YAGT: (seriously) Megan is not pregnant. Our engagement is over.

[hysperion]

yagt and yact? what do they mean...apologize for my ignorance...

 

[Bowmaster]

yagt = yet another girl thread/yact = yet another car thread

 

[shiner]

Originally posted by: Alkaline5

Originally posted by: DeeKnow
what's with the pictures, by the way? is that relevant to the discussion??

:camera:'s are relevant to any YAGT or YACT.

Especially to ones about cheating whores....that way the single guys know who to look for when they go out.

 

[Judgement]

Originally posted by: shinerburke

Originally posted by: Alkaline5

Originally posted by: DeeKnow
what's with the pictures, by the way? is that relevant to the discussion??

:camera:'s are relevant to any YAGT or YACT.

Especially to ones about cheating whores....that way the single guys know who to look for when they go out.

Lucky in that they know not to date the girl or lucky in that it makes their job that much easier to know which girls to try and bring home for the night ?

 

[shiner]

Originally posted by: Judgement

Originally posted by: shinerburke

Originally posted by: Alkaline5

Originally posted by: DeeKnow
what's with the pictures, by the way? is that relevant to the discussion??

:camera:'s are relevant to any YAGT or YACT.

Especially to ones about cheating whores....that way the single guys know who to look for when they go out.

Lucky in that they know not to date the girl or lucky in that it makes their job that much easier to know which girls to try and bring home for the night ?

Makes their job easier.....

 

[imported_chrisbtx]

So Red, have you gotten the ring back yet? I haven't seen you post anything saying you have....

 

[minendo]

Originally posted by: chrisbtx
So Red, have you gotten the ring back yet? I haven't seen you post anything saying you have....

No because they are back together.

 

[shiner]

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: chrisbtx
So Red, have you gotten the ring back yet? I haven't seen you post anything saying you have....

No because they are back together.

Yep...he probably too her back and apologized for not being understanding enough.

 

[MaxDepth]

Originally posted by: isekii
what's with the same gay ass pics anyways.

 

[Allio]

It's sad that even when all the cards were on the table, and she had already admitted that the relationship was over, she wouldn't come completely clean with you about sleeping with the guy. Even though it's blindingly obvious that she did.

Did you get the ring?

 

[jazzhound]

You're both good looking people, let me just get that out of the way. Now, your ability to behave so indifferent to this rough patch in life is alarming. I mean, you've just gone through a relationship you spent 3 years building, and on the verge of consummating, but you find out your fiancee was acting a little rowdy and call it quits -- just like that. Firstly, her uncle Billy did not see what transpired, may be they had sex, may be they were just really close, but as a person who has spent the last 3 years with her, I'd say you would be a pretty good judge of character, so ask yourself if she is capable of coniving at those extremes. It's merely an observation, but I have this sneaking suspicion the relationship was on rocky grounds before this 3 week party she had.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: Allio
It's sad that even when all the cards were on the table, and she had already admitted that the relationship was over, she wouldn't come completely clean with you about sleeping with the guy. Even though it's blindingly obvious that she did.

Did you get the ring?

No offense but if the relationship is over, what she did in the bedroom is nobody else's business.

Also WTF difference would it make *really*, making out or full blown sex is going to have the same result of breaking up or not for jealous types which most are.

If people dated more they would realize how easy it is to get one 'great' relationship after another and would not be so quick to get serious with the first chick that says 'OMGHI2U' and let's them take her clothes off.

Hell over half the women I have slept with I had no mindset to see them any longer than that night/weekend/month...it was just fun and friendly. I see them around and we talk, we aren't looking to have sex again unless we are both single...some of my friends would be like 'oh man you got to keep her...blah blah blah'.

I have learned to avoid the jealous types. 5 years ago most of my women friends I had slept with at some point, my current g/f's usually knew about some of them...in general they were around the places I was so unless I wanted to change all the places I liked, I needed chicks that didn't have hang ups.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: MaxDepth

Originally posted by: isekii
what's with the same gay ass pics anyways.

If you don't post pics people complain, and when you do people complain.

 

[remagavon]

Originally posted by: Childs
One other thing, perhaps you are a bit too mature for women your age. They don't want mature now, they want it later. If you go out with a girl who has had it rough, she'll appreciate those qualities.

Same situation. It sucks.

 

[Sust]

Sucks for you, red.

However, the bright side of things is that you never legalized your unification so that avoids ugly divorce proceedings and lwayer costs. Plus, no kids which also makes things easy. You are actually quite fortunate you can get away so cleanly.

BTW, I would not see her face-to-face again. Well, I guess you have to in order to get the ring back. It sounds like you were really attached and I am willing to bet that she would try to play that card again. Don't be duped.

Live and learn.

You should also thank the uncle and say good bye to him. That was a decent thing for him to do. It's true that it was not his place to tell you, but he valued the "truth" and "doing-the-right-thing" over his own family blood ties. He's a rare character.

 

[ITJunkie]

FWIW...if you are really having that easy of a time getting over this than maybe NOT getting married is the best thing for both of you.

Personally, I feel for ya. It's tough to do go through what you're going through. Hang in there and have a beer on me :beer:

 

[imported_chrisbtx]

Originally posted by: shinerburke

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: chrisbtx
So Red, have you gotten the ring back yet? I haven't seen you post anything saying you have....

No because they are back together.

Yep...he probably too her back and apologized for not being understanding enough.

It would figure....

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: Sust

You should also thank the uncle and say good bye to him. That was a decent thing for him to do. It's true that it was not his place to tell you, but he valued the "truth" and "doing-the-right-thing" over his own family blood ties. He's a rare character.

What 'truth'? Everyone is speculating because the chick went out partying.

I have known a lot of chicks that were out almost each night, got stoned/fall down drunk yet did nothing other that kiss/make out with a few guys. Many also 'speculated' about what they did as well.

Bottom line though is either way the girl is not wrong for what she did. They weren't married and it sounded rocky to begin with. A lot of times one person is doing something the other person wants and they don't want to hurt any feelings. A lot of times this is due to guilt trips, but it doesn't have to be.

If you know things are not going well saying things like "without you I'd kill myself', getting engaged, and buying them expensive gifts is only going to prolong the inevitable.

As far as never seeing her again....that just seems kid-like. If you had some kind of brutal fight then perhaps yeah, but this just seems a growing apart. In a year or two who knows what could happen.

 

[Geekbabe]

That this woman's family decided to tell you what went on says to me that things down there were probably pretty bad.

The only advice I can offer you is based on my own experience that if they do it once chances are good they'll do it again unless there's a significant desire and effort on their part to change.People with families or in relationships of long duration might feel it worth it try to overcome something like this but I say you are young,you aren't married yet there are no kids,get your ring back and move on.

 

[Fingolfin269]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
That this woman's family decided to tell you what went on says to me that things down there were probably pretty bad.

I hadn't thought about it like that. I was looking down on the fact that the family said anything, but the way you just put it right there makes all the sense in the world.

 

[Alkaline5]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Bottom line though is either way the girl is not wrong for what she did. They weren't married and it sounded rocky to begin with. A lot of times one person is doing something the other person wants and they don't want to hurt any feelings. A lot of times this is due to guilt trips, but it doesn't have to be.

WTF, man? Bottom line is you're just speculating about what she did, too. Her family members and ex-fiance believe that she slept with this other guy and lied about it. In a serious, monogamous relationship that's wrong. If she wasn't happy in the relationship then she should have been honest about it.

Edit:grammar

 

[KarenMarie]

I joined this thread late and have not read every post, so I apologize in advance if this has been said already.

Firstly, her finances are not your concern. Her statements that she expects you to pay half her debts once you are married are telling. The next sentence about being a stay at home mom, tells me that in reality she intended to get married, not work and stick you with ALL her debts, and no doubt run up more. Her debts are hers... and if it were me, I would tell her to go to whomever she was messing around with for help paying if she needs it.

Secondly, she cheated on her last b/f. She claims that she did it because it was an abusive relationship and she wanted out. That is so illogical that it defies belief. Cheating is wrong. There is no excuse... EVER. If there is a problem in the relationship... and I dont care if it is boredom, abuse, or sexual dissatisfaction... cheating is still wrong. The thing to do it to deal with the issues at hand upfront and honestly, then break up or work it out. Cheating is inexcusable, end of story.

As far as her family telling you what is going on... well Kudos to them. They probably figure that you are a good kid and one who deserves better than to be trapped by a manipulative, cheating b!tch and put their blood ties and family relationship on the line to do the right thing. They offered her every opportunity to tell you and she lied. They must respect you and hope that by exposing her deeds, she will try to straighten out. Whether or not she actually had sex with another guy, well there is no smoke without fire, and even if she were just heavily 'petting', that is still being unfaithful to you. Unless of course you dont mind if she does that, but somehow I doubt that.

Lastly, where you go from here... She must give you the ring back. She broke your engagement when she lied to you. Get your ring back, sell it and use the money for a mini-vacation to get this out of your system. If you take her back, you are a fool and deserve whatever you get, but somehow I think you are above this. Don't lower yourself to be with a liar, a cheat and a sneak... you will hate yourself in the long run.

Cut the ties, move on and find a woman who will appreciate you.

Good Luck!

 

[isasir]

Originally posted by: Fingolfin269

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
That this woman's family decided to tell you what went on says to me that things down there were probably pretty bad.

I hadn't thought about it like that. I was looking down on the fact that the family said anything, but the way you just put it right there makes all the sense in the world.

Yeah, good point. Another point though is that, this girl was a guest in her uncle's house, but thought it was ok to make out with a guy all over his place (at least I think I read this somewhere in this thread). That's flat out rude, and is probably why her uncle had his own reasons to tell Red. If I'm having guests in my house, they better not bring random strangers over to my place, let alone make out wherever they see fit. If they want to live the life and party, I'll gladly recommend to them a good hotel.

 

[Zombie]

well, now you can sell her old flip-flops, panties and pictures all on EBAY .


and screw the ring, you could probably make a ton more by selling her stuff on ebay.

 

[Zombie]

oops, double post