Originally posted by: minendo
Originally posted by: armatron
Sucks dude... good to hear that you're over it pretty quickly.. also good to hear that something like this didn't happen later on (after marriage)
They will be back together and engaged within the next 12 hours.
Dude, I mean, I know this sounds 'young' to us, after all they are just two kids that were in an engagement that to most they seem to young to be in, but for real, it's the most they've experienced so far in terms of relationships, so stop sh!tting on him and his thread (sorry, i know it's not just you, i just replied to your post) and if you have nothing of help to him to say, don't post. The reason I say this, is that if they really thought that they were ready to get married, more power to them. And now that it's over, don't be a d!ck about it. It just adds salt to an open wound.
I guess the reason I'm defensive for Red, is that you sound like a pretty decent chap. You sound like you really do love her and were serious about your engagement, although she sounds as though she liked the idea of an engagement more than the reality of actually dealing with being in one. Thing is part of me identifies with the girl she is, because she gets herself into trouble and then suddenly, when her situation is not so palatable, she runs to you and just wants to be comforted by you (hence the "just hold me" part). I've been there (although not to the extent that your girl has), and it all comes down to the fact that I believe most girls are illogical at that age ( - I know some think they are at all ages ). I'm pretty sure she does love you a lot, but it's so easy to blow hot and cold. Honestly, if she has any sense (which I'm not too sure of given the hot pink 'J', j/k) she'll become more steady and reasoned in just a couple of years. And the worst thing is that even though she says she realises what she had now it's gone, she'll realise it ten times more a couple of years later.
I dunno, just some thoughts on your situation. I think the fact you feel bad for her is nice of you and shows that you love her, but maybe you could just give her some advice on how to deal with it (how to go about paying it off) rather than helping her financially yourself. You're so young, that's a good thing, once you get over it (or, I dunno, maybe you will get back together as minendo predicts ) either way, you'll see how silly this all looks after you've put some time in between yourself and this situation.