy's she banged 5-10 years ago, chances are there is no resolution possible.

Everyone gets sexual cravings for others no matter how pure they are. Whether they admit that or not is another matter and whether they act upon it or not something totally different.

People in America and other countries like it tend to think of 1 guy for 1 girl, yet in many parts of the world both man and woman do not think that way and tend to think of sex as just a part of dating much the same as a kiss. Personally to me a virgin is fun as far as surprising her and what not that first time..but overall they prove boring unless you want to constantly be the teacher and dealing with getting her to cooperate.

Give me a woman that knows what works and what doesn't any day.

Well, I was getting at a trust thing. I have no problems w/ a SO's past. It's when people are in a committed relationship, and then do this stuff, it bugs me. Maybe it's just from my POV, but that's how I feel about it. Everyone's situation is different, and there are differnet circumstances surrounding what happens.

But the other side of this story is these two "kids" really shouldn't be engaged... anyone around this age shouldn't. Young, crazy, and experimental.... well, some people anyway.

Citrix, I'm glad it worked out for you then. It's just not something I see very often.

 

[hysperion]

get rid of her....I just had to look at her picture to know that she's gonna get fat, real fat...get out while you still can

 

[wkabel23]

if you haven't fvcked one of her friends yet, you're doing something wrong

 

[SethK28]

Problem #1

3 year engagement


It should have been 6 months to a year tops.........with a definite date.


Guess who thought the marriage was never gonna happen, and saw a way out/wanted to have some "fun"

 

[Judgement]

Originally posted by: hysperion
get rid of her....I just had to look at her picture to know that she's gonna get fat, real fat...get out while you still can

Eh, I dunno about one of her friends but something along the lines of a hot chick from another country who has a nickname that when translated also means "chest" would do the trick

 

[hippocritical]

Originally posted by: SampSon
All humans "cheat".

Simply because monogamy is not in human nature. No matter how much you force your willpower.

I heard on a show on Tech TV (RIP) that scientists have found that a certain pleasurable chemicals are released into the brain only during deeply romantic and meaningful relationships, the bodies incentive to get you to stay with the person (same as "pizza makes me happy, I shall get more pizza"). How does that fit into the equation of "monogamy isn't human nature?"

 

[MAME]

Originally posted by: hippocritical

Originally posted by: SampSon
All humans "cheat".

Simply because monogamy is not in human nature. No matter how much you force your willpower.

I heard on a show on Tech TV (RIP) that scientists have found that a certain pleasurable chemicals are released into the brain only during deeply romantic and meaningful relationships, the bodies incentive to get you to stay with the person (same as "pizza makes me happy, I shall get more pizza"). How does that fit into the equation of "monogamy isn't human nature?"

Look at primates and pretty much 99.9% of animals out there. Even humans sleep around usually before picking one mate

 

[Klixxer]

Originally posted by: SethK28
Problem #1

3 year engagement


It should have been 6 months to a year tops.........with a definite date.


Guess who thought the marriage was never gonna happen, and saw a way out/wanted to have some "fun"

Instead of a divorce he will just break up with her, it would have happend if they WERE married too, she's just wasn't not ready to commit. Marriage is no guarantee against infidelity.

I got divorced over the same thing, after 7 years of marriage, best thing that ever happend to me.

 

[Judgement]

Originally posted by: MAME

Originally posted by: hippocritical

Originally posted by: SampSon
All humans "cheat".

Simply because monogamy is not in human nature. No matter how much you force your willpower.

I heard on a show on Tech TV (RIP) that scientists have found that a certain pleasurable chemicals are released into the brain only during deeply romantic and meaningful relationships, the bodies incentive to get you to stay with the person (same as "pizza makes me happy, I shall get more pizza"). How does that fit into the equation of "monogamy isn't human nature?"

Look at primates and pretty much 99.9% of animals out there. Even humans sleep around usually before picking one mate

I expect to get bashed at least somewhat from this post, I mean this is ATOT... but in my opinion the majority of those who cheat are the people who subconciously feel they can do better than the person they are with. IMO chances are the nerd who has only dated 3 people in his entire life when he gets engaged at age 30 isn't likely to cheat on the girl he is engaged to. On the other hand, the guy who was the jock since high school and has been around the block more than once isn't likely to settle for a single person until he has truly matured. I'm not saying by any means that these scenarios fit everyone, but to me it simply makes sense.

Humans by nature like any other mammal are instinctively driven to try to reproduce with the "best" females they come in contact with, as well as several females... not just one. To me monogamy is a sign of completely maturity or a defense mechanism against rejection/being alone. Since males all mature at different times in their life and because some males have been with more woman and lack the phobia of being alone in life because they know they can fairly easily go out and find another one, it naturally seems that some males would be more prone to cheating than others.

Of course there will always be exceptions to the things I've said, but imo this all stands pretty true.

 

[Chaotic42]

As long as you kick her to the curb and never ever ever ever take her back, I think you'll be ok. That's my non-professional opinion.

If you take her back, you are, in a word, a bitch.

 

[DJFuji]

i find it creepy that my girlfriend's name is also meghan and she also claims that i'm "35 with a mortgage."

Red, i gotta give you credit though....walking away cold turkey like that takes some balls...either that, or you didnt really love her.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: lnguyen

But the other side of this story is these two "kids" really shouldn't be engaged... anyone around this age shouldn't. Young, crazy, and experimental.... well, some people anyway.

You can't say anyone shouldn't and then some people aren't.

People are more than capable of forming a lifelong marriage at even 16, if they have the mindset for it and know what they are giving up...the sacrifice involved. Many times though only one of the partners (if not neither) are ready for this kind of commitment....more often than not they are looking for the marriage as an event that is filled with fun and gifts or out to prove to their family/friends they can do it. Never does the problems of a marriage come into their minds.

Marriage is full of problems....fortunately life is also....and the benefits of a good marriage outweigh the cons. However you both have to be in the frame of mind that this person will not always be happy, will not always be healthy, may become disfigured or maimed, etc.

I call most marriages today 'fairweather friends'....as soon as the wife gets fat or the husband does, or one loses their job it's off to divorce court.

 

[DeeKnow]

i knew somebody like that once... sounds very much like a pathological liar/hypocrite.
get rid of her

what's with the pictures, by the way? is that relevant to the discussion??

 

[Alkaline5]

Originally posted by: DeeKnow
what's with the pictures, by the way? is that relevant to the discussion??

:camera:'s are relevant to any YAGT or YACT.